DD being bullied

[furiousatthebullies]

Don't want to out myself because I think several of the mums at my dds school use MN. Basically her 'friends' older boyfriend and his mates have taken a dislike to my DD and are using the friend and another few girls to indirectly bully my DD. School are aware of issues between the girls but obviously can't do anything about the older boys. I've been contacted privately by two of the girls in her year group informing me of the situation and how these idiots have been stirring up trouble on a daily basis. I haven't told my DH the full story because he would go absolutely apeshit - these lads are 17/18/19 and he would treat them as adults bullying his daughter. I don't want my DH getting in trouble but I feel wretched for not telling him.
The police aren't really an option because my DD has blocked them all from contacting her so all the name calling and rumour spreading is now coming at her via other pupils who would be very unwilling to co-operate.
I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place because I genuinely feel if my DH got involved they would leave my poor girl the fuck alone 😢
AIBU not to tell him or should I just do it and let the chips fall where they may?

MissVictoria

OP - hope it goes well with the school today.

Hope it goes well

Do you know who these men are and where they live? If so report them and the girls bullying your dd to the police anyway. If not just report the girls - maybe they'll think twice before blindly following someone again.

Great to hear you're in mama bear mode.

Good luck with today. I know its not much consolation but all parties are above the age of legal responsibility so if school aren't doing anything, the police should. Harassment is still a crime.
Plus a police incident number should give a rocket up the arse.

It looks like you're gonna have to be the squeaky wheel as well as the mama bear.

OP good luck, hope it has gone well today.

Floofborksnootandboop can I ask what you did and how it turned out, if you are willing to share.

How did it go OP?

It went okay, fucking school are quite disappointing TBH. Felt better when I heard from an acquaintance that several of the year 11 boys saw my rather scary looking DH and word spread pretty quickly. It seems that the older lads involved have been told they'd get eaten alive and told the girls to back off because they don't want him banging on their doors 😠 no grief from when we left the school so looks like word of mouth is actually helpful in this case! Can only hope it continues because I found out today that threats have been made to several other pupils for defending my DD. Horrible little bastards!

Well, lets hope the threat of a very pissed off and capable looking Dad will scare these cowardly fuckwits away from your DD and the other kids.

Here's hoping! Just goes to show how cowardly these bullies are. My DH was absolutely seething though head all red and veins bulging fingers crossed school tomorrow goes without incident. Social media tonight has been amazingly quiet and the sight of my DH seems to have made a lot of kids realise that the bullies aren't scary at all because they all seem to be speaking up and telling my DD they are sorry for what's happened to her and they will have her back in future 😉

Well school 0%, scary Furious husband, 100%.

Glad that word is spreading, those boys, and girls are shit.

Keep on building up your dd, making her feel empowered.

WELL DONE to your great dh. and to you.

But if the school lets those little fuckers get away with this shit, they need to watch out, they may move on to someone else, the school should take note and take action.

I want more people to sue their schools until there is a zero tolerance policy in place that genuinely means zero tolerance.

But I would not do this without talking to my daughter seriously and seeing if she wanted it!

www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/dad-making-legal-history-suing-7902470

Italiangreyhound I just constantly contacted the school and set up meetings with them all the time. I guess looking back I was an absolute nightmare but I didn't want to see my daughter being hurt like she was. She was given a "guardian" type teacher who she would see in the 15 minute reading time at the beginning of the first lesson after lunch every day to report anything that might have happened and just to make sure everything was okay. she was lovely and kept an eye on all my DC and still does my 14 YO that's still there, she is still in contact with DD1 too and was the biggest help. The bullying never stopped and is still happening despite her having left school now but she has always been quite a popular girl so has a lot of people around her supporting her and the college are aware of the few there that are continually picking on her.

Floofborksnootandboop fucking hell, it is still going on!

Well done to you for being a great mum. If the bullying continues can you explore some sort of non-molestation order that they cannot get with so many feet of her or something.

Sounds like the kids doing the bullying are sad fuckers.

(Just so you know I think the bullies should be thrown out of college. It is because schools and colleges and work places tolerate this shit that it happens so much. I know it is hard to prove and blah blah blah but some people are just plain nasty and should not be around others - send them all to Bully college and let them pick on each other - in the word's of Horrid Henry 'When I am King'!

Sorry to swear so fucking much, makes my blood boil!

furious how are things going?