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AIBU to ask if anyone else has Misophonia?

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fruitysmoothie · 31/12/2016 20:34

Just realised that I have this and it's driving me nuts!! Didn't even know it was a 'thing'

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user1483226045 · 02/01/2017 08:46

So now I know what it's called. Phew what a relief. My daughter who is also on the spectrum has an aversion to so many noises. 'Mum turn the radio off, its making me feel sick' was a common one on the school run. (She hated school). I thought she was bonkers. Well she is a bit but in the nicest possible way. Fucking infuriating at times Confused
I can't stand people who talk really loudly even though they're only inches away from my face. I in turn talk really low and quietly hoping they'll come down to my audio level. I mean do you HAVE to SHOUT! I'm right in front of you ffs!
Pet hate-can't stand people who diddle their leg up and down while sitting. Ball of foot on floor, knee going up and down like a piston. You know what I mean. Wth is that all about?? Can anyone enlighten me? I want to slap them on the leg and shout WILL YOU STOP!!!! PLEASE!

JessicaEccles · 02/01/2017 09:27

As said above, metal cutlery hitting teeth is the worst. It makes my stomach clench.
I think I may be the death of my manager- he is a lovely man but always eating apples - my worst trigger for homicidal rage. So I now go 'would u like a cake/ biscuit/ bacon roll?'
Slow death or quick death....

literallytotally · 02/01/2017 09:34

People noises. All of them.

Whistling. Just no. If I am out and someone is whistling I get so tense and angry.

Tapping and clicking, breathing, sniffing, eating.

With each sound get more and more wound up.

At home people know and I can ask them to not do it. (Well the breathing is a tricky one)

I'm with the pp who had ear plug issues as then you hear the whirly noises in your head too.

I thought it was just me being intolerant and mean.

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fruitysmoothie · 02/01/2017 11:21

I sympathise with you all I really do and so glad I'm not alone! Feel like such a weird/crazy person sometimes!

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GoodEyebrowDay · 02/01/2017 11:30

I do!

Whistling, wet mouth noises, eating & humming seem to be my main triggers. Distant, repetitive noises a close second. They make me feel so anxious/angry it almost makes me cry. It's awful.

uncoolnn · 02/01/2017 11:32

Not sure I have it "officially", however I cannot stand certain noises and physically have to leave the room from time to time time when something begins bugging me.

Once I've heard a noise, I can't block it out; it gets progressively louder in my head until that's all I can hear. It's horrible and I wouldn't wish it on anyone Envy

Barnes79 · 02/01/2017 11:48

I have an apparently mild version I think - chewing (especially my DH even though he eats with his mouth closed), a weird clicking think DH does while asleep, toe nail clippers etc. Mine tend to be quiet repetitive noises which I have no control over - I'm fine if I can drown them out with loud TV or music. I actually find controlled background noise e.g. TV, helps me focus as it blocks out all the uncontrolled noise.

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fruitysmoothie · 02/01/2017 12:12

Does anyone have visual triggers too? I become stupidly enraged by fidgeting

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Cindefuckingrella · 02/01/2017 12:32

I think that's a related thing called misokinesia, fruity. I'm learning a lot about myself. Turns out I've got trypophobia too.

hippyhippyshake · 02/01/2017 12:52

I've realised that I don't feel murderous when women are making slurping, grinding, snorting noises just men. How dp's still alive after 30 years together is a miracle. Luckily for him our en-suite has been unusable for a few years so his unbearable teeth-cleaning routine has been out of ear-shot. He also has this nightmarish way of eating peas where he scoops up a forkful and literally inhales them without putting the fork in his mouth. If he settles down to watch tv with crackers, crisps or nuts I leave the room. I'm glad there's a name for this so I feel I'm not totally unreasonable. Grin

peppersaunt · 02/01/2017 13:00

Can't stand chewing noises! I'm upset that DH has noticed me watching him with horror as his jowls flap whilst eating! I have to leave the room.

EwanWhosearmy · 02/01/2017 13:11

I've had it for years Sad. Mine was triggered by my DM's slurpy eating when I was a child and has got steadily worse over the years.

Working in an open plan office the very worst 2 things are apples and crisps. With crisps it is the rustling of the packet as much as the crunching. There are days at work when each of the 10 people around me take it in turns to eat crisps and/or apples and I have to leave the room.

Crazygreyhound - Interestingly my baby daughters slurping gulping noises as she is having her bottle doesn't have any effect hmm Grateful for that!

I was OK with my DD's noises while she was tiny. Now she's 9 I can't bear her either, sorry Grin

EwanWhosearmy · 02/01/2017 13:15

oh I meant to say mine has got a little more copable-with since my GP upped the dose of my ADs.

Pheebs770 · 02/01/2017 13:17

I don't know what this is exactly but sounds a bit like me. Two or more conversations around a table drive me to distraction I can't hear anything

squiz81 · 02/01/2017 13:49

I have it. It pretty much wrecked my relationship with my dad. I found the post saying it starts between 8-12 interesting. I was a complete daddies girl up to the age of 10. He made a noise eating his cornflakes and that set off me not coping with any of his noises. If he spoke when driving I would kick his chair as couldn't bear the saliva noises he made, or him swallowing. I made him sad as he thought I hated him. But I couldn't coipe being round him and I still find it very hard.

