AIBU in thinking the mess is fine

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The house is a mess. It's mostly washing piles drying and colouring books and toys and books, general Christmas debris.

AIBU to say it's FINE. Leave it. It's not killing anybody. Or am I being a lazy cow?

LOL

Your posts are totally contradictory 😁

If it's bothering you then take action, if it's not, leave it.

I really hate clutter but at times accept it's just the way it is. I'm fine with having all the Christmas stuff in the lounge, I'm fine with the kids having their new toys/games etc around, but I'm not fine with rubbish being left or used plates, cups etc. I don't expect them to get up to throw them away or put them in the kitchen, but I do expect them to do it when the next get up.

However, I am massively looking forward to getting it all put away in a few days time 😁

Mine was a tip, I always pay my cleaner not to come in this week so I don't have to tidy.
I can't stand piles of clothes hanging around but Chrustmas clutter i'm fine with.

DH cleaned up a bit whilst I nipped to the shops but he bleached his new jumper so I wish he hadn't bothered.

I can cope with mess for limited periods of time.

We got to that limit today but everyone is helping with the tidy up.

I never understand comments like "do you want your kids to remember you as the Mum that was always cleaning". In our house we all clean, we all tidy.

My MIL was astonished on Christmas Eve to see my DC hoovering, dusting, sorting laundry, prepping food and setting the Christmas table.

She commented on it repeatedly as if it was some amazing, unusual accomplishment. When she went as far as to take a photo of the children I pointed out that as far as the DC was concerned none of this activity was in any way unusual.

They always help at the weekend with housework and they always help prep for Christmas dinner.

Many hands make light work. Get everyone to help and it will be done in no time.

Not too bad here as dcs are older. I'm leaving it until tomorrow and will have a big blitz tidying and cleaning for NYE.

I would find it stressful OP- but if you are fine with it then that's OK.

I find it easier to relax in a tidy room with minimal clutter

Leave it. If you don't wana do it, don't!

It's fine.

Life's too short. I'm a slattern and proud!

Leave it if you can live with it.

It makes my teeth itch so not for me. Pleased to see though that I am not the only one

Meh. Your house, if you're fine with it, it doesn't matter.
My house is not what you'd call tidy right now. With my eldest on holiday there's a level of tidiness we're never going to reach. I do a once round in the evening once they're in bed.
Right now it's fairly messy. You might as well try and fight the rising tide while you've got a two year old and a six year old running round.

House a tip. Christmas crap on clutter that is generally about.
No go areas....
Actually not comfy with it but overwhelming.
Need to chip away at it- little and often but need the time and the inclination.
Pfffft......

I hate clutter. My xmas stuff is still out in lounge in a youare organised fashion

I have a good tidy up on NYD.

I prefer to have a tidy house. Up to you though.

If you can live with it, just 3enoy the Xmas break. If family is upset by it, tell them they are welcome to clear up/dust/hoover/iron as much as they like. TOu will sit with a sherry and a mince pie and keep 'em right =grin=

I've just had a mini tantrum about the mess in our house. but I'm back at work now and the kids and DH are at home so they shouldn't bloody wait for me to get back to take the sodding recycling out.

My dcs have been away with their dad for 3 days. I have been manically tidying for three days. It's not perfect, but pretty damn good now. Toys nicely arranged etc. But my one issue is the 5!!!!! laundry baskets full of assorted clothes I don't have a place for. Am tempted to stick them all in bin bags and chuck out. But I WANT some lazy days as going back to work next week! Any tips (sorry to hijack)?

But in answer to your question no YANBU if it's not bothering you.

I have signed off for the holidays.

Kitchen etc is clean but there are still toys everywhere and I'm just going to let them enjoy the chaos until reality hits again in a few days. I don't really mind the mess, the whole family is just relaxing, sleeping in and eating too much chocolate at the moment.

I have made a rule that If they didn't get it for Christmas it has to go away.
Washing can wait (until next year....Or the year after). Mess is fine dirt is not (in my house)
I'm happy as long as it's clean enough that I wouldn't die if someone turned up. We are being slighty more lax on account of having a 7 day old :)

It's not really an AIBU question is it? It would be an AIBU if you said "AIBU that I have lost my temper with all the mess" but doesn't really work the other way around??!! I never normally criticise what people ask but this one needs criticism......... Or AIBU??!!!

I find it hard to relax if the house is messy. But then again my house is quite small (central London!) so it looks much better when it's tidy.

I can't say I enjoy tidying and cleaning (who does?) but life is much easier when you are not tripping over things or unable to find them.

I can't settle if the room is messy. I've been known to get out of bed to finish tidying even if I can't see it, just knowing its there means I can't relax. We spent time cleaning and tidying on Boxing Day morning, all gifts were put away Christmas night.

Totally fine! More to life than a perfect home, the stuff will still be there tomorrow or the next day 😉

Apart from one room our house is a complete tip. Am I bovvered? Nope.
But the piles of washing and ironing in the kitchen are driving me mad though.