Just a water is fine....

[GinAndTeaForMe]

Every time my DF comes to my home, no matter what time of day, he will only ever accept a glass of water. If we've bought or made something specifically, he'll comment yuck! Just a water. Wtf?

My daughter only drinks water as does my best friend no big deal is it?

I only drink tea or water. Yabu

Maybe he just wants to drink water?

YABU. Water is healthy and cheap. I can't drink plain cold water (don't like the taste) and really wish I could.

I should clarify, although it may make no difference...

When I say make something, I mean food. If he comes over for lunch etc, always just a water.

I prefer water too. I'm not particularly keen on hot drinks and anything else has sugar or sweeteners in - I do drink fizzy drinks and juice etc but I don't want to drink loads of sugary stuff all the time.

I think YAB a bit U. A glass of water is fine.

If you know that's all he'll drink why be so concerned and insistent he drinks something else? Why make things specially when you know he'll only want water? I'm not sure why you're bothered by it.

Do you mean even if you offer him a meal or a slice of cake you've made he always only accepts water?

Does he eat at his own home?

Maybe he just likes water As an adult is that not allowed? My Mum only has water & the rare cup of tea when she comes over

What's the problem?

Yes, mynewbear, I haven't explained myself well at all.

Yes, he eats at his house.

Oh I see you mean food well maybe he just likes his routine with food ? Unless you've planned for him to come over for say dinner, them don't make anything

Ah. X-posted. So he's turning down any food that you offer too? I assume you've asked him about his food preferences?

So does he say Yuck!?

Why is that a problem for you? Guest wants water, I give him water. Let people have what they want. I guarantee tomorrow my mum will be trying to force alcohol on every adult the minute they walk through the door even if it's 9am. It's Christmas, go on. They just want tea or coffee or water. Then she gets all offended and tells them they're blighting the festive spirit. No. You're blighting the spirit by making others uncomfortable because they want what they want.

Do you mean that he declines to eat anything and just asks for water? That is a little odd to say the least, especially if he has been invited over specifically for lunch! Does he eat normally at home?

Yes, fru, but he refuses what I have on offer.

Maybe an anxiety thing?

How rude of him to say "Yuck" at whatever you offer him! Does what he eats at home differ so much from what you make?

How old is he? Do you know for sure he's eating at his place? Has he lost weight recently?

Surely there's no excuse for saying Yuck though. If it's not something he likes them he should say "Oh I had a late breakfast/lunch and I'm not hungry. I'll just have a glass of water" not Yuck! like a toddler

Ah, I see, in that case is is a bit rude/odd.

As someone with a minor eating disorder I try to be understanding of other people's food foibles though.

Must be a reason behind this. What sort of thing does he eat at home? Does he cook for himself or someone else cook for him? Does he eat out at restaurants etc?

Could be an anxiety, only eats certain things, won't try anything new etc...

He's been rude and unreasonable if he's coming over for lunch and then not even trying it and isn't telling you why.

But if he's popping around for a visit and your offering him a meal then that's different and you are unreasonable for thinking there is something wrong with him not eating it.

Maybe an anxiety thing?

GinAndTeaForMe, has your father's behaviour changed of late?

Only on mn would settling for a glass of water be seen as rude!