Well maybe not quite a saga, but hopefully you'll understand. It's my first post here too, just getting to grips with everything.
Anyway...
I was looking through all the cards we'd received, the cards from school for the children, those sent by relatives. I was shocked to find on one everyone's name but mine was included.
My DC has a friend, they're really close, play together, do extra curricular activities together, they're inseparable.
Arelative picks up DC from school and DS and his friend walk home from school, whilst the adults natter to and from school.
The friends Mother is also quite friendly with DH, they text each other a fair bit.
The card was signed by the whole family, pets, everyone bar the spiders hiding in their webs. But my name was excluded.
It's my relative who picks the DC up from school, so they're well aware who I am and that I exist.
AIBU unreasonable to be a bit peeved at being missed off the card, when it was signed from the 'whole' family, pets included.
DH said he might have missed my name off the card he sent, he couldn't remember whether he sent it to the whole family or just the Mother and child. They even swapped gifts.
I know DH isn't all that complimentary about me, as he never really has been. He always finds fault no matter what.
Is that an excuse to exclude me from the card.
I know it's trivial when world events are pretty horrid, but it left me a mix of being upset and annoyed. I thought it was rather rude. All my friends included DH on their cards, without question really.
So AIBU to think the woman was being rather rude? Considering my relative got a card and present, as did DH & DC. But it was like I don't exist which quite upset me.
Family politics and the nature of the relative, means that it's hit or miss if they have a good/bad word to say about you. I know DH will definitely have been negative about me. We are told not to judge a book by its cover, but it looks like this woman has and is judging me on the views of others.
I add again I know if's trivial, but it's left me feeling quite hurt. DH doesn't seem keen on me trying to strike up a friendship with her, but regardless, I can't see any valid reasons why my name was negated.
Happy New Year to you all, wishing you a marvellous 2017.
AIBU?
Christmas Card saga...
SparkyStar84 · 03/01/2017 02:35
The card thing is not important in itself, but everything else most definitely is!
The worst bit of all is the fact that he is setting such a bad example to your dcs that they are now showing you a complete lack of respect.
WHY are you putting up with this?? 
He is rather chauvinistic
you were happy to marry and have children with this man? 
Oh wait a minute, even though he is a chauvinist, that doesn't stop him from being a great dad
100% he left your name off. Therefore she wouldn't put your name on the card incase it 'upset' him seeing as you are so horrible.
Use this incident as the turning point in your life. Stop putting up with it. If the relationship is as indifferent as it appears then think about plans for the future without him. He sounds awful.
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