To be fair my mum is bad too. We always ate dinner with the tv on so she couldn't hear food noises and since he's retired he has to eat lunch in the dining room whilst shes in the living room Grin

I also can't cope with nail clippers. That seems to be a common trigger on this thread. I can't bear foot fidgeting, nail biting face rubbing etc etc.

I hate being so intolerant Sad

SpaceTheFinalFrontier · 02/01/2017 14:18

The voice of a teenage boy whose voice hasn't completely broken yet. They all sound like Scooby Doo.
I know they can't help it, obviously, but I'd rather listen to nails down a blackboard.

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fruitysmoothie · 02/01/2017 14:27

Cinde I also have trypophobia, I've also suffered with anxiety, clinical depression and OCD... there seems to be a link really, almost like if you have one mental illness it can predispose you to another one.... hmmmm....

Squiz looking back I think mine started around 12-13ish as that's when I started having physical reactions (stomach flipping, rage....) to a habit my mum has of sniffing

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fruitysmoothie · 02/01/2017 14:28

Oh by the way I'm not saying for certain having had other mental illnesses means you'll definitely get another just that they seem to be linked (in my opinion)

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claraschu · 02/01/2017 14:41

I also can't stand the sound of someone clicking on a keyboard.

Eating noises are the worst, but for some reason only human eating. The sound of my cats eating is soothing and lovely to me.

user1471537877 · 03/01/2017 09:49

I'm just grateful Christmas is over

DD. Sadly is described as a very severe case by her audiologist she is a recluse spending most of her life in her bedroom

Everything and anything sets her off, Misophonia sufferers react more with those they are closest too and having my DH and DS at home for the holiday has caused massive levels of stimulation

It would be laughable if it wasn't so miserable, DD is hughly sensory defensive whereas DS and DH are sensory seekers so fidget tap and bop their feet all of which act as triggers and enrage DD

DD would like me to play disability top trumps as she feels everyone must accommodate her needs, she refuses to see that the others are just the flip side of the condition and cannot just stop because she demands it

I loved the post about nail clippers, DD can actually hear nails being clipped in her bedroom from downstairs, for 2 years we ate on plastic plates with plastic cutlery as she became hysterical at the sound of the cutlery touching plates

When she was still at school zips on pencil cases feet tapping and people pointing pens and pencils were enough to cause the rage so they put her in the special needs room with lots of stimming aspies which caused her to have panic attacks

Every day here is so much fun Hmm I even get abuse when having a bath as she hates the sound of water moving in the bath

But at least this morning with only the two of us in the house she finally has some level of peace, until I try to vacuum in a bit.....

dollydaydream114 · 03/01/2017 13:10

Hmm, I think there's quite a difference between having finding noises irritating and having misophonia, isn't there? I think the first is an every day annoyance which everyone experiences, and the second is borderline debilitating.

There are certainly noises I find really infuriating and which bother me a lot, but I think people who actually have misophonia probably suffer a lot more distress than most of us do.

chipsandgin · 03/01/2017 13:57

I have it (as mentioned on cinema thread) and it can affect day to day life but I think I finally have enough coping mechanisms in place to manage it. I have no other MH issues, never have had, just this.

For me the sound of crunching, chewing, slurping, finger licking, eating with mouth open, jaw clicking, gulping and all all masticating will induce a fairly extreme physical reaction (similar to fight or flight), adreneline, extreme rage which I have to control & which can actually physically hurt trying to suppress it.

I manage it at home by always having music playing when we sit down to eat, getting up and walking out of a room where possible, especially if it is a silent one. My partner and kids all know not to eat in a silent room with me there and accept my weirdness!. I have had to move carriages on trains and get off early on buses - but in the big scheme of things it isn't for me it the end of the world.

I feel for the posters with kids who have it who can't deal with it - mine has lessened as I get older, I think someone believing them (my mum didn't), taking them seriously and helping them manage it will make a huge difference.

chipsandgin · 03/01/2017 13:59

'it isn't the end of the world for me' (odd word jumble there!)

NennyNooNoo · 03/01/2017 13:59

Interesting info from user1471, particularly the age 8-12 thing. DS's misophonia started at 9 or 10, and now at nearly 12, we have also had to take him out of school and are homeschooling. He wears ear defenders at the table, and if anyone eats outside of mealtimes, we have to alert him so he can go into a different room and shut all the doors in between. The biggest obstacle to going out anywhere is that generally, wherever we go, there will inevitably be people eating at some point.

I've learned more about his condition on this thread than I have in a year from GP / CAMHS. Didn't even know it had a name or that it was quite a common thing amongst people on the spectrum. So thank you for that.

NathanBarleyrocks · 03/01/2017 14:03

Me. Sniffers give me the rage.

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