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AIBU?

To think about keeping the cash?!

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WobbleYourHead · 01/01/2017 10:18

OK, the answer is probably yes but then I need to work out how to approach this...

I worked in my cousin's bar last night as a favour as staff had let them down & as such I wasn't drinking. A friend of mine posted on Facebook a couple of days ago saying that they were desperate for a taxi NYE but couldn't find one & could anyone recommend anyone. I text her and said if you're really stuck let me know and I'll pick you up after my shift. A conversation followed along the lines of "don't want to take advantage, are you sure?" etc and then she phoned mid afternoon just to check I really was OK with it. All good so far.

She mentioned giving me some money for it, I was expecting something like £10 to cover petrol, £20 if she were feeling generous but in all honesty it was more about not seeing a mate stranded in the early hours.

Anyway, come 2am I finally managed to get to them (my mates new boyfriend who I've not met was with her). When I dropped them off she said "Bob's got something for you, just take what he gives you" so I did, said thanks, happy new year etc and shoved it in my pocket.

When I've got home and checked there's a £20 note wrapped really tightly around some other notes and when I unroll there's £100!! My issue is that this is way too much and I'm not sure they even realise what they've given me as they were absolutely hammered a bit tipsy.

I want to give some of it back but don't know how to approach it, wwyd?

Sorry it's long, didn't want to drip feed & needed to give context!

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girlelephant · 01/01/2017 20:35

Awww how lovely and it would seem not drunken generosity! Hope you spend it on a treat

Farmmummy · 01/01/2017 20:22

Such a lovely message for you to get op, shows you are really appreciated. There actually are some genuine people left in the world!

ny20005 · 01/01/2017 19:38

Aww that's lovely !

987flowers · 01/01/2017 19:35

Slightly off topic but have you heard of these micro loans?

www.lendwithcare.org/

If you wanted to do something with some of the money.

Please make sure you treat yourself too!

MrsMattBomer · 01/01/2017 19:26

dowhatnow

I didn't say all - just a little bit. OP said she was thinking of ways to pay it forward, I suggested one. Personally, I think spending £10 that could make 100 lives better (by buying things like 28p shampoo) would be a pretty good use of a tenner if she wanted to do something good with some of the money.

hibouhibou · 01/01/2017 18:41

OP don't feel guilty for receiving that money. You do what YOU want to do with it.

Can't actually believe some would give it back.

dowhatnow · 01/01/2017 16:51

I don't think Bob wanted it to go to charity; i think he wanted the op to benefit from it.

MrsMattBomer · 01/01/2017 16:33

If you want to pay it forward a bit, you could do worse than to spend a little bit on things like sanitary products and treats and donate them to your local food bank. It's the busiest time of the year and often people forget about hygiene products, and even a bottle of shower gel could make someone's day when they're down on their luck.

Just a thought!

MrsMattBomer · 01/01/2017 16:31

Yes, definitely sounds like a gift to me. If you want to be sure, just ask.

Something similar happened with us -we'd been trying to arrange transport back from something one night and a friend came miles to help us and we slipped him £150 because it was Boxing night and he'd been at work all day - lovely man, proud to call him a friend.

The way it was phrased sounds like they knew how much they were giving you.

Suzytwoshoes · 01/01/2017 14:35

Aww this is lovely! I shed my first new year tear! The world does need more people like you.. and bob!

Packergator · 01/01/2017 14:29

Haven't rtft but I'd keep it regardless because I am brassic and if they're well off enough to 'misplace' £100 then they obviously have far too much money!

WobbleYourHead · 01/01/2017 14:27

spookle I was just thinking about ways to pay it forward!

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TaliDiNozzo · 01/01/2017 14:20

Oh that's sweet!

Spookle · 01/01/2017 13:40

Aww, what a lovely thread to read from you helping everyone OP to the genorosity of your friends.

You could always pay a bit forward to a good cause if you wanted to spread the happiness.

Olympiathequeen · 01/01/2017 13:15

Gosh! You and your fiends have restored my faith in humanity!

Blu · 01/01/2017 13:11

Lovely to be appreciated - and you deserve to be appreciated.

RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 01/01/2017 12:55

What a lovely story with lovely friends (and a lovely person to put themselves out for friends on NYE)

Enjoy your windfall OP you deserve it

angeldelightedme · 01/01/2017 12:54

Yeah, but if it happens again bear in mind that if you are transporting people and making more than expenses (say 50p a mile l money) and anything went wrong, it would probably classed as 'driving for hire or reward' and would invalidate your insurance

HardcoreLadyType · 01/01/2017 12:47

I have to say, you do sound lovely.

First you helped out your cousin with their staffing problem, and then you helped out your friend with her transport problem.

Enjoy your little windfall!

stoopido · 01/01/2017 12:46

I wouldn't be able to accept it, even if they had intended to give it to me. I would give some back. I do find it hard to accept things though because I am a giver and not a taker.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 01/01/2017 12:43

Bugger, should have checked ALL pages for updates - that's great, so glad you sorted it and your friend and Bob are indeed brilliant!

Yes, it was a lovely thing to do so I'm glad you got your "reward" for being lovely. Enjoy it! xx

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 01/01/2017 12:41

I'd accept it but I'd still have to check they meant it to be that much!

So yes, I'd text with "OMG, thanks but are you sure you meant to give me quite that amount? Happy to return some of it if it was an error!"

I don't think I could live with just taking it, even despite what she said beforehand. And if it was exactly what they meant to give you, then Bob's a bit brilliant, isn't he?! Very generous.

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Masketti · 01/01/2017 12:40

What a lovely friend, with a lovely boyfriend to match you being a lovely person Wobble

Happy New Year! Treat yourself to something that makes you happy

category12 · 01/01/2017 12:39

Awww.

You're a lovely friend to put yourself out for them.
And they're lovely to recognise that and treat you accordingly.

All good.

lalalalyra · 01/01/2017 12:36

How many of them did you drop off? Taxis here were adding a fee per drop last night as well as triple rate.

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