Is it unreasonable to ask DH to stop saying he is full or tired

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I think he just says it for something to say but while I'm not saying it's the worst thing in the world it's really really irritating.

Today there was a roast veg thing for lunch and he ate it followed by pudding.
"Ohhh I'm so full ... Oh I'm STUFFED ... Oh I couldn't eat another bite ... I'm so full."

I said tersely in the end "you know no one held you down at gunpoint and made you eat it!"

Then the I'm tired starts, I'm tired, I'm so tired, I'm exhausted.

He says I say I am tired and I do but in response to something, like if he wants to to something I might say I am tired but I don't just walk around announcing I am tired!

AIBU? I don't know why it annoys me so much!

Mine is in a bit of a sulk and not talking to me if he can avoid it. I thought that was annoying but after reading this thread I am not so sure. At least it is quiet here, perhaps I should try to enjoy it. I might spend the quiet time checking to see if I have any of these annoying habits myself!

My mil is like this! I play mental bingo with her sayings ; " I am exhausted", " That is soo expensive, I wouldn't waste my money " God is good" " We are blessed", "How much?" "My son is a wonderful provider", "Tea", and now I have added trump to the list as she thinks he is great, dosy mare!

Nice to 'see' you Hope your boys are doing well.

Glad to see the clouds aren't actually, really dangerous then!

The "T" word is banned in our house, as is the "S" word (stress). I get those long, tedious, technical explanations of things to which I just say "I've stopped listening" or after a really long one "yes dear"

Dp doesnt do that but he does ask me questions constantly during tv programmes/films. Why is Sherlock doing that? How did he figure that out? Does John know he's in there? FUCKING WATCH IT AND FIND OUT!

mellowfartfulness OMG yes. I actually only have a lodger but he does this. He also does this REALLY fucking annoying thing where he constantly wanders around sort of sighing in a pained manner and stretching, in a way that seems designed to prompt me to ask if he is maybe a bit sore, and maybe would like a massage or something. Except that it's every 2 bloody minutes. And he's my lodger and I find him physically repellent.

Also, he has this grim MAN smell. I thought it was just me being unreasonable but a friend came to stay and slept over in his room (with new sheets, and with his permission) and she also commented on the MAN smell. Ugh.

he has this grim MAN smell
is it that dirty hair smell? I seem to smell it more on men than women.
Or something else Fern?

Ew if he's gross don't offer to massage him 😷

I dont think massage is actually on the menu Joyful :o
(or should that be on the table :o)

Hecate, are you the Hecate? Jaysus, all we need now is for GetOrf to come back and it'll be a big old family reunion .

Oh, you are . Hello old pal! Hope you're keeping well.

Hecate - my husband must have a secret twin.

Me: "How much did the shopping come to?"
Him: "Well, the potatoes were £2.50 and then I saw this offer on frozen sprouts and the Coco Pops were £3.75 and the toilet roll was..."

and

Me: "I think it might rain."
Him: takes out phone "The BBC site says no, but this other site says there might be a 42.5% chance of some drizzle around 4pm, but this other site says...blah blah blah..."
(All without so much as glancing outside)

I grind my teeth in my sleep, now...

This reminds me of my mom-type. We used to always drive by this one house that had a beautifully-installed wheelchair ramp. Every time we went by it EVERY. TIME. she'dd say, "I just love how they integrated that ramp so nicely with the rest of the landscaping!" One time I managed to jump in and say it before she had a chance and she gave me such a stricken look that I never did it again.

Subtitles were invented for blotting out background noise.

Sometimes he doesn't even notice I've clicked them on for a whole programme.

I HATE the phrase 'I'm stuffed.' I just find it really uncouth. Why the need to announce to everyone at the table that you've completely overeaten to the point of feeling uncomfortable?

I do on occasion overeat and I might mumble 'Oh dear that was stupid, I am too full now. When will I learn?' but to sit back and say loudly 'I'm stuffed!' makes me want to stab them in the eye with my giant meat fork.

If they belch loudly as well then it's ruined my day.

Do these performers of tiredness, fullness, having exercised, wondering about things etc do it when no-one else is there?

Could you secretly watch or film them - see if they do pause, grimace, gesticulate at least (even if not talking)?

Do they acknowledge not having an audience? Look confused, or unsure what to do next? Or just sensibly get on with things?

CoolCarrie, that is so funny! I'm going to try that with my nightmare mil. My card would be full of her attempts to make dds and me interpret her ds's selfish behaviour as something else, but all would begin with .......poor ds!
He also hums incessantly all round the house. It's very loud and wakes me up if I've just gone asleep.
Last moan, when we're watching a film, he gives a running commentary on lighting, camera angles, character developments, how he would have directed it differently, etc. It drives us all mad!

Getting any conversation out of DH can be like getting blood out of a stone, but I might still have to bump him off if he ever retires.

On a very rare walk out with my DH, he pointed out where we're going to move to when we retire! I'm wondering how long I can stay married to him right now, never mind retire with him!

My mil is incapable of watching a TV programme or film without commenting on everything and then asking us what happened? We can't bloody hear what the actors say half the time, due to her! I need to explain the plots etc to her and then she tends to fall asleep anyway! I never sit beside her ever if she is visiting and we go to the cinema! Once was quite enough!

YADNBU. My ex was like this-constantly complaining of being tired. Yet refusing to do anything about it (taking a night off football/running/xbox, doing less hours at work, having drink free nights, going to bed early)

It got to stage where people asked him how he was and he said: 'oh just tired, you know'.

He could have slept 12plus hours a.night and still complained of being tired.

There was nothing medically wrong with him. I just think it was habit

I did snap in the end stating that no one could be that tired all the time.

It was one of the first in a very long list of things that eventually led to him being my ex.

Sorry not a very positive post but to summarise YADNBU and you are not alone.

You could always try the intrusively- and overly-interested response technique:

"I'm so tired..."

"You are? You've been saying that a lot lately. How long have you felt this way? Do you feel this way often? I heard that constant tiredness can be a symptom of depression. Do you feel depressed? Is it just a sleepy sort of tired, or more like a chronic fatigue sort of thing? Oh, god, what if it's narcolepsy or something?! Maybe we should get you checked out. No, wait, don't go, just tell me, on a scale of one to ten, one being 'tired like it's a Sunday morning and I just don't want to get out of bed yet,' five being 'tired like I just had an orgasm and want to roll over and fall asleep now,' and ten being 'tired like I took a dexedrine and drove for three days straight and the dexedrine has just this moment worn off,' where exactly would you rate your level of tiredness? Honey?"

And so on. Do this every single time he says he's tired. Modify for stuffedness. Works like a charm.