To be feeling a bit upset shaken about this incident

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I live in a fairly rural town with a small train station, the platforms can get quite dark. Last night I got to the station to find the train was delayed by about 15 minutes so had to wait on the platform with an older man who I at first just walked past and stood at the other end of the platform

I had my headphones in and all of a sudden the man (clearly drunk) was right inmyface ranting about how his wife sleeps in separate bedrooms and how "He'd like to start on me" and various other unsubtle sexual remarks. At first I completely ignored him but then in the end, had to practically run away down the platform and down the exit until he would leave me alone.

He didn't physically touch me but it's left me feeling really shaken? AIBU - I don't know if to report it, as he didn't actually do anything to me, but today especially I have been feeling a bit vulnerable as I keep remembering how threatened I felt in the dark and didn't know what to do.

Not unreasonable or silly. Sounds terrifying.

Sorry this happened to you

Was the station staffed at the time? So many aren't, I just wondered.

I hope you're feeling better now, but I second the advice to report it to the police and the railway station managers, usually the train operating company unless it's one of the dozen or so really huge stations.

Also, buy a can of Farbgel criminal defence spray. It's paint, not pepper and it's totally legal. It sticks to the person sprayed for about a week, trying to rub it off makes it stick even more. Sorry I can't figure out how to post the link which is incredibly long at Amazon. You can get little velcro-sealed carriers for it with a loop to hang it on your bag strap in easy reach. I can vouch for it; I used it on someone at Paris Nord train station trying to nick my camera, which was actually locked to my Pacsafe cross-body bag so not easily stealable. The perp was so shocked he fell over and broke four teeth. Result! He got arrested as well.

YeOldMa is right in thinking hehad already committed a crime: putting you in immediate fear of violence is assault in one definition of it. I had some legal training in another century, that little bit of it stuck.

Report it. A few years ago I was waiting on a tube platform with my 3 young children. As the doors opened a group of male football fans started to chant at me "Does she take it up the arse?" And held out their hands as if holding mics in my direction. There were about 15 of them.

I just stood there. I didn't get on. As the doors closed I just wanted to burst into tears. My young son looked at me and just squeezed my hand. I have never felt so humiliated. I have had hands up the back of my skirt and all sorts when I've been out at night when I was younger but that verbal incident made me feel the worst.

I didn't report it, and wish that I had. In fact I've never reported any of the times I have been harassed or assaulted, because I think we have been conditioned into thinking that it is just part and parcel of being a woman and it is just what some men do.

Well done for reporting and thanks for the BTP numbers- now in my phone. You did the right thing OP