Would it be unreasonable to leave DH on his own Christmas night?

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Obviously, after the children are in bed?

A friend has texted me and invited me to hers for an hour or so (she is a single mum so can't come to ours) for a catch up, I really want to go. But before I ask DH if it's okay with him I wondered if I'm way off in thinking this is acceptable?

Cant see why that would be a problem.

It depends. My dh would love this so he could get some peace and quiet and control of the remote! Ask him?

Depends on your relationship and Christmas traditions but I would say go. I'd be perfectly happy to chill with some leftovers and a bad movie alone for a few hours if my partner wanted to go see someone.

Why don't you ask him?

Totally.

Leave him with the Blackadder and Bottom Christmas specials though.

Because I wanted to ask here before I asked him, in case everybody was like 'oh my god no how terrible I could never do that'. Thanks.

Not unreasonable to ask him if he minds. He's a grown up, I'm sure he'll be fine

Well is Christmas evening something you usually spend together and something special to both of you?

Not really.

I would do it.

But do make sure it's a wine/coffee/catch up and not a toy building/Santa duties thingy

I took this as meaning the evening of Xmas Day into Boxing Day rather than this evening but, if it was this evening, unlike a previous poster, I would ask if she needed help building toys etc &, if so, definitely go around as some of these things are two person jobs and, as a single mum, she may just need a hand.

Ah! Think you are right still and I have the wrong end of the stick.

Absolutely yes then. Surely dh will be glad to fall asleep in front of the telly

Yes, it is tomorrow evening. 25th.

Wouldn't bother me if dh did this later on once baby was sleeping. I'd just watch a film or have an early night.

Go, I think it's fine.

Christmas Day? To me it would be extremely U to go off to see a friend & leave OH alone. Once the children are in bed it's the time for curling up together sharing a nice bottle of wine, looking back on the day & enjoying being together.

Wouldn't do it Christmas Eve either but that's because we go to midnight communium at church & im always knackered.

I'd go but then it wouldn't occur to me that my partner would have any reservations. You're not each other's keepers.

Im sure it would be fine here we splodge on the couch watching christmas telly anyway Im sure your dh wouldnt mind remote to himself and your friend miggt be chomping at the bit for company and a chat.

Yeah but vlad one person has said they would find it very unreasonable. So not everyone is the same.

What do you usually do Christmas night ? My dh usually nods off then goes to bed by 9 leaving us

Nothing! Christmas isn't a massive deal really which is why I know sometimes I can do something and people gasp and go oh gosh but Christmas ... So I thought I'd better check on here.

I think it would be ok - unless you've got a romantic meal and sex by the fire planned!

If it's a close friend and the only time you can see her it seems OK. I'd personally find it odd but that's because I'd want to be with my dh Xmas day evening. We've been busy lots of evenings in the run up to Xmas so time together is precious. For me Xmas day is home and close family.

Just say husband im nipping round to friends tomorrow night do you mind.