Noisy sex upstairs

[Pinkjenny]

Dp lives in an apartment, middle floor. The young couple upstairs have taken to having sex in the middle of the night, it's happened every other day this week. Last night it was 4am, loud, bed banging on the floor, and her obviously enjoying herself A LOT. Now whilst I am happy for them and their healthy sex life, and I think they've probably heard us in the past, 4AM?? It was 2am on Boxing Day. I'm at work today and last night they kept me awake for over an hour.

I want to go up there today and politely ask them to keep it down. I don't reckon dp will go for it.

Thoughts?

To be fair to them they are only young, I'm pleased they are clearly having a great time, but for the love of god, you can't be keeping people awake on a regular basis. It's been every other night.

I would just use ear plugs. That's urban living for you.

I have joined in a communal round of applause, it worked, for a while.

I have also posted a notice on the door of an offender, knowing they had already gone to work and the note would therefore be up for a while and everyone in the block would read it!

"We hear you've lost that loving feeling. Our condolences, we lost a lot of sleep"

Why he sang bellowed that song after orgasm we never knew, but he did, a lot, loudly, windows open! I always thought he was practising to be a real exhibitionist, but was too shy

We had similar issues with our previous next door neighbor. Wouldn't have been so bad but we would also hear hitting noises followed by groans of pain (each to their own). On one memorable occasion the guy next door was shouting out 'I f*g want it'over and over again. My DH shouted out 'you've fg got it now shut the f*k up!' They were in the process of selling their house anyway so we knew we only had to put up with it for a short while otherwise I'm pretty sure we would have had to say something.

What Euphemia said!

And OP, I know this wasn't what you wanted to discuss with this thread, I really don't think you should get involved. They're your DPs neighbours and he has to live with them.
Perhaps spur him into action by saying you can't stay over if it means having your sleep disturbed like this. Or he should come to yours instead?

I'm calming down a bit now, thanks all. I'm still bloody shattered though.

God, what the fuck is wrong with these idiots? Inconsiderate assholes, they need to learn to keep it down or control themselves. Confront them.

Have sex, by all means, shag each other's brains out, but just not at 4am or in the middle of the night on a regular basis

OP sorry but you do sound like a terrible stick in the mud with this sentence

If it's every other night, I suspect they're trying to conceive. In which case you might have a break for a couple of weeks of each month....

Leave a pillow by the door with a note suggesting she bites it?

Earplugs?

I had a friend whose husband liked pain during sex.
One night the police turned up when the neighbours didn't realise what was happening, just that someone was screaming out in pain 😊

My neighbours used to do this too (although next door, we live in a mid terrace with thin walls). We moved bedrooms - so did they. Didn't know what to do. So after a while went by during which time we were kept awake every night for a month or so, which must have also affected the children living in their house, we pretended to have loud sex - I did a When Harry Met Sally style fake orgasm and shouted "you're the best!" Over and over like my ndn did - they got the hint and kept it down a bit. Still hear it sometimes but not so frequently.

You and your DP both write notes and post them on separate days. That way they'll think it's come from two different flats.

I've lived with some very noisy neighbours at times, and earplugs have never failed to give me a good night's sleep.

Good for them!
Let them enjoy it and use earplugs if they wake you up.
Bloody hell, I remember when I was young and care free and could shag all night... those were the times! ;-)

*days

I had this happen too. Three male students in the flat above mine but their girlfriends often stayed over. I didn't know which couple it was so just stuck a note on the door to "whoever was enjoying themselves very loudly at 2:00 am" and saying please could they enjoy themselves more quietly in the future as they were waking me up. Put my name, flat number and a smiley face to show I was trying to be friendly about it. I didn't have any more problems and a week or so later the girlfriend came down and apologised.

I'm a stick in the mud because I don't want to be kept awake for over an hour at 4am when I have to work the next day? Give me a break.

Same here in a townhouse- VERY vocal lady. We shoved an anonymous note under the door addressed to the man of the house along the lines of 'stellar performance last night, can I have some tips' (lighthearted) hushed things up immediately.

4am is a lot more considerate than the potential for children to hear earlier in the evening.

I had this years ago and I put three notes through in three different handwritings (thanks mates at work!) on three different sorts of paper and in three different envelopes so it looked like three parties were pissed off anonymously not just me one. It worked.

We had problems with the neighbours in our previous flat. We banged on the ceiling with a broom, shouted at them to shut up and ended up putting a note on the door to the block pointing out the walls and ceilings are paper thin and as it's possible to hear everything, could people please be considerate. It didn't happen again...

Play the music of Andrew Lloyd Webber as soon as they start. It is incompatible with sexual performance.

I remember people in the next room in a hotel in Hong Kong at it for forty-two minutes - followed by a round of applause from all the eighbouring rooms.