To not risk us catching this?

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My 3 Dsd's were due to come over today but two of them have the dreaded sickness bug. The eldest one (who does not have it or has had it already) I have said I would still rather not come today just in case. I have a 9 month old and don't want her or us to catch it.

Not sure when they would be uncontagious or what the best thing is to do in respect of tomorrow.

Any help or opinions would be greatly appreciated.

It's one of their homes yes, but they have another. They won't be sleeping on a park bench if you don't take them in. Of course it's okay to wait!

I wouldn't have them over, I'd send DH round to theirs to see them instead. Still a chance he will catch it but it's better than having your whole house at risk. With a 9 month old I just wouldn't

I haven't read the full thread but felt the need to mention that if it is norovirus then it IS airborne if someone coughs or sneezes and it's an absolute bastard to kill as well.

It's airborne like someone else mentioned.

You do have to swallow the particles but if someone vomits around you, it's highly likely you can get it that way.

OP I would keep them round their mum's for now. It sucks, I know.

Given that you've said Ex wife is happy for them to stay at home and dad just wants to do the best then I would wait for the 48 hours all clear if I were you - it's MISERABLE having these sorts of viruses, and you don't want to risk it going to the poor baby who can't be told to keep her fingers out of her mouth, etc.

That said, it's all pretty quick: if the last vomming has already happened hopefully you could still have them for some of Christmas Day.

If it's going to be awful for them not to be at yours, could you have Christmas Day on Boxing Day instead? Your 9mo won't notice!!

divorced from the dad but his kids still come to me

Eldest isnt ill so if they want to come to yours why not?

Agree with Tanith, the only way to avoid catching this bug is to not touch your face at all (almost impossible). hand washing does not stop it spreading, bleaching may kill the virus, but every time an infected person touches a door handle, remote, toilet flush etc the virus will be back. You will not only put your baby at risk but also everyone you have invited for Christmas

unfortunately babies with older siblings don't get the luxury of that

Jesus Christ so some people think it's fine to bring sickness into your home and risk your baby's health when you don't have to, just because a baby with siblings rather than step-siblings wouldn't have the option of this? That's all kinds of twisted.

If they are still poorly and their mother is happy to keep them, leave them for a day.

Could your DH visit them there?

I would not risk it op. Not at all. For those saying it's fine; not it isn't and you aren't being unreasonable at all.

Give them a good 48 hours past the last episode and also see how the other child is, who currently doesn't have it.

I would no way risk it with a 9 month old. Whether it was Christmas or not.

As everyone is happy with the situation I'd just leave it as it is

Don't get the argument about how you don't have a choice if you have more than one child - i have a child with my exh and a baby with current DH. Exh also has a baby. If our eldest dd came down with d&v at ours I'd accept I couldn't (unfortunately) do anything about the risk to my baby but I certainly wouldn't put theirs at risk. I'd think the mother in this case would feel similarly - it's only a few days they won't see their dad for.

Fellow emetophobe here. YANBU ! There is no way I would have anyone in my house with a baby if they were infectious (48 hours clear) . Some bugs are not airborne , but Norovirus is and that's a nasty one.
Why don't you offer to do a second Christmas at new year , that way everyone should be clear of the dreaded bug.

As a parent you can't pick and choose when to have dc.

The mother has been dealing with the sickness bug, I think it far the father picks up the slack as well.

If their Mum is happy to have them extra at hers it really isn't an issue is it?

FGS if it's norovirus it's a really really nasty bug, Christmas or not why chance exposing even more people to it.

We were ill for a month after having it, excruciating stomach pains why risk passing that on to a young child if the parent they are currently with is happy to keep them there!!!

OP has clarified: the symptomatic ones are staying with the parent who currently has them.

The question is what is best for the one who is currently has no symptoms, and OP does not know if she has already had it (so v low risk) or not.

Any way to find out if she's had it already?

As a parent you can't pick and choose when to have dc

Not quite the case, as a parent with an equally commited and flexible co parent who agrees with limiting the spread of illnesses then yes you can.