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Horrified watching my aunt prepare today's lunch...

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user1477282676 · 02/01/2017 09:35

Just checking that I'm not being super sensitive! Was at MIL's today for lunch...Aunt was in charge of potatoes which were to be boiled and covered in garlic, butter and herbs.

Lovely.

Except...not.

I had to watch her as she put the butter etc in and using a selection of utensils, repeatedly lick them after she'd stirred the potatoes...and then plunge them into the potatoes again....good stir....back into the butter dish...more licking...back into the potatoes...then back into the butter...another good lick.

Boak.

She then, coughed into the pot for good measure.

Shock

This is a bit lighthearted by the way....she's not in her dotage or anything...60 years old and perfectly together...she knew I was sititng there watching.

I had been looking forward to a nice spud! I had to refuse them and eat meat and salad!

What gets INTO some people?

OP posts:
TwentyViginti · 04/12/2020 09:39

Something like why when humans are happy to lick each other's bumholes do they send back a dirty fork in a restaurant?

Personally, I don't lick bumholes in restaurants. I know not everyone shares my high standards though.

dottiedodah · 04/12/2020 09:43

Surely licking a spoon and trying out someones food (who has been kind enough to cook for you) is nice ,just homely really .OK wouldnt want this in a Restaurant obv ,but Aunties are a different breed surely?

BrummyMum1 · 04/12/2020 09:45

How did this thread change from licking spoons to licking bumholes 😂

Cheeseandwin5 · 04/12/2020 09:47

it sounds disgusting and I hate to add that assuming this is not the first time you have ate your Aunts food, than you have already consumed a fair amount of her salvia and germs already.

Sparklingbrook · 04/12/2020 09:52

@BrummyMum1

How did this thread change from licking spoons to licking bumholes 😂
My fault. It was a bit tenuous but somehow related, and as I was back on this Zombie thread I thought I'd share. Grin They kind of have a point though. Grin
TwentyViginti · 04/12/2020 10:03

@BrummyMum1

How did this thread change from licking spoons to licking bumholes 😂
It's the MN way innit.
pessimistiquerealistique · 04/12/2020 10:09

I take a clean tea spoon every time I try my cooki for salt etc.

evilharpy · 04/12/2020 10:12

I'm a bit shocked by the people saying you'd be horrified by what goes on in restaurant kitchens... I'm an ex-chef and in every restaurant I worked in I'd be given a massive bollocking for blowing, double dipping etc etc. In one place where the head chef was very fastidious we had a massive stash of plastic "tasting spoons" reserved for chefs to use to taste sauces etc which were then thrown straight into the wash. Smudges on plates were cleaned with a damp tea towel, not a licked finger.

That said, we did used to mix massive batches of chocolate mousse with our hand/arm as it was much more efficient than trying to use utensils... but we did wash first!

I shall try not to think about what goes on in the restaurants I haven't worked in!

Chottie · 04/12/2020 10:22

Some of these comments are just gross, absolutely gross.........

toomuchtooold · 04/12/2020 10:27

I'm a bit shocked by the people saying you'd be horrified by what goes on in restaurant kitchens... I'm an ex-chef and in every restaurant I worked in I'd be given a massive bollocking for blowing, double dipping etc etc

I was just coming on to say that. My mum ran a school kitchen (which admittedly probably needs even higher standards of hygiene as it's serving small children) and she would never have used a spoon for tasting twice or anything like that. She was really fastidious, surfaces wiped down with a cloth soaked in near boiling water, separate chopping boards for meat and veg, that sort of thing. I don't match her hygiene standards in the rest of my house sadly but I do still cut chicken in my kitchen with the same level of care as if I was defusing a dirty bomb Grin

NewToRenting · 04/12/2020 10:33

I keep a clean bowl and spoon on the counter, and every time I need to taste, I dollop a tiny bit in (using the cooking spoon). So no double dipping, and no taking out loads of spoons.
Licking and double dipping is probably safe as long as food is cooked really well afterwards...but it's rank! Those who say it's no big deal, would you still be ok if she stuck her finger in her nose, and then stuck it in the ( to be cooked really well) food? For me, it's not germ phobia, but just a 'yuk' factor.
After all, I might lick someone's bumhole by choice but wouldn't lick their toilet seat Grin.

