Is it unreasonable to ask DH to stop saying he is full or tired

[cherrycrumblecustard]

I think he just says it for something to say but while I'm not saying it's the worst thing in the world it's really really irritating.

Today there was a roast veg thing for lunch and he ate it followed by pudding.
"Ohhh I'm so full ... Oh I'm STUFFED ... Oh I couldn't eat another bite ... I'm so full."

I said tersely in the end "you know no one held you down at gunpoint and made you eat it!"

Then the I'm tired starts, I'm tired, I'm so tired, I'm exhausted.

He says I say I am tired and I do but in response to something, like if he wants to to something I might say I am tired but I don't just walk around announcing I am tired!

AIBU? I don't know why it annoys me so much!

Mine always has to catastrophise everything. Drives me nuts.

Minor inconveniences like no spare toilet paper is a "disaster*

As is the cat infiltrating one of the cat-banned areas of the house.

He obsessively closes doors & curtains all the fucking time

Closes doors to keep any smells contained, or STINKS as he calls them - like normal cooking smells that would clear quickly with a couple of opened doors & windows not allowed to open windows - too cold, I mean FREEZING

Shuts curtains all the time so the house looks like a load of depressed weirdos live here I've been trying to show off my sparkly Christmas tree to the neighbours

Closes internal doors to reduce (TERRIBLE LOUD) noise from other people quietly watching / listening to things yet has Top Gear repeats on at top volume He even pops his head round the door to see how you are to give himself an excuse to close said door when he goes out DS & I open them again

I'm the one whose bloody well exhausted

I have an ex best friend who does the 'stream of consciousness' thing. She has to talk, usually about nothing - whatever comes into her (rather empty head) comes out of her mouth. 'It'll be a nice day tomorrow, if it doesn't rain'.

Drove me insane!

YANBU. I had a habit of saying "Oh I'm tired" and DH said it drove him potty. I realised it's annoying and stopped!

Ex used to stuff himself stupid then moan for hours about how full & uncomfortable he was. Don't bloody stuff yourself then!!! Ds is going the same way unfortunately...

YADNBU 'I'm so tired' really my love? Try doing what I do in a day! Lol

DH: Did I ever tell you about the time....
Me: Yes, several times
DH: Well what happened was.....
Me:
DH (5 mins later): You're not listening to me are you? Why not?

My husband is an early riser. I am not.
To me - every minute in bed is precious in the mornings. If I can have a lie in, I lie in until I absolutely have to get up.

He has to be up at 5.30am for work, but on days off he still wakes up at this time (he says his stomach rumbling wakes him up).
Instead of just getting up and having his breakfast he yawns loudly for about 20 minutes. Loud, exaggerated yawning.
He denies all knowledge of this, it's so bloody annoying.
If I tell him off mid yawn, he says "oh I'm not allowed to yawn now".
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Oh go, I hate the exaggerated yawning!! Drives me potty!!!

Def a xmas hols thing , I find this the worst holiday for annoying habits.

DH annoying me immensely this evening ...... from conversations about bin collections (he's only just realised the food bin is collected weekly, despite this going on for 2+ years). Questions about teen DDs friends, one has an unusual name but he still asks which friend she means, as though there's loads of them. he's ordering a friend a 50th birthday present at the moment online and has just asked what year he was born in FFS

hecate (are you the hecate??) Why are cumulonimbi so dangerous? I feel I need to be warned...

I hate it when people don't close room doors in a house especially when cooking. I hate the bedroom filling with cooking. I wouldn't like an open plan house. Moaning for the sake of it is annoying. If you're tired go to bed

cherry I hate to be the one to break it to you, but it might not be all that long before your DH begins to take more than a passing interest in cleaning out guttering...

Ha ha, I just came in to mention the annoyance of performance yawning. You're tired? Go to bed. Stop demanding attention by demonstrating, loudly, in a manner that imposes upon everyone else in the room, that you are a little bit tired!

I think what your DH is doing is similar OP - performing, for attention.

That's ok in a social situation where everyone is performing for each others' entertainment to an extent. One to one, when you'd rather be doing or thinking about something else and are not 'in conversation', it's attention seeking - 'no, stop thinking about something else, or doing something you like, focus your attention on me, me, me!'

Yanbu. This would piss me off no end. Only because it would sound like he is moaning and I cannot bear moaners. I'm a solutions person, so cannot bear to listen to people whinging just for the sake of it. Your post did make me laugh though, sorry.

The thought of retirement with my DH and his habits terrifies me...

I have one that drives me batty about temperature.
So he'll have nipped to shop/car/bin "oooh it's a bit nippy out there" YES BECAUSE IT IS WINTER IN BLOODY ENGLAND.

"Phew its a bit hot today" WE ARE IN SPAIN IN JULY/AUGUST. I'd be pissed off if it wasn't.
Each of these repeated a couple of times a day/hour/minute/millisecond 😣
I may have snapped on a couple of occasions which takes him by surprise.

I've noticed that a lot of women either take up new hobbies or start doing voluntary work that gets them out of the house when their husbands retire. I reckon it's either that, or divorce or murder.

I'm tired, you're tired. We're all fucking tired, but we don't go on about it all the fucking time.

Apologies to In Bruges.

hecate I actually LOLLED at your post

My husband IS retiring this month. He likes to say he is SOOOOOO thirsty, he is DESPERATE for a drink when drinks are freely available all the time in the house but he cannot just get up and get some water from the tap he has to say "I AM DESPERATE FOR A DRINK, SOOOOO THIRSTY!!!" in a voice straight out of the Monty Python man in desert sketch. Not being comical, just likes the drama.

I too get the "What's THAT SMELL?!!!", "YUK!! I can't eat that" (hates rice, chicken, pasta, vegetables, olive oil, margarine, fish that doesn't come battered from the chip shop and so on). If we have a six pack of toilet rolls, if you remove one from the pack he says "there's 5 toilet rolls left". constantly asks if I am going shopping so he can have more toilet rolls. When I say do we need anything from the shops will reel off a list of things he wants but will never go to the shops himself.

Oh god.

My OH can go all day without talking to me and then blurt out something totally baffling.

I have now refused to watch Homes Under the Hammer with him ever again. Every.single.time a house sells he says 'HOW MUCH?? that is really cheap!!!'
YES because this show was filmed in 2009 and that house is in Bradford ffs (we live in London).

My Oh has started to Pum-de-pum as he walks between rooms.

He is getting to a certain age and I think he does it to prove to himself and us that he is still alive.

My DH, when asked what he fancies for dinner, invariably says "roast haunch of DD". EVERY FUCKING NIGHT. We have to go through the ritual of the dad joke before we can have a simple fucking conversation about food.

He also runs, and when he comes in from a run he strides around the house blowing out his breath in a great pffffff noise and making exaggerated grunty sounds. For like fifteen minutes afterwards. He's not out of breath still, he's loudly performing the role of Man Who Has Recently Exercised.

Aaargh.

Furrylittletwerp my DH also gets inexplicable rage when the cat ventures into his man only zones. It's truelly bizarre as are the application of consequences when there is an infringement of the rules "right she's not allowed to sit on the sofa for the rest of the day she knows she not allowed upstairs" has anyone ever tried explaining to a cat who is normally allowed to sleep on the sofa that they can't until tomorrow because they broke the rules?

When I'm bored I like to send him photos at work of said cat blatantly going wherever she pleases.

Human only not his man only