To be really upset that my sister didn't ask me to be her baby's Godmother?

[KittensWithWeapons]

I know I am. I'm being really silly, and petty, and unreasonable. But, I'm really saddened by this. I've been on hand whenever my sister wanted me to help. I've stayed over, minded him, let sister and her DH have lie ins. I've spent three hours on a bus almost every week since he's been born, to either babysit or just keep my sister company. I really thought they'd ask me to be his godmother. But nope. Other sister who just swans in, holds him and poses for photographs, then buggers off on a night out is the Godmother. I'm really hurt by this. Please talk some sense into me!

YANBU OP, I would be hurt by this. You have been helpful and on hand when needed, it would have been lovely if your sister acknowledged this by making you god parent.

Was prepared to say YABU as a lot of people wouldn't choose aunts and uncles, but she has! I'm not surprised you're upset, but it might be that she is trying to encourage a better relationship between your other sister and the baby, as yours is already established?

Is the godparent sister older than you? Some people plan on working their way down their family. I'm my nephew's godmother and the only time I'm godmother over aunt is when it's something like first communion where I get a special invite. My relationship with him is identical to the one I have with his younger brother. I wouldn't worry about it.

Thanks all. I've had some time to mull it over, and am a bit less upset. Those who have asked if I'm generally overlooked, yes, I absolutely am. I'm the family facilitator. I arrange all the birthday celebrations, group presents, etc. Yet when it comes to my birthday, nobody really bothers.

But anyway. I suppose the reality is that being a Godparent isn't the only way I can be an important part of my nephew's life. I love him so much, I love spending time with him. We already have a gorgeous bond. His wee face lights up when he sees me. And my wee face lights up when I see him .

Yes, everyone tries very hard to please the younger sister.

Godparent sister is younger than me, btw. She and my older sister have a history of leaving me out.

But anyway, I'm going to focus on the wonderful relationship I have with my nephew. I'll be seeing him loads over Christmas, so I'm just going to relax and enjoy some lovely Auntie - Nephew time. Thank you all

I definitely wouldn't worry about it. I'm Godmother to one of my nieces but not the other. The only time I've ever used my Godmother title was when I bought my niece a card for her first communion. Other than that yes it was lovely to be asked but it's far better being favourite auntie to them both

I adore my nephew-It sounds like you have a similar bond with yours to the one I have with mine. All I'll say is, you'll reap the rewards when he's older-godmother or not, he'll not make a fuss of somebody he barely knows.