To ask what you think when people comment on a pretty face or smile?

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Is this a polite way of calling people fat, do you think? Or am I reading too much into it?

Could you give us a bit more context?

Some people do have a pretty face or a gorgeous smile though

Why does it mean your fat? In my world it doesn't mean that

I assume they think the person is pretty.

I don't know, I always thought it meant they think you're fat but want to say something positive.

My sister and I ALWAYS think it's because we're fat with reasonably alright faces. We laugh about it cause it's so fucking patronising

haha, I remember when a client, on being shown my wedding pictures, commented that my DH looked like "he had a great personality". Well he does, but I did take it to mean that he thought he was overweight (he is).

I think it's an odd thing to say to anyone to their face (unless it's in a romantic context), too personal, rude.

I think it means that they think the person has a pretty face or smile.

If someone says you have a "bubbly personality" that means they think you're fat

Lisa Riley always gets described as "bubbly"

Shark yes, this is precisely what I worry about!

I got described as bubbly on holiday this summer. I did not take it as a compliment, particularly!

Pretty face id take as a fat comment

Pretty smile id take as a compliment as some people have wonderful smiles.. like how some people smile with thier eyes.

You have such a pretty face vs you are so pretty/beautiful

Yeah I see what you mean

Still better than 'aren't you fugly?!'

I also think it means that they think the person has a pretty face or smile.

It depends if the person is fat.

So I've put on four stone over the past couple of years and have definitely noticed a change from 'you're so pretty' to 'you've got such a pretty face'.

Not necessarily.sometimes i get taken aback by certain features of a person.if i meet someone with such great eyes/smile etc i stare for a bit,then have to break the silence with a "you have lovely eyes".
Perhaps you don't realise how lovely your face and smile are

I think it depends on the person, I'm generally and genuinely described as pretty, but I'm five foot eight and size ten, so it doesn't mean I'm fat, Sorry I'm struggling with what you're asking, pretty and fat isn't one and the same thing,being pretty does not automatically mean you're fat, and being fat doesn't mean you're pretty, the two things are unrelated, but of course you can be both...

I always think it means they've got nothing positive to say about your figure ha ha.

I agree with a pp, 'pretty face' equals shame about the rest of you (my nana actually said this to me when I was a teenager) whereas 'pretty smile' just means you have a nice smile. It's too specific.

There is a difference between "you're pretty" and "you've a very pretty face" especially to the overweight.

Why can't I just be pretty as opposed to being limited to just my face

It's used to upset me but now I just laugh or depending on how many Stella's I've had, I'll ask them why they feel I need their judgement on my face

It wouldn´t even occur to me that they meant anything other than the person in question had a pretty face. I would probably agree and then think about something else.

They probably mean exactly what they're saying - that the person has a pretty face or smile

I always think it means they've got nothing positive to say about your figure ha ha.

I rarely comment on anyone's figure, due to how paranoid a lot of people are about their weight.

I'm still stunned at the amount of Mumsnetters who believe the words "You're looking well", actually means "You're looking fat"

You're looking we'll definitely means 'you've piled on a few pounds.'

I'm still stunned at the amount of Mumsnetters who believe the words "You're looking well", actually means "You're looking fat"

Worra it really does come across as 'you've got fat' to me, no one ever said it to me when I was a size 6. Now I'm a size 14 I get it all the time. Yeah I get it I had two kids alright? fuck off nan

Haha I use bubbly when writing children's school reports when what I really mean is that they are little buggers.

Tbh, I have never been overwhelmed by people wanting to tell me I am pretty, so this isn´t a problem I can relate to particularly well.

So appreciate that, those who worry that being told they have a pretty face means that they are fat. At least you are one up on me!