To have a spiritual reading whilst pregnant??

[WynterBlossom]

So I know it's likely il be told how clairvoyants are con artists and peoples views on them & how they prey on vulnerable people.

With that being said, I went to one when I was around 18, all I was asked was what don't you want to be told?? My reply was "if anyone was dying or going to die", other than that he specifically asked me not to say anything when he spoke.

He told me about an embarrassing accident about my leg - this was true, it had happened a month earlier.

He told me my bf at the time (I didn't tell him I had one) wasn't going to be the person I'd spend my life with - we split a year later.

He also informed me that a younger girl whom I'm not very close to at the time would go down a difficult path - a good year later she did

Finally, he told me how I'd move away - I moved away for 5 years before coming back.

All the above weren't given time frames, it all took a good 5 years to happen.

Anyways! Now I've said that, I'm now 25 Weeks pregnant and if anyone knows me from previous threads, they'll know I'm going through a tough time....could I tell the medium as soon as I see them that I'm pregnant and want no info on it whatsoever!

I only want to see one to give me some hope for the future that it's not going to be dreary & depressing as I currently imagine it.

I saw a spiritual person once & she told me she saw a huge change in my life happening in Nov/Dec, that was last year & me & my ex wife split & I moved back to the area I grew up in.

I'm just desperate for a little light of hope in my life....without it, what do I have??

Did you have any form of social media at this time?

MrsMattBomerurgh sally!!! I remember the girl who went to see sally got confused and instead of taking in a photo of a dead person took one of herself. Then course sally made 'contact' with the woman in the photo and all this blah blah she has said this ...only when the woman whose photo it was didnt agree with what she was saying did she ask who the person in the pic actually was..

OP don't underestimate how well clairvoyants can read a person just by looking at them. There is a whole art to reading people that they have honed, even if they do it for a split second. They are either very clever crooks or people who are very deluded and believe what they see. The former prey upon vulnerable people and the latter shouldn't be trusted. It's not the most genius guess work to predict an 18yo won't be with their fella forever. Save your money and get something to pamper yourself instead!

He couldn't have searched me up, he didn't know he'd be giving a reading to me until I walked in the room, someone didn't turn up so I filled in, he didn't know my name until I walked into the room.

Just read this

I'm just desperate for a little light of hope in my life....without it, what do I have??

A clairvoyant won't solve your problem. This is in your hands - why do you think your future is hopeless?

OP spend your money on whatever you want it makes no odds if you are pregnant at a reading. You absolutely cannot harm your baby in anyway just by having someone say something to you and I'm sure even the worst charlatan wouldn't say anything upsetting about the unborn child their client is carrying.

I'm just feeling really down at the minute.

Long story short ex left me for someone else whilst pregnant & now going to be a single mother with nothing but financial support from the father.

I need something!

Still hopelessly vague: of my younger female relatives.

One has had financial difficulties

Another is in a very unhappy marriage

Two of them have struggled to conceive and have endured multiple miscarriages

Three of them (sisters) had their father die slowly, painfully and at a ludicrously young age.

I don't come from a large or particularly tragedy prone family, in most families there will be multiple female relatives who will have a tough time at some point.

You will finally get rid of all those negative influences and form new relationships in the new year .

OP soon you will have your child and they will be the whole world and more than you ever thought there could be.
Are there no friends and family nearby? Anyone in real life you can speak to? I feel so sorry you are so desperately unhappy now.

Oh Wynter that's awful I'm so sorry he did that to you! Twat

There is a fantastic single parents and money matters board on MN, spend your time there instead where you will get real support not someone who couldn't give a shit and only wants your money in exchange for spouting a few generic lines most likely based on your age and how you carry yourself.

I can tell you now if you do get a reading it'll go something like this -

• you've been hurt by someone you trusted
• it was a man who broke that trust and let you down
• you're scared for the future

It really doesn't take a genius to recognise a heartbroken woman. Please do not be conned, save your cash and concentrate on you and your lovely baby. Do you have much in the way of family support?

And just one more...

'You're in for a roller coaster year full of life changing experiences. You will have many sleepless nights but it'll all be worth it in the end'.

I've a lot of RL support from family, I guess my hormones are getting the better of me, hoping next year will bring better things for me & my son.

I'm not an angel, I'm difficult to be with or around sometimes I know this, I guess I just wished he did it with a lot less hurt!