OrraBoralis · 04/12/2020 10:57

mycatwantstokillme1 Mon 02-Jan-17 12:16:36
OP, engage your brain... I'm not psychic so how would I know you were in Australia? Given the amount of winds up on here this sounded like one to me.

I can see that one of your new years resolutions wasn't to stop being so condescending!

FFS @my cat, you started troll hunting and now are getting salty because you were made to look like a fool, just give it up eh?

tara66 · 04/12/2020 11:45

Please STOP licking - I cannot read these posts - makes me feel sick. We were taught at school not to do it.

Sparklingbrook · 04/12/2020 11:51

@OrraBoralis

mycatwantstokillme1 Mon 02-Jan-17 12:16:36 OP, engage your brain... I'm not psychic so how would I know you were in Australia? Given the amount of winds up on here this sounded like one to me.

I can see that one of your new years resolutions wasn't to stop being so condescending!

FFS @my cat, you started troll hunting and now are getting salty because you were made to look like a fool, just give it up eh?

They may well have given it up after nearly 4 years. Grin
TheDowagerDuchess · 04/12/2020 12:19

I find it really gross. Also double dipping Envy

My Mum has been known to done these things...

Dohrehmee · 04/12/2020 12:45

If I’m
Tasting I use a clean spoon and then put in in the sink . I use a fresh spoon to taste again.

123becauseicouldntthinkofone · 04/12/2020 13:29

Thats as bad as a double dip of a dorito ha ha. Always have to tell my OH off as he gets a spoon tests something in the slow cooker. i am like a ninja as soon as i hear that drawer open i am straight in the kitchen with my eagle eye :)

Twiddlet · 04/12/2020 13:29

My ex’s mum once prepared prawns by not washing her hands even though she had long nails and rings on, putting them on a dirty worktop, peeling off the shells with her fingers and then wiping the wet prawn juice from her fingers onto her skirt and then handling them again to put them all in a bowl for everyone to share. I did not have any prawns.

blackkitty1234 · 04/12/2020 15:23

I only make food for myself and DH now, but I would never reuse the same spoon if I was doing a ‘taste test’. And DH is the least fussiest man on the planet. Still wouldn’t do it.

I don’t think some people understand how gross this is for other people. I know some people don’t care but some of us really do kind.

That reminds me. I used to be a support worker, and one of the women there was so gross. She used to lick the spoon, if she was preparing a chicken she would continuously pick at it with her hands when carving, she was always popping out for a smoke and never washed her hands upon returning and would go straight into making the tea. One day she used a tea towel to mop up the blood from a meat joint and put the tea towel right back on the oven door. Never mind leaving her dirty tissues lying around the kitchen. Shudder. It’s bad because she was a paid member of staff just like me.

Ivy455 · 04/12/2020 15:31

I do this when making food for my partner (he doesn't care) but wouldn't do it if cooking for others,

GlomOfNit · 05/12/2020 00:20

Wow, some people are REALLY fastidious! Grin How on earth did we all survive the Stone Age? I wouldn't do this if I were cooking for other people (non-family people) or outside my household at the corona-moment, but I taste while I'm cooking and probably do some double-dipping (the food in the pot is HOT, it's going to kill bacteria). Nobody has died. I wouldn't do it while baking for people outside the family but this is how people who enjoy actually tasting how their cooking's going do things. I'd far rather someone tasted what they were cooking for me than just fling stuff in the pot and assume it tasted ok.

frewer · 05/12/2020 15:52

Switched on TV this morning and there was James Martin sucking his fingers before picking up cooked food, fish I think, and arranging it on a plate. He did sort of wiggle his fingers and blow on them after he sucked them, which presumably killed any germs, so that was reassuring.

Nowstrong · 05/12/2020 16:59

@DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen

You'd be horrified in a professional kitchen.
You shouldn't be....
Bella43 · 05/12/2020 17:30

Confused I love my food but I couldn't eat a meal knowing someone's had their gob around it. The cough would throw me over the edge.

Cheeseandwin5 · 10/12/2020 16:49

This post needs to be taken down cause not only is it giving me nightmares it is making me physically sick at the thought of it!
I feel so sorry for you OP- I am not sure I could get that image out of my head.

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