So long story short, my mum lives alone after death of her second husband 6 years ago. My sister and I have taken turns to have her for Christmas, but this year there have been a few 'falling outs' shall we call them, over my mothers very strong opinions and continuous kicking off when she doesn't get her own way, or if someone dares to go against what she decides they should do. She is an only child btw, and was very spoilt as a child - and as a wife come to think of it, by our father ! She is very used to getting her own way and will chuck the mother of all wobblers if she doesn't.
So anyway, I had her here last Christmas and she then told me months later during one of her rants, how awful it was, that my home is unwelcoming and there's and atmosphere and we aren't 'normal' and I didn't offer her a drink when other guests arrived later but offered them one 😳. There is only an atmosphere when she is here because we never quite know when she might turn and throw a moody ! No one dare say a thing to upset her but she can say whatever she likes ! So I decided that this year we would not be asking her. She has not spoken to my sister for around 6 months after telling her she disapproves of her new partner and wants nothing more to do with them, so obviously wasn't invited there either.
She has them decided to plaster all over fb what an awful Christmas she has had alone etc and told all her friends that her children were both 'doing their own thing'. She fails to tell them that the real reasons she has not been invited anywhere this year is because she totally slated my home, family partner etc, and told my sister she wants nothing more to do with her until she dumps her partner !! I am now being made to look like the nasty daughter, and she is playing the victim. She thinks she can just say whatever she likes to people and they have to take it from her - well I'm done taking her constant criticism and opinions, she needs to learn the consequences of her actions. She created this situation !