To change my body even tho my husband doesn't like it

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I was fat and unfit.
I'm now thin and fit, muscular but I want to build more muscle.

My husband likes fat women.
He doesn't like muscles.
He doesn't like that my boobs are smaller.
He doesn't want to hear anything about fitness at all, I'm not allowed to talk about the gym etc
He isn't interested in my achievements (weight I've lifted, distance/time I've run)

It's really getting me down but I really really want to do this for myself

I want to know how you did it?! Wow!

Incredible achievement

Wow well done! You should be so proud of yourself. I agree with pp that he must be insecure and jealous to say such things.

When a man really loves you they want you to be fit and healthy and slim so you live a long time.

Keep doing it for yourself, it's your body, your self esteem and your health. Well done on what you've achieved.

He sounds very negative about it all to the extent where it is probably saying something about his self esteem or his perception of your relationship. People can get quite "othering" about exercise because it hits a conflict of guilt that they know it's healthy Vs whatever prevents them from doing it.

People do different things. It's possible to go too in depth on any topic, but equally, we'd all get very bored if no one talked about what they did. Saying that you've run x km is no different to conversation about work/ last night down the pub/ football team winning a match/ something in the news. Well actually, it's more personal than many of those topics, and we should be proud of our achievements and be able to share them with the people that are supposed to love us.

Look, whethet he wants you fat or thin at the end of the day its your body and your life.
Do what you want with your own body.

You have lost a huge amount of weight and probably an unhealthy life style. He has lost a cuddly woman and gained someone who wants to share with him her achievements. He does not see it as your achievement, only his loss.

On the surface he seems selfish and insensitive but if he has underlying insecurities he could be verbally lashing out. Whatever his reasons, your body is not his property.

Assuming he is generally a nice guy (and I hope he is as you married him!), then I think either:

1. he might like to lose eighth himself and is a bit jealous, or

2. he is genuinely attracted to bigger women- and if it's this, it might be a deal breaker- sometimes we can't change what turns us on.

Also, it is possible your going in about it a bit- new hobbies are fun anyway, but people who do a big lifestyle change do sometimes bang on about it- born again non smokers for example! But obv this might not apply!

As much as there are some people who find fat ugly there are also some who genuinely find it attractive. If he met you as a larger lady he was attracted to your apprearence at that size. You can't change what a person finds attractive. They will still love you for you but not find how you look attractive. A bit like some people finding tattoos attractive or not or beards etc. He may be missing how you were. He should keep it to himself but I imagine that's hard as you're the person he tells all too.
Keep going with your hobby and be proud becsuse you deserve to be.

You have done a great job, well done!

He may be worried about you though. It can become a bit obsessive, and he may need reassurance that you will stay healthy and jot go overboard with it.
Compulsive exercising is a problem,mad well as compulsive eating.

I'm not saying you have a problem, just that he may need reassuring that you don't.

You've done amazingly well! I'm nowhere near as good as you but I have lost 4 and a half stone this year and have become (a little bit) obsessed with my increasing fitness. At 47 this is the lightest and fittest I've ever been. My DH who I only met 5 years ago does prefer curvy women but at a size 12 and 11stone 10 I'm still curvy, you can just feel bones that weren't there before! He's been really encouraging though and tolerant of my new love of clothes shopping!