AIBU to ask if anyone else has Misophonia?

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Just realised that I have this and it's driving me nuts!! Didn't even know it was a 'thing'

User that makes so much sense to me because I've always had problems with my ears....

Notangelina you should show your DH this, it seems to be an actual mental health illness and can't be helped

Noisy eating is the one that gets me every time

I have it so bad. DP chomping and breathing. Or biting his nails. Urgh! Sends me crazy.

Does anyone think there's a trigger for it? For instance I cannot stand the sound of nail biting, I could seriously do damage to whomever is doing the biting, it's so salsa, like being taken over by a blind rage
I'm fairly sure it stems from being sexually abused by my father when I was young as my abiding memory of him is him sitting biting his nails loudly and spitting them out 😳

withoit being trite, i think i can trace my first trigger. Many moons ago Dp and i were engaged in some oral pleasure (sorry for the TMI ) and we had a big dog. Bastard animal started licking himself LOUDLY. Now i cannot stand any eating sounds at all and it really isn't funny

I do suffer from anxiety and i can get to almost panic attack if i can hear people chee or slurp.

For those of you asking

Misophonia starts between the ages of 8-12 linked to puberty

It can be formally diagnosed by an NHS audiologist if you can find one that specialises

There is an NHS consultant in London who treats people but only as adults

It causes a flight fight mechanism hense most sufferers getting quite angry in response to triggers

It can make standard education impossible in our case DD is educated from home with an EHCP as it's that severe

It isn't hyperaccusis, I would describe it as it's evil twin, many sufferers will have other conditions that are similar, in DD's case she also has sensory and auditory processing disorders and ASD

DS has dyspraxia, this is common as they are conditions all under the same umbrella

Eating. Any eating. Also the sound of noisy swallowers with drink. Makes me feel very queasy indeed.

My worst triggers seem to involve my DH and my DDs! I can't stand my DH's breathing, him using inhalers, him unblocking his throat etc. I hate sharing a bed with him - I hate even wearing earplugs as the crackling of them drives me mad! My DDs play music all the time and then talk over it! My DD2 says I haven't evolved as I don't appreciate music......
I do love them all but their noise drives me crackers
I was lying in bed this morning though and could hear birds twittering outside my window and I had to stop myself opening the window and shouting at them.
DH is currently in the kitchen emptying the dishwasher and he can't even do that quietly!

I have this terribly. Would love some sort of treatment for it but wouldn't even know where to start.....

I can't stand loud slurpy eating, slurping drinks, gulping, knife and fork noise, grunty noises, loud breathing.

I also hate repetitive movements. Anything that's not necessary drives me bonkers.

It affects my daily life, makes me unable to focus when my eyes or ears are drawn to it. Horrible.

I have really struggled today I could feel myself getting so so angry over really normal noises like sighing, chomping and the 'cahhhhh' after someone has had a drink.... this is really starting to affect my daily life now it's horrible as I don't want to be so irrational.... has anyone found anything that has helped at all?

I only realised I had it after reading another thread on MN! My DH sometimes bites his cutlery when he eats and it MAKES ME WANT TO KILL HIM!

Wow hellsbells I could have written your post. Esp the bit about 'birdsong'. I remember developing it as a teenager, when I slept in the bathroom one night as I had the room above my mum and dads and my dad snored like a train. I can't bear heavy breathing, snoring, eating, clocks ticking, whistling. Anything repetitive really makes me want to scream.

I also cannot cope with the sounds of eating/chewing. It makes me feel quite irrational I have to leave the room or at least put my fingers in my ears. Dh gets cross when I tell him to eat quieter but I can't help it - the sound, or even just the thought of the sound, makes my skin crawl.

The sound of someone eating an apple is the worst.

I have it so badly I am considering living alone. I cannot share a bed with DH, I serve a meal then go upstairs while the family eat. I eat mine stood in the kitchen or in my bedroom. I cannot bear sitting close to anyone, or anyone touching me when I'm trying to relax. My DH and one of my DD s are my worst triggers for eating and drinking, I can't even bear seeing her drink. I have general anxiety and noise intolerance anyway, I saw my gp about it and he'd never heard of it, sent me away for two weeks so he could research it, then said he hadn't had time and just changed my antidepressant. My DD s walk on eggshells around me and I think they'd be happier if i Iived in isolation. I know I would be.

