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£50 bottles of perfumes for teachers!

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MsGameandWatch · 20/12/2016 14:33

Who can afford or even feels inclined to this? Honestly I am Shock. A child handed one over to her teacher at our school this morning. Have just googled it and the cost for this perfume varies up £90, if you get the larger bottle.

I honestly can't get my head round it.

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lovelearning · 20/12/2016 15:43

As a teacher I would like all parents to know that I would treat a child very favourably if they gave me an expensive present hahahahaha!!!!!

thatsnotmyusername · 20/12/2016 15:44

I don't buy teachers presents, certainly not at xmas. Maybe end of term for exceptional stuff, above and beyond etc. I am not that old and it certainly wasn't a 'thing' when I was at school. And I work in a job where we regularly get gifts but in no way at all do I expect them or think better of people who send me stuff.

lovelearning · 20/12/2016 15:44

As a teacher I would like all parents to know that I would treat a child very favourably if they gave me an expensive present Wink

problembottom · 20/12/2016 15:47

My DSis works in an international school in Milan and the teachers get some fabulous/ridiculous gifts. My personal favourite was a Fendi handbag which she passed onto me haha.

BeMorePanda · 20/12/2016 15:52

Perfume gets regifted as it's a highly personal item. So many people will take a whiff, go and not wear it.

It's not really a suitable thing to give as a gift unless you know the person and/or their specific tastes very well.

allegretto · 20/12/2016 15:59

We always get a class present - cost is about £3 per child. If someone doesn't contribute they are still included. Much less stressful!

ChocoChou · 20/12/2016 16:01

I have never given a Christmas gift to a teacher, ever. Am I in the minority?
I used to be a teacher and I never expected anything (although it was secondary which is a bit different from primary I think)

Hulababy · 20/12/2016 16:05

A teacher I know was given a half used bottle of perfume one year - does that count? :)

I have had some lovely gifts, ranging from homemade by the child to about £25 I reckon, over the years. Its always a lovely thought, and I love the messages on the cards/gift tags. Gifts are appreciated obviously but definitely not expected.

Mind you, I have just taken delivery today of a Christmas gift for DH, from a company he passes a lot of work to. As a Christmas thank you they have, again, sent a case of expensive red wine. That must have cost a fair bit. So definitely not just teachers!

greedygorb · 20/12/2016 16:05

I'm ok with this. If the parents are loaded £50 might be nothing to them. Maybe they can't be arsed looking for something that costs £10 just so other people don't feel bad. Presumably they thought it would be private. Lucky teacher. I'm jealous teachers get anything. I'm a leader at a voluntary organisation that works with kids. We all give up hours of our time during the week and at the weekends and the holidays and not a single one of the leaders got as much as a Christmas card. So Happy fucking Christmas! I'm just in a mood as I've got my ILS coming now.

NameChanger22 · 20/12/2016 16:05

That's crazy. We usually send a £5 box of chocolates to the teacher and the same to the teaching assistants. Most people don't send anything at all. Didn't it used to be an apple not long ago.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 20/12/2016 16:05

What are those parents expecting in return?

Do you always give to receive?Confused I don't,I give someone what I think they'd like depending on my budget. I'd happily give a nice teacher a Tiffany bracelet if I could afford to.

Why does it matter what other people give their children's teachers?

Judydreamsofhorses · 20/12/2016 16:08

I'm a lecturer and just received a lovely candle and box of chocolates from a group of students, plus Christmas cards from several others, which has totally made my day. I think it's possibly a bit different, as the gifts come from the students themselves and not parents, but mine often club together and get me something really nice at the end of their course (not usually at Christmas, this year is unusual, tbh). I would never hope for or expect a present, but it is really, really lovely to know you've been appreciated.

NoJimmyProtested · 20/12/2016 16:08

I teach Primary. Term isn't finished yet but I've so far got vouchers, wine, lots of choc, some hand creams etc, candles. I feel very lucky and of course don't expect a gift and would never treat anyone differently, gift or not!! .
Tbh Xmas gifts are usually mild compared to end of the school year which is when things sometimes get more fancy - vouchers, perfume, champagne etc. Agree that its personal, no-one should feel in any way obligated, but if you want to give something then obviously its very nice for us. I usually regift half the chocolate though as its just too much.

catkind · 20/12/2016 16:08

Who can afford it? Rich people, obviously. If you can spend £100 more easily than most of us spend £1, and you thought it might make someone happy to do so on perfume, why not? I've idly wondered in the past what I'd do for presents for people if I won the lottery; it wouldn't be a £5 box of chocolates anyway.

Who feels inclined? I would guess someone not that deep ("all women like perfume, that one's expensive, that'll do"), someone who thinks they have an idea what this specific teacher might like ("xyz perfume is just the sort of thing Miss A would like for a treat"), or someone who got it as a gift from Wealthy Aunt Ermintrude and is passing it on as they know they don't like it but it's an item of value.

1horatio · 20/12/2016 16:12

It's not really expensive (at least not of it's a nice one) is it?

But who does that? What if she hates the scent?! 😅

That's just ridiculous.

yaela123 · 20/12/2016 16:13

That's ridiculous! Most we'd spend is £5
Could it have been a joint present from a few parents?

NotWeavingButDarning · 20/12/2016 16:13

Oh gosh I gave a teacher perfume once when my children were at their previous snotty school. I had completely forgotten to get anything and suddenly it was the last day of term. I had just been given the perfume but never wear it so re-gifted Blush. Most of the parents gave similar ridiculous things there I think.

Conversely, another term we gave her eggs from our chickens, so maybe it all evened out Grin

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 20/12/2016 16:15

Why is it ridiculous?Confused

CryingShame · 20/12/2016 16:16

I'msure the teacher would need to declare a gift of that sort of value. DS makes his own gifts for teachers, so much less cost.

1horatio · 20/12/2016 16:18

Because that's not a gift you give to a teacher.

It's such a personal gift. I'd be quite embarrassed if a colleague gave me something like this for Christmas. And scents are really very personal...

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 20/12/2016 16:19

It's not that unusual to have expensive end of term gifts ( lots of my friends are teachers)

DixieWishbone · 20/12/2016 16:19

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 20/12/2016 16:20

Because that's not a gift you give to a teacher

It might not be a gift you give but lots of people do.

1horatio · 20/12/2016 16:20

Dame

Of course not. But a perfume?
Scents are a matter of personal taste. The teacher may hate the one she recieved....

Artandco · 20/12/2016 16:22

Parent probably just works for perfume brand And gets loads of freebies

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