My 12 yr old needs a shave

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I asked OH to talk to and encourage our 12yo son to start shaving, as he has an obvious moustache, I see this as a father/son thing.
Son got a lovely shaving kit in his stocking at Christmas, so he has everything he needs.
OH says son just needs to leave it as long as possible...wtf?!?? Is that lazy parenting or the norm?!?!

Half the female teachers at my son's school seem to have a moustache, it'd better not be legal to stop then!
Seriously though, let him shave when he wants to. It's not like he's refusing deodorant and therefore going round smelling.

I thought all boy looked forward to having the first bit of facial hair...

From my recollection they cherish the damn things...

He's a lot more developed than most of his peers.

My son was 12 in September and apart from a brief darkening of the hair on his legs there no hint of facial/underarm or any other hair appearing .... I hope that's normal for boys!

What matters more is that you have asked DH repeatedly and he is disregarding your wishes sad

Because the wishes are bonkers, you should not be dictating if your 12 year old son shaves, her DH is doing a good job protecting his son from this bonkers-ness. He's probably talked with DS, found he's not interested, and now just protecting him from the bonkers mother who wants her son to look baby faced like his friends... who knows why?

My 14yr old has a tash too.

TBH I dont like it, I feel he is too young. I got him a shaving kit and ex showed him how to shave ( I could have, have shaved more mens faces than he has had hot dinners in my job!) but he was more receptive to his dad and now he does the rest of his face but not the tash!

I have to grin and bear it, its his face

I don't think buying him a shaving kit is a problem at all, but it's totally up to him if he wants to use it.

I did consider buying my DTs one for Christmas but remembered my oldest got one, it got ignored and DH ended up using it, so I didn't bother wasting my money.

We always have razors around anyway if they do want to start (which has reminded that one of them did try and shave when he was 6, oops!)

Sirfred.. Why so wound up about mine and my husbands discussions? You may need more warmth and kindness in your life... Here's a Happy New Year for a start

Opposite issue here. DH wants it gone, I say leave as long as possible. It will only be bum fluff once!

Started at 12. He's now 14 and wants it gone now, so not mine or DH's call.

My DS1 and DS2 both have full stubble. Have done for a few years. Would love to see the school that tried to tell them they can't - presumably they would expect them to shave three times a day? Both boys are very hirsute!

Very odd that personal care stuff should not be seen as Xmas presents. Boots has gazillions of specifically marketed presents that are all to do with personal care.

I don't see why buying a shaving kit is so wrong - to me, the boy might like it as it would make him feel grown-up. I was a bit of a naive teenager, and I got hairy legs young. Mum didn't say anything about it, and I didn't think of it until another girl noticed and started teasing me. I wish my mum had suggested I started shaving them before it got noticed by the other kids, so I'm with the OP on this one.

My DS was growing a moustache at this age (now 14). DH and I just discussed it with him as and when it came up - he wasn't at all embarrassed by it. We bought him a rechargeable electric shaver and left it up to him. He often shaves it all off, but is currently sporting bum fluff a very cool moustache and goatee.

I don't think it's a big deal to be honest, just discuss it in the same way you'd discuss which socks he likes wearing.

It's a myth that shaving makes hair grow thicker and faster - it just makes the ends blunt so it feels more prickly. I wish my DM had chatted to me about dealing with my tache when I was a teen (I'm a girl) as I ended up shaving it off in desparation and it took years to get it sorted so that I could have it waxed/threaded. I don't think buying a shaving kit for Christmas is awful as a stocking filler.

I keep reading this thread title as my 12 year old needs a slave....I guess some 12 years do think that way

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