to think you don't give this as a present?

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I'm honestly not being ungrateful, I really appreciate the thought, but I'm just a bit confused.

Baby boy is 2 weeks old and one of my work colleagues (so it was nice of her to even do this tbh) got him a gift. It was an IKEA type tub with reusable nappies, I was thankful and then she went on to explain how they were her son's. I'm not asking out if nastiest I just don't know if you really gift reusable nappies that have been used by your child, to a friend's child?

Thank you.

Jeez. Don't be thick for the sake of it. You can't check every gift with people but you can't just go giving used personal items away to someone esp if you are not close to them without confirming they want it.

I've given out my kids stuff to people but did mention it, I don't just dump stuff on them because I don't NEED it anymore and fancy a clear out.

I think that's a really thoughtful gift!

Give them a go, you might like them

My dd wears cloth nappies 99% of the time and gets awful nappy rash on sposies

I've been gifted cloth nappies before, and saved a fortune because of it. I was very grateful.

In my circles secondhand baby clothes and equipment does the rounds like nobody's business - it's perfectly normal and indeed appreciated very much for people to pass on used baby stuff. Secondhand clothes are often nicer as they are nice and soft from being washed! And babies grow so quick they don't get worn out.

If you are thinking of using reusables, they can be very expensive, so being passed on a box of free reusables is a really nice thing for your colleague to do.

We never used reusable nappies but family members in India do. Over there mums will nearly always get worn ones (from close family or friends ususually but strangers too sometimes), as they're softer on the skin. They have to be boiled before washing with a baby friendly detergent.

Hmmm. Ok, it may have been done kindly .... but dear God. YANBU. A divisive gift IMHO.

So the people on here who think it's revolting, do you bin clothes after your child has vomited on them or had a nappy leak? Or do you wash thoroughly and use them again?

Mixed messages from this. Lovely to pass on to you but as a gift without knowing you going to be using reusable wrong

Odd to not ask with reusables (as they are an expense/ not everyone wants the bother).
But if you get them free you've pretty much removed the obstacle most people STATE they have with them (cost).
Of course having been generally treated as some dirty freak for using reusables on all three children I am fairly confident washing / reusing garments is seen as dirtier than chucking human waste in landfill by most mums.
Everyone has their limits i guess.

Yes Indeed she might be offended if you eBayed them. Why in God's name would you be telling her ?????? Get rid. Very nice of her in one way but im a bit like the OP who mentioned borrowing knickers. Thanks but no thanks. Your baby deserves new undergarments. ...reusable or otherwise. If you can afford it obviously. If not that is a different story.

saw the title and thought, chicken pox / flu etc ? read the thread pip !

YANBU at all !! That's like giving second hand reusable sanitary towels ......definitely not something I would do !

That's just so terribly gross! I wouldn't let my newborns sleep on second hand mattresses let alone wrap them in something someone else has s#*t all over! Dispose!

leavim and apringle do you ever go to hotels? Because if you do, I hope you take your own sheets and towels with you. Because otherwise, that fluffy white towel wrapped around your head? Was almost certainly drying a stranger's asscrack a few days before.

Laundering works. Almost everything you use, even if you perceive it as pristine and new, has been thoroughly handled by a lot of other people at every stage of it's production and transportation (including much of your food). To be fine with this, but to baulk at something where the primary user has been someone else's newborn is taking irrational germophobia too far.

Your baby deserves new undergarments.

And I think this is the weirdest thing I've read on MN so far.

Did she gift wrap it or say I have something for you? It is a gift of sorts. My baby lost loads of weight and suddenly needed early baby preemie clothes. Some friends of ours gifted us a whole load of clothes. They weren't new but it saved us a fortune and we were just thankful for the thoughtful nature of the present.

In my youth everybody used cloth nappies on young babies as disposable ones caused nappy rash. Nobody I knew would have objected to used ones provided they were unstained as you knew they'd been sterilised and new nappies were in the same state as the used nappies after one wearing. They are also very useful as cleaning cloths etc round the home when beyond further use.
Sounds as if the IKEA bucket was new?

If someone gives some disposable nappies in a hamper at a baby shower without "checking first" whether they intend to use disposables, are they also being "presumptuous" and "rude". Or does the "presumptuous" thing only apply to re-usable nappies?

I'ld say either kind of nappies are a safe bet. most people will use one or other kind, a lot will use a mix, and only a tiny number will do elimination communication from birth.

Well said, TinselTwins.

YANBU
It is GRIM!

What's grim about it, angeldelightedme?

Been deliberately thick again are we? OP has no issue with being given a gift. Her question is about been given a used item as a gift.
It's rude to give out used items without at least mentioning it to the person just because you maybe fancy a clear out.
It's great you care about the environment etc, the reality is you just can't keep giving out used stuff to people who may not want them.

the reality is you just can't keep giving out used stuff to people who may not want them.

..especially when said items have been shat in.

the reality is you just can't keep giving out used stuff to people who may not want them

People might not want the brand new stuff you give as baby gifts either

It's FINE to not want something you're given as a gift, but it's weird to be offended if a genuine gift giver missed the mark with your tastes!

Nostalgically thinking of the two-tier wicker stand filled with carefully folded triangles of sun dried terry towel nappies....so long ago now,

Gold label(expensive luxury),black label(good for four babies and 20 years of floor cloths and red striped flanelette for tiny babies.The biggest gift from one's Dm or DMil used to be a few dozen of 'your nappies'

Sorry,massively missing the point of your thread OP.

..especially when said items have been shat in.

Like I said upthread, angeldelightedme, I hope you always take your own towels when you go to hotels, or to stay with relatives.