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Hubby didnt get me anything for christmas

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suzycy34 · 27/12/2016 19:14

So hubby didn't get me any Christmas card or present, I got him pressie that was £90, then he had the cheek to complain about the Christmas dinner there wasn't any mashed potatoes to go with the roast ones, and gravy not thick enough, what you think of that, was so upset!!

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haveacupoftea · 27/12/2016 19:42

You know what, fuck him. Make 2017 all about you. Get to the gym, make some new friends, show him you dont need him and show the useless selfish git will see that you respect yourself and he needs to step up or fuck off.

Krampus · 27/12/2016 19:43

Why be embarrassed? When asked what he got, give him the phone to him tell them. Or the equivalent depending on the situation.

When moaned to about mash or gravy don't you snap straight back and tell him to do it himself?

LittleMermaidRose · 27/12/2016 19:47

What a shame! :(
I wouldn't return his gift though. Take comfort in knowing that you were thoughtful enough to get him something. I don't really know what other advice to give though.. it's very sad he didn't think to get you anything.

Sorry to be personal but is he perhaps struggling with money & didn't want to tell you?

Shakey15000 · 27/12/2016 19:48

Exactly what's been said. OK to not buy a present by mutual agreement. Does he know you're even upset? And if not, why not?? And why accept it? You can either choose to be embarrassed and make them there mashed potatoes or you can tell everyone he didn't bother to get you anything and tell him to mash his own.

I'm betting he knows you're upset and still doesn't give a shit.

Crumbs1 · 27/12/2016 19:49

My husband would be wearing the Christmas lunch!

MissVictoria · 27/12/2016 19:51

haveacupoftea why do you suggest she should "get to the gym"? There are tons of places to meet new people, yet your first suggestion is the gym? It really comes across like you're assuming she must be over weight just because he disrespects her, and she should improve her looks to show him she respects herself and deserves his respect?

YorkiesGlasses · 27/12/2016 19:52

He didn't get you a present, no reason. And he criticized the dinner that presumably he didn't even help make?

Wow. Is he always this much of a prince?

caringcarer · 27/12/2016 19:54

Go on strike. No sex, no cooking him meals and no clean laundry. Let him see he has pushed his luck to far this time.

UrethaFranklin · 27/12/2016 19:55

If my DH said he hdn't bought me a present, the first thing I would ask would be 'why not?'. Did you ask him? If not, why not?

e1y1 · 27/12/2016 19:55

Not getting a present is pretty mean considering you got him one (however, don't give the receive and all that...)

The Christmas dinner comment - he would have been wearing his dinner, not eating it. If he was unhappy with it, he could have made his own. Also who has mash potatoes with a roast dinner?

ihatetosay · 27/12/2016 19:55

why stick around with such a selfish obnoxious person

e1y1 · 27/12/2016 19:55

to receive Blush

Aeroflotgirl · 27/12/2016 19:57

Gosh he sounds awful, does he have any redeeming features!

haveacupoftea · 27/12/2016 19:57

MissVictoria not at all, just that exercise is a brilliant place to start for boosting self esteem for people of all sizes. I think perhaps faced with such a shitty DH OP's confidence might be a bit low. No idea about her size or looks, that didn't enter my thought process at all. I am overweight but when I exercise and improve at it I feel like i'm invincible.

ChocoChou · 27/12/2016 19:58

MissVictoria the gym isn't only for overweight people. In fact most of the people at the gym go because they enjoy it. It has a feel good factor, you feel good about yourself. Yoga can teach you to relax when faced with shitty situations like OP is in.
I think the PP just meant spend some time on yourself and wasn't trying to imply 'D'H got her nothing because she was overweight 🤔

ChocoChou · 27/12/2016 19:58

X post haveacuppa

Krampus · 27/12/2016 19:58

If he moans about a lack of mash again, squish the roasties on his head and say, there you go MASH Xmas Grin

DeleteOrDecay · 27/12/2016 20:00

Why are you with him op?

MouseLove · 27/12/2016 20:01

Even if I demanded DH not to buy me a single present. He still would. Because he's not an arsehole. And every single year he surpasses the last with personal, practical and beautiful gifts that are just for me. I thought I was very lucky, but it seems reading the many many shit husband threads on here that I'm very much extremely lucky.

TheSlaughterOfHerodificado · 27/12/2016 20:01

It really comes across like you're assuming she must be over weight just because he disrespects her, and she should improve her looks to show him she respects herself and deserves his respect?

Does it hell as like!

Cupoftea probably suggested the gym because doing something totally physical can lift you emotionally as well as make you fitter - this is how I would have taken it.

Suzy - your husband is a tosser. Don't let him think everything is ok, because it isn't. I'd be gutted if my GH did that to me - it's lazy and selfish as well as thoughtless. I don't know how he had the nerve to accept the gift you gave him.

Do you have joint finances? Personally I would find something I really liked and teat myself; something that made me feel pampered and indulged and bloody well worth it, because you are! Not getting a gift must make you feel so unloved - especially when he complains about the food.

Next year, don't get him Christmas, birthday or anniversary presents - buy yourself something for these occasions instead. If/When he complains, just say you thought that the two of you had stopped present-giving now.

And never cook his preferred foods again, unless YOU fancy them that evening. If he wants anything n particular, point him to the fridge.

WankersHacksandThieves · 27/12/2016 20:01

What a dick. A thoughtful gift doesn't have to cost very much.

We like mashed potato with our Christmas dinner so DH made some. Did he contribute to anything at Christmas? Gift buying, card writing, food shopping or preparation?

daisychain01 · 27/12/2016 20:01

OP, this is surely just a snap-shot of a bigger relationship problem, right?

Don't focus on the stinginess and the mashed potato. this is the title of my next Self-Help book

TheSlaughterOfHerodificado · 27/12/2016 20:02

*DH - not GH

I don't know what I've done to upset the autocorrect

TheSlaughterOfHerodificado · 27/12/2016 20:02

*TREAT - not teat

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TheSlaughterOfHerodificado · 27/12/2016 20:04

My DH is the mashed potato chef de cuisine, too Wankers