My sister brought a half drunk bottle of wine to my dinner party

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

She is 28, not a student. She mentioned it was left over from her party the night before, but was "really good". I was speechless, AIBU to think this is rude?

Not to drip feed: she is self employed in a career where work is not always there, so she is careful with money, fair enough. But she makes a huge point of how skint she is every time we meet up (e.g. publicly saying in front of our friends oh i can't afford that restaurant I'll just have a coffee - fine but why the martyrdom, it's just attention seeking - restaurant was a couple of £ per course dearer than pizza express or similar where she would be ok apparently).

She is not skint. She lives (rented) in north London zone 3 naice area. She has savings for rainy day (sensible). She gets by fine.

Please tell me IABU or not because i am SO IRRITATED by her.

I just can't imagine being on any kind of formal terms with my sister. We would show up unannounced, borrow things, share things, etc, without giving it another thought. We don't have a perfect relationship, but I wouldn't like formality within my immediate family.

I guess this is kind of not the point though, as you are saying this is a symptom of bigger problems.

I've long thought it's silly not to be able to take an opened bottle of wine to share with family or a close friend. I mean really, it's wine, who cares?

I think if she had brought a full bottle too, or flowers, as well as the "really good" half bottle I would have been less

It's more about her not bothering to bring something (just grabbing leftover wine from her party) and being tight than about formalities.

Yanbu. It is rude. Nothing more to say.

She has form. She is not going to change.

Tbf if I go round to my brother's for tea, I don't take flowers or chocolate. Only to people I don't know well. Might take wine. Might not.

Might actually take a half bottle if I had opened it the day before and found it to be really nice in a 'here try this wine, isn't it realty good?' Kinda way.

She doesn't think like you about formalities. She has saving despite living in an expensive part of the world. She is renting, so paying a small fortune for someone else's retirement fund. She manages this by watching the pennies.

Unclench and enjoy the rest of Christmas.

She is and will remain tight with money.

One day you may even laugh about this!

Clearly you have some major issues with your sister. In a good relationship most folks would just say who gives a shit, it's about spending the time with her not what she brings, and hey Xmas is an expensive time of year, so if you can't do this at your sisters what hope is there. Calling her names in your subsequent posts is unpleasant. She's probably on another thread saying you're judgemental and don't understand she's skint at this time of year.

Personally no I wouldn't bring a half bottle of wine, but I can see why someone may think it's better than nothing if they intend to drink and I certainly wouldn't be posting about it if someone brought it to my home, so your issues are deeper.

She's your sister fgs, can you not be nice, cut her some slack. I honestly cannot see myself ever getting upset by one of my sisters doing that. Its Christmas, when u see ur sister try being glad to see her...

If it is good wine I would certainly bring it do all could enjoy. I'd probably bring a full one as well though. But I think it is a symptom of stuff with your sister. When I worked in a wine company people would often bring half a bottle of good stuff. Much better that than a bottle of Jacobs creek! PS what was the wine?

I would not say anything but i would be a bit miffed....i think its rude and would rather get nothing.