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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think about keeping the cash?!

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WobbleYourHead · 01/01/2017 10:18

OK, the answer is probably yes but then I need to work out how to approach this...

I worked in my cousin's bar last night as a favour as staff had let them down & as such I wasn't drinking. A friend of mine posted on Facebook a couple of days ago saying that they were desperate for a taxi NYE but couldn't find one & could anyone recommend anyone. I text her and said if you're really stuck let me know and I'll pick you up after my shift. A conversation followed along the lines of "don't want to take advantage, are you sure?" etc and then she phoned mid afternoon just to check I really was OK with it. All good so far.

She mentioned giving me some money for it, I was expecting something like £10 to cover petrol, £20 if she were feeling generous but in all honesty it was more about not seeing a mate stranded in the early hours.

Anyway, come 2am I finally managed to get to them (my mates new boyfriend who I've not met was with her). When I dropped them off she said "Bob's got something for you, just take what he gives you" so I did, said thanks, happy new year etc and shoved it in my pocket.

When I've got home and checked there's a £20 note wrapped really tightly around some other notes and when I unroll there's £100!! My issue is that this is way too much and I'm not sure they even realise what they've given me as they were absolutely hammered a bit tipsy.

I want to give some of it back but don't know how to approach it, wwyd?

Sorry it's long, didn't want to drip feed & needed to give context!

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Witchend · 01/01/2017 10:20

No, that sounds like they intended to give it to you. You have lovely friends.

SenoritaViva · 01/01/2017 10:20

I'd check that he meant to give you that much and that it wasn't accidental.

DollyPlastic · 01/01/2017 10:21

I would call and say they've given you way too much, if they insist you keep it, keep it.

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 01/01/2017 10:23

Just message them and say you'll only be taking 20 quid and how can you get the rest back to them. Say it and mean it

Salmotrutta · 01/01/2017 10:25

Just text and ask if it was a mistake.

Spam88 · 01/01/2017 10:27

Yeah I would give it back, just get in touch and say it's far too much.

2014newme · 01/01/2017 10:27

Keep it.

Helloitsme87 · 01/01/2017 10:28

'Bobs got something for you, just take what he gives you'
Yup thy meant to give you £100. Just message your cousin and say it's way too much and hopefully she should be you reassurance in the sober light of day. Enjoy. Happy new year

MillionToOneChances · 01/01/2017 10:29

just take what he gives you

Sounds like they knew it was too much and wanted you to have it anyway. Enjoy.

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WobbleYourHead · 01/01/2017 10:32

Hello my cousin is the bar owner. The cash came from my mate's boyfriend, I picked them up from a house party after I'd finished work.

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znaika · 01/01/2017 10:34

Bob's got something for you= on purpose. You are a kind hearted friend and they value your kindness. Happy new year and keep it !!!

Therealloislane · 01/01/2017 10:35

It's notoriously difficult to get a taxi on NYE so they probably did mean you to have it all.

GerardNoWay · 01/01/2017 10:37

Sounds to me like they fully intended to give you that amount, judging by what your friend said. The fact that it was wrapped up so tightly so you couldn't see it and refuse it also suggests they thought you would say it's too much.

Obviously if you think it's a mistake just ask. If they say they only meant to give you £20, then give it back. If they insist then keep it and enjoy.

It was a very kind thing for you to do on NYE and they seemed genuinely worried about taking advantage of you.

ClarissaDarling · 01/01/2017 10:39

I think they meant it. If they were at a house party they'll have saved significantly on a NYE night out out!

MrsExpo · 01/01/2017 10:39

Bob sounds like a thoroughly decent bloke to me. Your mate's got a good one there . I would text or call and politely make "far too much" noises, but if they say it's ok, then keep it and enjoy.

TheGruffaloMother · 01/01/2017 10:41

I'd arrange to give most of it back to Bob. I'm the type of tit who'd mean to give you £100 extra while drunk. Then sober me would wonder what the shit drunk me thought she was playing at. And may well be cursing myself for giving you money that should have been going on bills.

TrustySnail · 01/01/2017 10:42

If you took them quite a long way, £100 might not be far short of what they'd have paid for a taxi at inflated NYE rates (depending on the going rates in your locality). It sounds as though they meant you to have the money, but if you feel uneasy about accepting it, text your friend along the lines of 'I've just discovered Bob gave me a roll of banknotes last night - I was only expecting £10!' and see how she replies.

LotsoNumbers · 01/01/2017 10:53

I'd have to say something personally I wouldn't just assume they meant to give you so much

RandomDent · 01/01/2017 10:53

You are lovely (favour for cousin and friend on NYE!) and so are your friends. Happy New Year :)

WilburIsSomePig · 01/01/2017 10:57

How far did you take them? That's a lot of dosh for a lift home, I'd be worried it was a mistake so would get in touch to check.

80sMum · 01/01/2017 11:00

If that's what your friend said, then it was a thank you gift, OP. I think they intended for you to have it.

Manumission · 01/01/2017 11:01

It sounds deliberate but I'd give half back unless it wa a really long journey or majorly out of your way.

Mindtrope · 01/01/2017 11:01

"Bob's got something for you, just take what he gives you"

I'd accept it.

Blu · 01/01/2017 11:02

How far, and how long did it take, your whole detour included?

I know a taxi on Christmas night for a 35-40 min trip was £90 for members of my family.

lilybetsy · 01/01/2017 11:04

YADNU, you offered to do a favour for a friend, who sounds likes she and her partner really appreciated it. I have done something like this (as the giver) ... and I meant it, because I was so grateful to the person who put themselves out for me . Keep it 😀

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