AIBU to ask my husband to leave

[Mrsonion123]

Am I being unreasonable I think I'm going insane!

My husband of 5 years has packed his things and is leaving in the morning

I feel absolutely sick stomach in knots

We can't agree on anything
He blames me for everything
He has told me he nearly joined a dating site because of the lack of affection
He said if he stays with me he will be dead in 5 years because he will drink himself to death

He has started lashing out at stuff around our house

He says I need to have consequences for my actions

He started smoking because of how stressed I am making him

I don't work he does and he said I need to get my dog put down because I can't afford to pay the insurance

He says I have no idea how much my actions affect him personally and it's my fault if we argue that he does nothing at work that day

Sorry this is just a rambling of stuff 😩😩😩

No he doesn't blame me for the diabetes but he blames me when we argue he says he doesn't look after himself so that's my fault.

We need a break and help if we don't have that we can't move forward

Thanks for everyone's input

Frustration over L ids, blood sugars, whatever. Neither depression nor diabetes make you smash things up in a fit of rage (I'm guessing it's never his stuff he smashes?)

It's rage as a performance, to keep you in line. "See, I came so close to losing it, I broke something. I didn't physically hurt you. But I could have. But I didn't. This time anyway."

Keep that in mind before even considering taking him back in the future, OP. It rarely calms down once it begins.

Blaming you for his drinking and smoking is not on- is his responsibility whether he puts these things in his mouth, not yours, never yours. If he drinks himself to death, no one roost out the drink in his mouth. Trying to blame you for these behaviours alone could be considered abusive.

Do you have any RL support, friends and family who you can talk to about separating?

"Having a mental health problem" doesn't equal "being a prick". You can be mentally ill and, quite separately, also be a prick, but one rarely causes the other

This with bells on.