Just a water is fine....

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Every time my DF comes to my home, no matter what time of day, he will only ever accept a glass of water. If we've bought or made something specifically, he'll comment yuck! Just a water. Wtf?

I was at a bus terminal with my 9 year old grandson. I told him to select whatever drink he fancied from the vast selection of tinned and bottled drinks. After much consideration he chose --a bottle of water.
Pleased me very much

Oh ok. So he refuses to eat and only wants a glass of water? Yes, I can see why that would be annoying.

I have to be careful what I eat and some days my stomach isn't good so I'd probably be the same. I'd explain though!

I only drink tea or water .... why is it a problem?

Maybe he doesn't like your cooking and is trying to be polite?

I have a relative who won't eat or drink at my sister's house because he doesn't trust her to have clean cups and plates. He also won't sit down though. Could it be that he is very picky about cleanliness and only trusts things he was washed himself? I know, it's a stretch, but it's hard to think of a genuine reason why anyone would accept an invitation to lunch and then only have water.

I only drink water. Makes my MIL angry :( I have no idea why she cares so much what I drink

My BiL was like this, refused to sit down or eat/drink anything other than water, I knew him from age 19 and in his 40s (when we last spoke) he was still doing it. When he had kids they were like it as well, and his wife too, it was a control thing. If I had prepared lunch they'd cancel, saying that their kids weren't allowed x y and z food at our house (they could eat caviar and chips with chocolate for all I cares) then convinced elderly MiL that she had to bring her own food and drink to our house. She also made a big deal of theatrically announcing "yum yum I've had enough ooh I am so FULL" after a bite of her Christmas dinner. Cooking smells were particularly disgusting them, yet they all ate like horses at home.

Now "D"H has started it in his late 50s, every day I cook he walks in says "what's that?" - so I describe it e.g., its pasta with sauce, its chicken and rice etc and every day he makes a sick noise and face and says I can't eat that.

I think its a combination of controlling behaviour and anxiety

Burning bridges - that's so rude of your DH, I won't tolerate anyone saying "yuck" about food I or someone else has cooked, you can say "no thank you" or "that's not to my taste", but politeness is important to me.

Yabu, it causes no trouble to you to give the man a glass of water.

and if you know he won't accept anything else why would you bother preparing or buying something specially?

Saying 'yuck' to food prepared for you as a guest is extremely rude. Has he always been blunt, and was he odd with food when you were growing up? Does sound like something isnt right with him - maybe he's developed some sort of phobia about picking up a bug in other peoples houses?

Oh sorry I read it as that was what he drinks, not that he refuses food too - that is a bit off, especially saying yuck - very rude!

Only drinking water isn't cunty, but saying yuck is.

Its odd, though we had a regular guest when I was a child that would just ask for a cheese and pickle sandwich when he came round at mealtimes, even though there was food for him. Always a cheese and pickle sandwich.

Weird. Why can't he carry his own private supply around with him?

Weird and rude. Have you him tackled about it, OP?

Being on the other side of this i wonder if it's something similar. I had my gallbladder removed after pancreatitis and it left me with a somewhat irritable bowel. It meant that I opted to only drink water mostly, and tried not to eat while not at home because of the uh... Toilet unpleasantness, especially at friend's houses.

I only drink water. One reason the nation is so fat and unhealthy is they drink things other than water.

We water drinkers need to sit up and be counted and try to encourage everyone to move to our point of view.

Let 2017 be your year of only drinking water.

People drink all sorts of stuff which is dreadful for their health and eat far too much. Water is the way to go.

Only drinking water is fine.
The not eating thing - you'd have to tell js a bit more.
Do you mean if you happen to casually offer after he's popped in? Or that you invite him over for a meal, he accepts, then won't eat? - quite different IMO
Does he eat out anywhere else?
Has he always refused to eat outside his home? Or is this a change in behavour?

Nowhere does OP say he says Yuck!

Backforgood I suspect you are right !

So many people reading only the first post and completely missing the point. Exasperating.

It does seem odd that he refuses food when everyone else is eating and will only have a glass of water.
Is he at your home for any length of time where he would be going hungry?

Does he ever eat in restaurants / cafes or in anyone else's homes?

My husbands cousin will not eat anywhere apart from in her own home. She is very OCD on hygiene etc.
She ended up retiring early - because of her difficulties regarding eating and using toilets outside of her own home.

I would be quite insulted tbh. I would be wondering, does he think the cooking is horrible, that the kitchen is too dirty to eat food from it, does he not want to be around long enough to eat anything?
Why accept an invitation to lunch or drinks if you're only going to accept a water and turn your nose up to everything else?

iminshock "Nowhere does OP say he says Yuck!"

Why do you say that? He clearly does.