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Aibu to think this text is wishing me dead?

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dollyshouse · 23/12/2016 13:19

Not seen or heard from my brother for 4 months after a falling out over me looking after his son then gets a text last night as though nothing happened saying he has card for us and can he call round in half hour to drop off and also pick up wii nunchuck he gave me over 5 years ago and that he'll have kids in car (ages 4 and 1 at 8pm?!?) so he'll just stop and grab. I text back saying sold all wii stuff couple months ago didn't realise anything was his then I got a really nasty text saying I now owe him a nunchuck immediately and that he's so furious with me and I've had it years etc I felt angry at this point and text back karmas a bitch that's exactly how I felt when I lent your gf a fancy dress outfit waited two years to get it back and it was ruined and that I was poorly please don't text again I don't need your shit just before Xmas. I've done loads for him over the years, given him stuff for house helped him doing cvs job prep interviews, saved his house for him doing all legal stuff when ex trying to stiff him the list is endless. His gf doesn't like me is nasty and blanks me but goes overboard Trying to speak to my kids and partner. Gets this text off him: 'It's always all about You isn't it, if karma really is a bitch then you should get yourself to hospital you may die! Don't text me ever again you make me poorly with your shit, maybe you've swallowed too much of your own shit and that's why you're ill? Goodbye and fuck your card! THE END' I feel really upset as I interpret this that he's saying I deserve to die? Am I overreacting? Feel very upset and partner very angry with him

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dollyshouse · 23/12/2016 13:43

He gave it me over five years ago I didn't realise it was a loaned item and to be honest it didn't even occur to me when I sold it as a job lot, I mentioned the fancy dress outfit because I made it myself years ago it took me forever and it took two years of requests to get it back first being told I'd had it then it had been given to my mum and then finally a few months ago turning up ruined no apology whatsoever and yet the advice I'm being given is to suck it up apologise myself and buy a new nunchuck and disregard the karma and dying comment? Seriously?

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BillSykesDog · 23/12/2016 13:44

I'd love to hear the other side of this...

ZefStar · 23/12/2016 13:45

YABU. Stop being such a massive drama llama. Cut contact with your brother too though as he's also a massive drama llama. Or invite him for Christmas, film it and post it on here

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 23/12/2016 13:46

and I thought the annoyance I had with my brother over our mum's christmas present was stupid.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 23/12/2016 13:46

Zef Grin

BalloonSlayer · 23/12/2016 13:47

When he said you owe him a nunchuck you could have said "Ok will replace it asap, but as you point out you hadn't been back for it for years so I just forgot it was yours, but apologies obviously" then get one from CEX for £2 after Christmas. This would have diffused the situation. Then you start slagging off his girlfriend . . .

Not that you deserve the text you got but he was clearly pissed. Plus, reading between the lines he was probably supposed to source nunchucks for Christmas, it was his ONLY job, he hadn't done it and has last minute remembered that you have got one.

TheNaze73 · 23/12/2016 13:49

I'd love to see his side of this.

It sounds like a playground quarrel

Mynestisfullofempty · 23/12/2016 13:50

I agree 100% with BalloonSlayer. That's exactly what you should have said.

Doobigetta · 23/12/2016 13:50

Thanks OP, it's not often I get to feel smug about the relative maturity of the relationship I have with my brothers Smile

dingdongdigeridoo · 23/12/2016 13:50

It's better not to engage with this kind of drama. You probably should have offered to replace the nunchuck. There are thousands on ebay.

Just block and move on. Any reply will fan the flames.

ollieplimsoles · 23/12/2016 13:50

"Oh do nun chuck off brother dear"

Post reply here.

GoLightlyHollie · 23/12/2016 13:50

What the fuck is a nunchuck?

Guavaf1sh · 23/12/2016 13:51

YABU. You're both like children

NovemberInDailyFailLand · 23/12/2016 13:53

Balloon Slayer is right. You both sound very volatile.

Original poster
dollyshouse · 23/12/2016 13:54

Knowing my brother he would have been doped up and/or drunk anyway so a reasonable response saying he'd get a new one after Xmas wouldn't have cut the mustard trust me. I accept I am being a bit of a drama queen and childish with my response, I am ill at the moment and thus not always thinking straight but the dying karma comment I felt was a bit too far

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Costacoffeeplease · 23/12/2016 14:06

Six and half a dozen, block and ignore, grow up

ProseccoBitch · 23/12/2016 14:08

You sound like a pair of twelve year olds.

SpeakNoWords · 23/12/2016 14:10

Yes his response was childish and petulant. But, you know karma isn't actually real, yes? So he's just basically gone "waa, waa, waa" in text format. It means nothing, try not to fixate on it.

If you want to continue having slanging matches then fine, but maybe someone ought to step back and grow up? You seem the more likely one out of you and your brother to do that.

Tartyflette · 23/12/2016 14:13

Clearly he's a dick but try to just let the horrible comment go, there's no point in doing anything else. Forget it and enjoy Xmas.
That's easy to say, I know, but if you keep telling yourself you're going to rise above it, you probably will! Eventually.

mumofone1234 · 23/12/2016 14:14

Today I learnt people still play with wiis

TheZeppo · 23/12/2016 14:16

Loving "nunchook off dear" 😂

Xmas brings out the best in people doesn't it?

chocolateworshipper · 23/12/2016 14:18

block his number and forget him

kittymamma · 23/12/2016 14:20

Fights with siblings can be so much fun can't they? So easy to forget that you aren't both 6 years old... My sister and I fell out for months because I called her dog a "bad dog" to my child when it hurt her. In the same way you may tell a child that a chair or a table is bad... months I tell you!

Really though... get over it... Don't reply, don't read into it, delete it and don't give it a second though. I also wouldn't replace the nunchuck. If he lent it to you 5 years ago and has only just asked for it back, it was not a loan. I leant my sister a hairbrush 8 years ago when we had both moved home to our parents, I saw it in her house last time I visited (she's moved twice since), commented on it looking familiar. She grinned, we both accept the hairbrush is now hers.

LynetteScavo · 23/12/2016 14:31

I think you both need to go to your rooms.

GrumpyOldBag · 23/12/2016 14:37

You sound as bad as each other.

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