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To postpone Christmas day and tell my ex to fuck off?

93 replies

brooklynbaby · 23/12/2016 14:54

Posted another thread last night about having norovirus and pretty much being glued to the bathroom floor. I feel absolutely terrible.

Dd's dad was out drinking last night and I asked him to come and look after her today as there's no way I could. He came and took her to nursery and picked her up at 1 - all fine. He's been in a mood with me all day because he's actually had to be a dad for a few hours and is in a mood because I said I can't cook christmas dinner on Sunday - we were supposed to be having a nice day for dd's sake. He's pissed off that I can't pick up the turkey that I ordered because how on earth can I go out in public when I'm contagious and needing the toilet every 5 mins?

He's now leaving and saying that I'm putting on crocodile tears and that I need to man up. What the actual fuck.

AIBU to tell him he's not welcome here on Sunday? I don't want him anywhere near us.

He says he doesn't have to look after dd if he doesn't want to and asked why he should do me any favours.

I'm gobsmacked.

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GrumpyOldBag · 23/12/2016 17:12

You have my sympathy OP as I'm struggling through noro at the moment too.

And I think the best thing you can do is pass it on to your Ex.

Then he might 'get it'.

Christmassnake · 23/12/2016 17:21

What a silly man....I feel dodgy at mo too....but I'm battling on hope you get well soon x

Lorelei76 · 23/12/2016 17:22

OP his behaviour has made me do something I've never done before
I wish norovrius on him (but only if he stays home for two weeks and doesn't give to anyone else).

What a revolting man.

brooklynbaby · 23/12/2016 17:41

I'm going to make sure he gets it one way or another. I actually want him to suffer. I never thought I'd feel so negative towards him.

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Jux · 23/12/2016 17:42

Horrible man. Note down what he said about looking after his own child, along with notes of everything else. Date everything as well as you can. Then text him not to come near you and that if ye does you will call the cops. If he does turn up, call the cops.

Diarise everything. Then see a solicitor and take him to Court to organise contact.o

cestlavielife · 23/12/2016 17:48

Just don't.
Sunday will be much nicer without him.
There is never a good reason to spend time as " happy " family with an abusive ex

Wonkydonkey44 · 23/12/2016 17:54

Sure he's not my ex! I've had a very similar text this week. Get well soon x

brooklynbaby · 23/12/2016 18:42

He's got it Grin mwahahahahaha

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RolfsBabyGrand · 23/12/2016 18:47

Ha!

Wonkydonkey44 · 23/12/2016 18:51

I love karma!

brooklynbaby · 23/12/2016 18:54

He's being all nice with me now

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EZA15 · 23/12/2016 18:59

Tell him to man up the minute he tells you to man up!

LittleBooInABox · 23/12/2016 18:59

Haha!

Well that settles that, he can't come now for fear of infecting DD who has so far got away with it! touches wood

Lovewineandchocs · 23/12/2016 19:01

He can't blame you for infecting him as according to him there is nothing wrong with you! You'll be better by Christmas Day hopefully and he'll still feel like shit. HAAAAAA!!!Xmas Grin

Butterymuffin · 23/12/2016 19:05

Grin Time for him to man up, I guess!

Don't let him come to yours. Call the police if you have to.

RandomMess · 23/12/2016 19:06

I think you need to put in some boundaries of steel and go down the route of mediation/court agreed contact as he's shown what a nasty abusive arse he is...

Didactylos · 23/12/2016 19:18

what a shame there is no way of making it permanent...
how are you feeling in yourself
if you are near me I would happily help

brooklynbaby · 23/12/2016 19:37

I'm feeling better than I did last night/this morning but still feel dreadful.

He was asking me if I had any spare buckets for him to be sick in and if he could have some diarolyte. Get on your bike lad.

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ShebaShimmyShake · 23/12/2016 19:40

Of course he's being nice, he wants you waiting on him hand and foot while he's sick. Ask him why you should do him any favours (or whatever he said to you when you asked him to parent for a day) and enjoy your twat free Christmas, with norovirus behind you.

And don't worry about revenge. There's nothing he can do and if there were he'd be too thick to think of it. I'll have a sherry for you and your daughter on Christmas Day.

ohfourfoxache · 23/12/2016 19:45

Brooklyn that is absolutely fucking fantastic Grin

I've just laughed so hard that I've cried down my leg a bit Grin

EweAreHere · 23/12/2016 19:52

Ha!

Karma.

Don't do anything for him! And do tell him to man up when he complains about how terrible he feels.

flippinada · 23/12/2016 19:52

What a vile man. Please tell me you aren't looking after him?

He deserves to spend Xmas day on his own with pukearrhoea.

ShebaShimmyShake · 23/12/2016 19:56

"Sorry, I've got no spare buckets or Dioralyte because I've been puking and shitting for days while caring for our daughter, since you said you didn't have to look after her or do me any favours. Luckily I'm feeling much better now, just in time for the festivities. Merry Christmas!"

(If you're not 100% better on Christmas Day, just say you are!)