Is it reasonable to move?

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Wibu to move a long way away from children's father, though staying in the uk? Or is this not allowed?

Dream

I think you should talk to Women's Aid. You sound so conflicted but clearly very unhappy.

I moved 2 hours away from my childrens Dad. It was for work reasons, my now husband commuted every day to his work place and it was taking it's toll. I discussed it with him prior to the move and he said he's surprised we hadnt moved sooner.
HOWEVER
almost 3 years down the line and he is very ill, there is a chance he will have his license removed and my son still wants a relationship with him. At 12 he cant get a train alone (train change and hes slightly immature for his age) if his Dad looses his license it'll be down to me doing a 4 hour round saturday and sunday to allow him to still see his Dad, and I know it's something I really dont want to do....so consider how the children can have a relationship with their Dad if you move because you never know what the future holds and you may end up being the person who takes them back and for

I dint feel like I can speak to anyone. I did try the other day but my throat froze and wouldn't let the words out.

That's ok - it doesn't matter. Keep trying x

If you can't say the words then you can email Womens Aid.
Put a link to this thread in your message as well.
If you aren't ready to discuss things just yet then putting it down in words would be a good place to start.
Their email is [email protected]
They probably won't reply right away.
Unfortunately, this time of year is very busy for them.
Abuse ramps up a lot.
If you have absolutely no-one you can talk to then I would guess your relationship is very abusive.
You are alone and isolated but Womens Aid can help you to get away.
Take your time.
One step at a time.
e-mail them first and then build up from there.
Maybe talk out want you would like to tell people in a mirror to yourself when you are on your own.
The fact you are unable to share things with us speaks volumes.
You get away from him as far and as fast as you like!