I seem to have a comparatively mild form, which I'm incredibly grateful for, having read some of your posts.

I tend to struggle with competing noises, mastication, sniffing, shuffling, certain coughs / sneezes etc etc. GP's surgeries are a no-go for me, I usually wait outside. Worse still, DP is one of those people who always has to have some sort of noise on. It's not unusual for him to have TV + radio + podcast on his phone + chatting to DCs, so some days I just follow him around turning things off as he has no idea of what madness he's creating. We don't spend much time together in the evenings partly because I simply need to be away from it all. It's becoming a problem.

I seem to have a comparatively mild form, which I'm incredibly grateful for, having read some of your posts.

I tend to struggle with competing noises, mastication, sniffing, shuffling, certain coughs / sneezes etc etc. GP's surgeries are a no-go for me, I usually wait outside. Worse still, DP is one of those people who always has to have some sort of noise on. It's not unusual for him to have TV + radio + podcast on his phone + chatting to DCs, so some days I just follow him around turning things off as he has no idea of what madness he's creating. We don't spend much time together in the evenings partly because I simply need to be away from it all. It's becoming a problem.

I find my threshold for competing noise is pretty low when I'm tired or stressed.

It has definitely got worse as I have got older. Also, my dh is a rubber - rubs his face, runs fingers through hair while watching footy, or is stressed and I remember my mum sating I should wear blinkers as every repetitive movement I can see out of the corner of my eye, really gives me the rage. I literally use my hands as blinkers. Dh has just got some cheese and crackers out and I am about to leave the room to pretend to do something else, but really its to get away from the noise

I have it and my most visceral reaction is to nail clipping. Me doing it is fine but if DH does it I could club his head in.

It's that bad I've run from the bottom of the garden to the bathroom to scream at him to stop.

It frightens me how much noises bother me sometimes.

I also have trypophobia but avoidance works well and doesn't impact my life like misophonia

I currently have a cold and am annoying myself with all the wretched sounds I'm making

I am definitely noticing a theme here with eating/drinking related noises! I think I may be a bit odd in that the sound of my DP chomping crisps or slurping a banana doesn't bother me much,but if I am on a bus and sit near someone slurping chewing gum with their mouth open,and even worse,popping bubbles with it,I feel murderous with rage.

Eating noises... Just no, no way, argh cant even say how mad they get me. I will not sit next to anyone who is eating ever, and when I get a cold that makes everything sound louder I live on soup. The sound of my own swallowing is just bearable but the chewing... I have many a time taken my food to the bedroom to eat when my best friend comes over as he CANNOT chew with his blasted mouth shut! And I can't eat even on my own in a quiet room. Tv or radio etc has to be on or nope!

Also my dp does this thing where he sticks his finger in his ear and wriggles it repeatedly and fast. OMG if I ever get done for murder this will be why! The squelchy almost clicky indescribable noise. ARGH!!!!!!! He just says I'm a 'crazy person' and laughs

I never had lunch in secondary school, the cafeteria... Shudders. And it was actually one of my main reasons for leaving home as young as I did. I just couldn't take "family meal times" aka torture hour of people chewing with mouths open and talking with mouths full.

Interestingly my baby daughters slurping gulping noises as she is having her bottle doesn't have any effect Grateful for that!

User that's interesting information, I also have dyspraxia, as was the information about ear infections. I used to get one sometimes more every year till I was about twelve!

I've found my people! Everyone hates me because I am evil when they are eating the slightest noise makes my skin crawl!

Constant clicking of a pen makes my body spasm and my eye goes all winky until it stops, I can't speak, just flinch and wink.
Other one is someone cracking their knuckles.
It's more the surprise of the noise, if I can see that someone is going to open a can of pop I'm fine.
I love live and loud music, as long as I know the songs.
DS can't bear sudden noise, the Hoover is painful to him.
If he knows the noise is going to happen he is better, I think for him it's the sudden noice and the noises he can't control the volume the beginning and the end.
His TV is always on loud.
DDs are the same with people coughing or sneezing, on a bad day any noise that they've not made.
All three have an ASD diagnosis, I think I have ASD too.

What about smells?
I can smell someone cutting a cucumber from upstairs.