£50 bottles of perfumes for teachers!

[MsGameandWatch]

Who can afford or even feels inclined to this? Honestly I am . A child handed one over to her teacher at our school this morning. Have just googled it and the cost for this perfume varies up £90, if you get the larger bottle.

I honestly can't get my head round it.

I used to think I was doing alright if I didn't get death threats (taught at a university)

I don't get the OBSESSION with teacher gifts on here - endless discussion, critiques etc etc. Giving a present (or not!) should be private(ish) and personal between the giver and receiver. Why does everyone get so worked up and want to know what everyone else is doing?
I used to be a teacher BTW

I used to work with a high-end beauty/perfume brand and had lots of free/ very heavily discounted products that I would re-gift - maybe this was the same?

llhj No need to be scarcastic. It was a genuine question for a teacher. And I didn't ask about the value of a gift.

I have asked a friend who teaches y1 and she said it feels like a slight but teacher friend of high school isn't bothered in the slightest.

I don't buy gifts for teachers at Xmas (DC - primary age - has made nice decorations that'll last if they want) and I'm wondering if my friends' views are representative.

I wouldn't be able to afford to spend £50 on a present for a teacher, but it's really up to the individual what they do or don't spend. Just because one parent spends £50, that doesn't mean everyone else is expected to. It's not a competition and I'm sure teachers will be fully aware that different people have different budgets.

I have received some quite high value gifts as a teacher. Not unheard of. Up to the parents. Would never, ever expect a gift though. Love anything homemade by the child actually.

In 15 years of teaching I'd have been embarrassed if someone got me such an expensive gift.

I made a huge error - went in cupboard and found a full box of chocolate truffles - which means daughters teacher got the open box with mostly wrappers in - oops

I thought it was going to be from the whole class which would be fine but as I teacher I don't think I could accept that from an individual student. We are advised to accept only tokens e.g. bottle of wine, box of chocolates.

Are you saying your friend feels slighted if a Year 1 pupil does not give her a Christmas gift. She's an idiot if that's true, 1. For thinking that and 2. For articulating it to another adult and thinking they won't think you're a total eejit.

I wonder the same though Iam. This year my teacher gifts cost about £60.00 total, which is an amount I notice at this time of the year where there are so many other demands on my purse, and I felt a bit worried that it looked cheap when broken down - basically flowers and chocolates. Nothing too amazing. I wanted to express thanks to the teachers who have given my child alot of care, but I wonder if they look st the gifts and feel frustrated /embarrassed at the expectations parents feel etc and wondered if I could avoid it gracefully next year.

I remember when I was at school, one of the boys parents had not sent a present, they both worked and had probably forgot. He gave her a small bar of chocolate he bought himself and some other kids laughed.

Our teacher went mad, and told us all very sternly that his bar of chocolate that he bought himself was the best one, of course teachers won't think less of the children whose parents buy less Jesus

M

a Tiffany bracelet

A pupil gives a Tiffany bracelet to her teacher.

What are those parents expecting in return?

Teachers should not be allowed to accept expensive gifts from pupils.

That would not be unusual in any of the schools my DC have attended.

To be fair by the time you've bought decent chocolates and/or wine you're nearly at the cost of perfume and unlike the former I tend to have bottles of perfume for regifting

I never give teacher gifts. I'm a public sector worker and we aren't allowed to accept gifts from the public so I find the concept of it being ok in another facet of public service rather uncomfortable. The kids write cards if they want to and if they asked me to facilitate a gift then I would of course.

We gave them home made magnet pegs. I don't spend £50 on my own dc.

I know a manager in cosmetics who receives expensive perfumes as a promotion from the manufacturers - ends up with far more than she can use so regifts them. It makes sense to give what you can get cheaply or for nothing.

Facilitate a gift

Some schools now insist on gifts from parents being below a set price and ask teachers to refuse extravagant presents.

Apparently it can be seen as Bribery.

As a teacher I would like all parents to know that I would treat a child very favourably if they gave me an expensive present
As it is I got a few parental complaints about homework deadlines last week instead of any gifts.

Why very bad taste? Teachers are the most influential people in our young lives apart from parents. I would expect a nanny to get a family level gift so why not a teacher? Our sons had an English teacher who instilled in them a real love for literature and a passion for creative writing, he always got a few bottles of very decent wine at Christmas - what's wrong with that? Teachers don't expect this and I'm sure he would have treasured a hand made card or a plant too, but we wanted to show exceptional appreciation for what he did for us.

The lecturer with the expensive presents needs to be very sure they are all declared and approved, there is probably a limit to the value of present that can be expected. At my university the (little known) rule is that personal gifts over £50 cannot be accepted. Gifts from students, who may want references written in the future even if they are no longer studying have to be treated with caution.

When DD was at primary, I'd send in a box of those nice Lindt choccies and a handwritten letter (although one year I gave her teacher a Christmas wreath thing (handmade and can be used every year) for her front door as we knew her mum through church and this teacher had just moved into her first house (after flats). She loved it and mentioned to us a few times that she'd "put up DD's wreath this week"
Perfume is so personal anyway. I'd hate getting strong perfume I'd never wear.