to be dying to know why ive been unfriended by old aquaintances on Facebook?

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Background so i dont have to dripfeed:
4 of us in a friendship group. Me and person A best mates for 10 years (since 12 years old), but fell out about 10 years ago for something relatively serious. persons B also fell out with A about the same thing and person C fell out with A shortly after.

I only really knew B and C because of A but after I fell out with A i stayed friends with B and C for a while and then it sort of just faded out. No bad feeling, just our lives took different paths. B and C are good friends. But since I joined facebook about 8 years ago, B and C have been my facebook friends. There has been next to no actual contact, but we like each others photos of kids and weddings etc, that sort of thing.

I am aware, through facebook tagging etc that B and C have recently reconnected with A and they seem to be in regular contact, going for drinks, each others kids' birthday parties, meeting new babies etc.

Anyway, this morning whilst just browsing facebook i clicked on the 'likes' on a post of mine from last week and noticed that C had 'liked' it, but now there is an icon next to the 'like' asking me if i want to add as friend. She would not have been able to see my post if she was not my FB friend last week. I also noticed that B was not cited as a mutual friend. I know that B was my FB friends last week as i commented (nicely) on one of her photos that came up on my newsfeed. Therefore it seems that both of them have decided at the same time to unfriend me.

I doubt that it is at the request of A, as she would be the type of person who would prefer B and C to be able to see my profile so that she could have access to it too.

And i literally havent seen any of these people for over 10 years.

So the child in me is DYING to know why they have unfriended me. Any ideas?

Im not obsessing but im not going to labour the point because this is AIBU and a thread about Facebook so I know people prefer to think that im sitting here crying about being unfriended or about mumsnet not believing me etc

I don't think you're obsessing, OP. I agree that it is curious and I would wonder why as well.

You've posted that you are bored at work; pre-Christmas doldrums, I suppose. On a normal work day, I imagine you wouldn't give this much thought.

hungry your situation sounds tough and you are being sensible not to share much or connect with certain people but I really don't think it's like that in this situation.

B and C are quite unlikely to know anyone else that I know unless A also knows them, and A and I do have other mutual FB 'friends', including some of my actual friends and a couple of members of A's extended family.

It's very bizarre and that's why I'm intrigued.

I get what you're saying OP. It's not about being obsessed or unable to let go or allowing people to take up headspace it's just an odd little event that's piqued your wild curiosity at this moment in time. There are those who say: who cares about what's going on with people you were once closely involved with and no longer are? Let it go, move on.
And they're right and we should do as they do but we lesser mortals have character flaws that make us susceptible to momentary reversions to the 'schoolyard' when we get a sudden reminder and we get a bit nosy and we want to know the gossip . Did our former nemesis crash and burn (ha ha ha, karma) or, gallingly, soar to unimaginable heights (well, yes, she's rich, gorgeous and famous but it doesn't mean she's happy does it? < resentful sob>) curious minds want to know.

This thread has prompted me to cull my facebook friends list!

I regularly cull people I haven't seen in years. I literally only have people who are in my life at the moment on mine.

I culled my Facebook account about ten years ago. It's great. I have no Facebook agnst.

I was culled by a lady and her husband I knew through our children going to pre-school dance. At the time I was 😮 But actually it made sense. Unlikely to ever meet up (except at mutual friends party twice a year) although I was active in the 'liking' and conversations of her posts. The last being I did not understand something about a sci-if programme and seemingly (as they are six-if freaks) they got offended by it, though not sure why as I wasn't genuinely confused!!

Anyways, with me being 'ousted' from work recently, I culled everyone who worked there or who had connections.

It felt great. Do a cull yourself. I do it regularly and unfriendly those I have no intention of socialising with over social media and never like it see their stuff.

It's like baring your entire life to a random bloke in your village

What was the serious thing?

I delete people all the time. If I don't see them in RL, they go. I've no interest in having acquaintances on Facebook. I've even deleted family that I dont see or see once a year.

Bin Facebook and loose the angst (you'll reply that you are not bothered or concerned and merely curious, but the fact is that it is bothering you hence posting about it)

I feel liberated since I closed my account

poo I was sexually assaulted by someone that we all knew. 'A' chose to support my attacker in the fallout as she was more concerned about her social standing than my welfare.

Wow, you are well rid then.

I wouldn't worry about B and C, it just sounds as if they have decided it's a bit pointless having you as an acquaintance. Coincidence that this has happened after they have got badk in touch with A though....

And as they have, it means they forgive/don't see anything wrong with what she did and I wouldn't want any of them in my life.

Yep deffo well rid Harry!

It was just curiosity as to what prompted that joint decision to take the action of removing me.

But anyway I'm not sitting at work bored anymore so it's much less interesting today