Wedding Seating Arrangments

[MrsMoore2803]

Although my name on here is "Mrs" I am actually currently engaged not yet married. My parents divorced when I was 15 and they both have partners. I get on alright with my mums boyfriend but I really dislike my dads girlfriend. She's just so boring and has to know what is going on in any conversation etc. I know that she will want to expect to sit on the top table at my wedding and I don't want her there. Obviously my dad and mum will be sitting on the top table. What should I do about dads girlfriend? AIBU to make her sit with the other guests and have my mums boyfriend sit on the top table? Both of them have children as well so should how would you do this?

Thank you!!

If both your parents partners have children and they are also invited to the wedding, then sit them together at a lower table. Mum and dad on top table.

Don't have a top table! They're a ridiculous tradition and it clearly doesn't work for you! We had 1 long table, no seating plan, and everyone just sat where they liked. DH and I choose to sit with siblings and friends on the day

You really don't sound very nice about her and her 'kid'

If you're getting married maybe it's time to grow up a bit and accept that, for whatever reason, she makes your dad happy, fake laugh and all

I would expect a 16 year old to find me boring, as I'm an old fart in my 40's but you're in your mid 20's now. Time to move on from whatever chip is festering on your shoulder.

And don't even get me started on her kid ;)

You sound like you haven't grown up yourself tbh.

What a nasty way to talk about someone.

Oh dear OP, you haven't done yourself any favours the more you've posted.

I got married last week. DH and I had a top table for 2, no arguments about who sits where and we got to spend some time together just us. Was lovely.

Our mums, dads, step this, step that were all kept separate to keep the peace

Oh I've just seen your update. You're pretty rude about her, you'll probably do her a favour by not sitting near her.

Imagine if your dad spoke about your husband to be like that, it's been 10yrs, time to get over it.....

have to agree with others, you sound jealous and bitter, this woman has done nothing horrible to you, and has made your dad happy

your dad loves her, so to keep the peace/act like a grown up and not a spoilt teenager and be civil to her

what is wrong with her child?

i will have to fight for my dads attention

no you wont, he will walk you down the aisle, and prob do a dads speech

thats what fathers of the bride do

the rest of the day is yes about you, but also your guests enjoyment

We had 3 "top tables" all on a slightly higher level. One for divorced Mum and divorced FiL. One for divorced Dad and divorced MiL plus her husband. The rest on those tables were their generation. On our table we had best man, bridesmaids etc - people our own age.

It worked very well.

So I have just read over my last comment and I take it back. It sounds awfully bratty and bitchy. I know this is no excuse but I am currently pregnant with twins and I was just having a bad day (hormones mixed with stress mixed with work arguments. My opinion of her has definitely improved during the 10 years I have known her. And tbh I haven't told you all other reasons about why I dislike her because they are extremely personal and things I don't really want to have to write down (especially in this hormonal state). I have my reasons but maybe I expressed them in the wrong way.

well hang on now, relationships go both ways, it's not just OP involved - her dads partner has also had ten years to make this good and hasn't, it's really unfair to call OP immature and bitter. My fils wife sounds similar to OPs dads partner and can't understand why dh doesn't like her - she's never been nice to him! Well done for sucking it up and putting her with dad - he'll be grateful and that's the important thing eh

Ignoring all the posts about your relationship and back to the original question, i would say that, venue layout permitting there is an easy answer to this.

Have an extra long traditional straight top table (not the more modern round version) and just put her right on the very end with your dad next to her. She will be really quite far away from you and only next to him so can't annoy anyone! Better than her alone on another table, annoying family and friends this way she's ' 'contained'.