Aibu to think this text is wishing me dead?

[dollyshouse]

Not seen or heard from my brother for 4 months after a falling out over me looking after his son then gets a text last night as though nothing happened saying he has card for us and can he call round in half hour to drop off and also pick up wii nunchuck he gave me over 5 years ago and that he'll have kids in car (ages 4 and 1 at 8pm?!?) so he'll just stop and grab. I text back saying sold all wii stuff couple months ago didn't realise anything was his then I got a really nasty text saying I now owe him a nunchuck immediately and that he's so furious with me and I've had it years etc I felt angry at this point and text back karmas a bitch that's exactly how I felt when I lent your gf a fancy dress outfit waited two years to get it back and it was ruined and that I was poorly please don't text again I don't need your shit just before Xmas. I've done loads for him over the years, given him stuff for house helped him doing cvs job prep interviews, saved his house for him doing all legal stuff when ex trying to stiff him the list is endless. His gf doesn't like me is nasty and blanks me but goes overboard Trying to speak to my kids and partner. Gets this text off him: 'It's always all about You isn't it, if karma really is a bitch then you should get yourself to hospital you may die! Don't text me ever again you make me poorly with your shit, maybe you've swallowed too much of your own shit and that's why you're ill? Goodbye and fuck your card! THE END' I feel really upset as I interpret this that he's saying I deserve to die? Am I overreacting? Feel very upset and partner very angry with him

[UnicornInDMboots]

To think of all the exciting fights like this I could have been having if I wasn't an only child!! Feel like I've missed out on some squishy brotherly love.
I don't even know what to say but um chill out both of you or you'll both get sat on the damned naughty step.

[Bunnyfuller]

Or you could have said 'oh bugger, I sold all the Wii stuff - didn't realise there was something of yours in there - can I give you a few quid to replace it?'

That would be a reasonable adult reply. You both clearly have no control over your tempers and have not learned that tit for tat as adults is pathetic at its least damaging, and ultimately very destructive. You're as bad as each other.

[JigglyTuff]

And you both have children? Dear god

[SantasJockstrap]

Block his number.

[TwitterQueen1]

Grow up - the pair of you. How utterly ridiculous you both are.

[dollyshouse]

Thank you to all the replies that were constructive and helpful, to all the other judgemental, sarcastic, 'should have, would have' group of whom there were far too many I'm shocked and words fail me, it must be exhausting being so damn perfect is all I can say.... I have not replied and have blocked his number I don't need the negativity nor the aggro....merry Christmas everyone!

[dollyshouse]

Oh and I forgot to say thank you for all the insults as well, an extra special merry Christmas to you lot

[TheSlaughterOfHerodificado]

What's a nunchuck?

[DesolateWaist]

What did I just read?

[SpeakNoWords]

A nunchuck originally is a weapon used in martial arts made of two short metal poles ties together with chain, that can be swung around to fight with. The Wii games console uses a similar looking controller that has two parts held together with a wire, also called a nunchuck.

[Bluntness100]

He's not wishing you dead, in fact the opposite, he's said get yourself to a hospital as you've doled out so much shit that if karma was a bitch as you said, you would die, so you need to get to a hospital to prevent it.

Clearly the relationship is very toxic, don't respond. To be honest neither of you is playing nicely. You could have taken the high road and said sorry you didn't realise about the nunchuck being his and you'd sold it. But instead went on the attack. No one comes out of this well.

[sleepingkoala]

You lent the dress the his girlfriend? So what was his part in that and why are you annoyed at him about it?

Anyway it sounds like you both have unresolved resentment towards each other which escalates a little thing into a dramatic argument.

And he was obviously angry and made a really horrible comment but don't it to heart. He was just playing on the karma thing which you said to him, being childish and trying to one up you. Obviously it's out of order and I assume yo haven't actually killed someone so wouldn't die if karma was real. But I don't think he meant it literally.

Anyway I think you both need to learn how to not escalate arguments, be nicer to each other and deal with your grievances with each other calmly and maturely as they arise. Otherwise you will both get nowhere with each other if you want to still be friends at all.

[YouOKHun]

LynetteScavo

[viques]

will it ruin your Christmas not having a card from him? Then move on. Sounds as though you had not bought presents for his children anyway since you did not mention them so best just to ignore texts in future. I have a handy device on my phone called a delete button, have you got one on yours?.

[viques]

Omg I have just realised there are three pages of this sibling love fest. Think I will bow out now.

[DoosyFartlek]

You over reacted to his text (could have said sorry have sold it but will replace it for you) and then he over reacted to your text. So you're equal.

[Jux]

Karma isn't real. You don't need to get upset, any more than he does, unless you want to.

What has happened between you and your brother that has made you treat each other like this?

[Atenco]

block his number and forget him

Whoa, so this spat that got out of control is a good reason to cut out a sibling?

You did handle that situaton very unwisely dolly, probably because you are sick and not your brother's biggest fan.

[pklme]

I wouldn't worry exactly what he meant, why he said it, what you should have done. The long and the short of it is that the two of you don't get on and are happier avoiding each other. I'm not saying you are equally guilty, just that you can't do anything about him, only about you.
Avoid him, don't get involved.