Anyways, I'm making plans to change my outlook on life because it's clear this isn't healthy

It is total bollocks.

I went to a couple when I was going through a difficult time. Not because I especially believed in it, but because I thought I wanted to hear something that would make me feel it wasn't all just a waste of time and I was grasping a bit.

It was the biggest load of utter crap I have ever heard. The woman spent the whole time trying to probe for answers, then gave me stuff she thought I wanted to hear. And this happened with two separate readers, one of whom had come highly recommended by a friend I trust.

Please don't waste your money on these charlatans. They are preying on vulnerable people.

Sorry OP! didn't see your update before I posted, was hoping to make you laugh. and

How can he "guess" a leg injury??
His words were, I sense a leg injury that's happened already. Well I can make guesses but not that bloody good.

If he didn't give a time frame, but only said it had 'happened already' my first thought would be that you'd have to be quite lucky to reach the age of 18 without ever having injured a leg in one way or another.

Hey, OP. Sorry you're having such a shit time at the moment but congratulations on your pregnancy.

Allow me to offer you the hope you are seeking for the future: look, you're on Mumsnet! So things are going to be awesome! Of course there is hard work ahead, but things really won't be dreary & depressing as you currently imagine it. You're going to be FINE.

I'm not going to charge you a penny for that, either

Aw, I am so sorry you are having a crap time (and that your baby's father is a twat)

Here are my predictions for you for 2017 :

You will go through the most amazing, awesome, challenging, life changing experience.
You will give birth and be a mother.
You will meet and get to know your child.
Your life will undergo a tectonic change and it will be most exciting and most scary thing you have ever done, the most hard work and the most rewarding, the most boring and most amazing AND the one singe event in your life that will change you and forge you in to being a mother.

You will be fine

Op you should do whatever brings you the greatest comfort, but I think the fact that you are asking here is an indication that maybe you know it won't.

I went to see one when I was newly pregnant with ds3 I was also recently bereaved from dd2, I was desperate to know all would be ok.

She said a good few things that I could look back at and say 'yes' to, but crucially she told be ds was going to be a girl and perfectly healthy. At the 20 week scan they said boy, and it sent me spiralling down. If she got the whole boy/girl thing wrong, maybe she got the healthy thing wrong too! I became convinced something bad would happen. So please think carefully.

I do understand, I know that feeling of desperately wanting reassurance but it might not give you the reassurance you need.

Thanks all, definitely put a smile on my face!

You should offer your services, how the bloody hell did you know I'm pregnant

I guess il keep my money in my pocket & just start thinking positive.

I'm sorry you're having a hard time OP, a reading isn't the solution though.

If you watch the Derren Brown show he shows the tactics and tricks that such people use to read people. I worry that a dodger psychic will pick up on your desperation for everything to be ok and exploit you further by giving you just enough hope to need to return over and over.

People give so much away without opening your mouth, it's all fascinating really and the Derren Brown thing debunked it all. There's no harm in you watching it and it may make you see the psychics differently.

Theres a large cash reward for anyone who can prove they are psychic, (can't recall the name of the person offering it) but it's never ever been claimed. When people give fake readings, with wrong info it always comes back to the client not having an open mind.

I know it's a bit of fun for many people, but I hate the way they exploit vulnerable people, grieving families etc.

Stop looking to con artists to give you a miracle and make some actually positive changes in your life.

Go for assertiveness training.
Learn transactional analysis. Read I'm OK, You're OK and Games People Play by Eric Berne.
Learn a skill. Any skill, master it. The process of learning a discipline is part of acquiring maturity.

At the moment you are the ideal mark, witting there like Cinderella waiting for Prince Charming to sweep you off your feet. Dont go on like that or you risk waking up at 40 with the feeling that its too late.

Theres a large cash reward for anyone who can prove they are psychic, (can't recall the name of the person offering it) but it's never ever been claimed.

James Randi

Derren Brown explains the tricks used by so called psychics:

I saw Sally years ago and she was frighteningly accurate in her predictions! They were all pretty bad. In fact I've been too scared to see another psychic since! OP I wouldn't go if worried about hearing bad news. IMO they shouldn't impart it anyway, but pregnancy is anxiety-inducing enough.

Like others have said, spend the money on something nice instead.