Do I believe in equality ? Yes but I'll never consider myself a feminist for many reasons:
Almost all discussions with feminists they seem to get angry
Those that don't care headbands on a baby or coloured cards I've seen described as. " just not intelligent enough to get it"
Most of the stuff I see now seems to be trivial things like being called love with very little focus on actually important things that women suffer modern day like FGM
There's a lot of hypocrisy especially concerning men:
- wanting to get rid of sayings like " run like a girl" but will still entertain " man up" and expressions like " manspreading " and " mansplaining"
- saying that whilst it's not female exclusive but the main aim is about women it doesn't make them anti men they use that and very similar tactics used against feminism to discourage MRA's" when surely they can focus on things men face, this isn't a one way street of course I've seen MRAs be hateful also in reality it should all be able to be peaceful and achieve their aims independently.
There's a lot of misrepresentation of facts for example the wage gap the often quoted figure is men vs women as a whole so a premier league star vs a nursery nurse, not a male nursery nurse vs female nursery nurse, sure there is a gap but it's generally minimal I once saw someone get majorly offended over less than £2 a month
Sometimes it's not even facts sometimes a well known feminist seems to have an opinion and it just gets made into a fact that you can't dispute.
Instead of equal opportunities it seems more about equal outcomes which in itself is forced is not equal.
Everything now is misogynistic a man can't just do something that upsets a woman he has to hate women. And there seems a general feeling especially on MN boards that men hate women as a whole.
I honestly think some get so entrenched in "feminism" that everything has an ulterior meaning
It's just for me I guess as a person who believes in equality It does seem anti men one rule for one, one for another I'm not pro men or women, and I know a lot of my reasons focus on men but I think it should as they are half the population and I don't believe I can consciously support one group at the expense of another, and I can't support feminists who won't denounce other feminists who openly talk about getting rid of all but 10% of men and basically treat them as slaves, it's just palmed of as a "thought experiment".
This is of course just my anecdotal evidence of what I've experienced through feminism it's not conclusive