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Original poster

To feel utterly depressed and fed up and consider calling in sick to give myself a Christmas break?

249 replies

BoBo16 · 27/12/2016 07:57

Started a new job early this year.

The shift pattern was hard in the first place (often 1 day off in 10 etc) but the Christmas rota has been horrendous.

I had to work the whole week before Christmas with just Christmas Eve off - I then worked Christmas Day, Boxing Day and I'm working today so that's every single bank holiday. I'm off tomorrow but then I'm working Thursday, Friday and Saturday with just New Year's Day off. I'm then back for the bank holiday Monday (surprise sunrise) and off Tuesday. I'm then back the rest of the week until the weekend of 7/8th Jan.

I have had no Christmas holiday at all. I've not even had two days off together. I've not seen my husband really or my kids. I'm exhausted. I'm fed up. I feel physically sick at the thought of going in for three more days on the trot. I feel victimised with the rota (nobody else's is as bad as mine, a few people have admitted this) and I feel utterly fucked off.

I'm so tired. WIBU to ring in sick on Thursday and Friday to give myself some time off and a rest? I'm handing in my notice this week also.

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Lesmacarons · 27/12/2016 12:15

Because children should be prioritised at Christmas - but also I was going to say 'parents and carers'.

Who would you want to have the day off on Christmas day? A 25 year old single man or a mum with three kids? It is not rocket science.

Lesmacarons · 27/12/2016 12:16

Then you really should read my posts more carefully.

BlossomHillOne · 27/12/2016 12:17

So are the exceptions still negligent then LesM?

PurpleDaisies · 27/12/2016 12:17

Who would you want to have the day off on Christmas day? A 25 year old single man or a mum with three kids? It is not rocket science.

Christmas Day leave should be allocated fairly. Either on a rota or randomly.

If the single man never has children does that mean he never has Christmas off?

ilovesooty · 27/12/2016 12:17

I think everyone has the same right to have the opportunity of taking the day off regardless of status. And you never mentioned carers

Whatslovegottodo · 27/12/2016 12:18

Well macarons the 25 year old single male could be going to spend the last Christmas with his mums before she dies. While the mum of 3 may have a partner at home and happy to 'do' another Christmas Day on Boxing Day with the kids while the kids enjoy the day with dad and grandparents.
Everyone has a life. Friends, family who are special and important to them. Ones own children are not the only important thing in the world.

ilovesooty · 27/12/2016 12:19

There's one person who's not reading everything clearly...

You haven't commented on our response to what the childless are doing here.

PurpleDaisies · 27/12/2016 12:20

Even if the single man wanted to stay home and sit in his pants watching tv with microwave meals, that doesn't make any difference at all. He still has the same right to ask for Christmas off.

Stillwishihadabs · 27/12/2016 12:20

Lesmacorons please don't throw words like neglect around. It has quite a specific meaning which is absolutely not parents working somenvironment part of the festive period. It is not a small part of your career from having a baby to them being 18 is 20 years if you have 2 dcs.

ilovesooty · 27/12/2016 12:23

Purple - absolutely.

Lesmacarons · 27/12/2016 12:28

I just don't agree with your point of view - some of you. I get to do that and it is tough.

Why haven't I commented on people being here who don't have children? I don't know - I suppose I'm assuming that you have children you need to think about in your life.

Otherwise - up to you - but I came here to talk to other mums mainly. otherwise I'd be on the Painting tractors forum or something.

Slightly creeped out also by the 'Daddy' posts that turns out to be men looking to chat up women. Bleugh.

Isn't there a net dads? Some of us want to slag off men and say unsayable things borne out of our hard won experience as a parent.

Original poster
BoBo16 · 27/12/2016 12:28

Can I just say as the OP - I wasn't complaining so much about having to work Christmas Day, it was the fact that they've had me down for every single bank holiday over the Christmas period as well as all the days inbetween with just random singular days off in between. I am absolutely exhausted.
To make matters worse, some colleagues are not down for ANY of the 'special' days. It should be done fairly and those of us that work full time should at least be given shifts that allow for decent rest breaks inbetween.

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Lesmacarons · 27/12/2016 12:30

Neither of you have children. I really don't think you know what you are talking about and I don't think you've got the right to come to netmums and try to bully a mum in to your selfish single world view opinions. Bloody cheek.

ilovesooty · 27/12/2016 12:32

You were the one who brought up why childless people are here and didn't justify it until you were asked directly.
You seem to think you can say what you like without the expectation of challenge.

IfartInYourGeneralDirection · 27/12/2016 12:33

Even if the single man wanted to stay home and sit in his pants watching tv with microwave meals, that doesn't make any difference at all. He still has the same right to ask for Christmas off.

This, this,this

Being a parent doesn't put you above other people.

Lesmacarons · 27/12/2016 12:33

ffs. What ARE you doing on here then?

ilovesooty · 27/12/2016 12:34

This isn't netmums.

And you were the one who started the argument that non parents should automatically give way to parents regarding Christmas day working, so no bullying from my side.

PurpleDaisies · 27/12/2016 12:34

Neither of you have children. I really don't think you know what you are talking about and I don't think you've got the right to come to netmums and try to bully a mum in to your selfish single world view opinions. Bloody cheek.

Is this netmums? It certainly wasn't last time I checked.

Who am I supposed to be bullying? Please feel free to report anything you think is attacking anyone.

Lesmacarons · 27/12/2016 12:35

Oh God - I'm not discussing this with a bunch of single people with no children. You obviously don't understand and I REALLY think you should not be giving people advice on here. That above statement is pure ignorance. I'm not discussing it with you any more.

Original poster
BoBo16 · 27/12/2016 12:37

Can I just say that I don't think parents should be given preferential treatment at Christmas!

This was nothing to do with kids, it is about exhausting shift patterns over a holiday season (and in general!)

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BlossomHillOne · 27/12/2016 12:38

So Childless people aren't entitled to an opinion? Can't give good advice? Mumsnet (not Netmums) covers far more topics than child raising.

Original poster
BoBo16 · 27/12/2016 12:38

And I DO have kids btw

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PurpleDaisies · 27/12/2016 12:38

Why do you assume I'm single because I don't have children?!

ilovesooty · 27/12/2016 12:39

No body is giving advice.
Some of us are expressing the view that people have an equitable right to annual leave opportunities regardless of status.

Do feel free to sulk off if you want to.

PovertyPain · 27/12/2016 12:41

Les I think you'll find you're on MUMSNET not NETSMUM. Maybe you'd be happier over there with the long suffering mums rather than on here with people who actually like to treat others as if they're entitled to a life too! 😒

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