He never bloody asks!!!

[Msqueen33]

I've never been keen to share my food or drink. The kids often want me to share which I do through sufferance and because they'd keep on nagging. Despite knowing this my dh has taken to just helping himself to my food. Say I pour a bowl of crisps instead of asking (I'm forcing myself to offer more and share without grumbling) he just takes! I've asked him numerous times to be polite and ask but he never does. AIBU to want him to ask?

I put a single bag of crisps in a small bow Because I detest the rustle of a crisp packet when I'm watching tv and I'm incapable of getting a crisp out without making a noise. So bowl doesn't always equal loads of crisps

Re only child comment - I am married to one! Hence have anecdotal experience of living with someone who has not been brought up to share.

So am I, and he shares everything. It's a consideration thing, not an only child thing.

If it's a big bowl, assuming it's for sharing is reasonable. If it's a small bowl, like a ramekin size, then it's clearly a single portion and your husband should go get his own.

Make it clear to him you don't care for people taking your food without asking, and if he does it again, you'll swat his hand! ;)

No not an only child 🙂 I have no issues sharing with my children and teaching them about sharing I'm more than happy ish to. The crisps was just an example of today and him taking something without asking. For anyone who cares the crisps were from a big packet. The irony being he'd go mad if I just took off of him. I think mostly it's just courteous if I've got something for myself that is clearly for myself if he wants a bit he just asks. Like I say the crisps are just an example from today.

Forget the crisps. You asked him to pass you your open can of juice and he drank out of it before giving it to you.

For that he should be bitch slapped.

He thinks I'm absurd. But I wouldn't go up to his plate and take something nor would I want my kids to take without asking. For me it's being polite. That said his mother use to wait on him hand and foot so I suspect he's never been denied. She probably asked him if he'd like food before her. My dad once pushed my face into my food as I was being cheeky.

Stop eating crisps.

There, sorted that for you.

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(A) that personal attack was completely disproportionate even if you do disagree with what I am saying. You clearly get a kick from throwing obscenities at strangers on the internet over nothing. Says more about you than it does about me;

(B) I note that you have made an equivalent "idiotic" observation about people from big families.

Ah I'd share my bowl of crisps with DP! The only time I got territorial with food was when I did Weight Watchers. I'd sit down with my packet of Skips or Quavers which I'd waited hours for and non dieting DP would merrily stick his hand in them. I'd want to brain him! I once did shout "I want to eat every one of these they are THREE POINTS" and he looked very alarmed.

My DH is getting better at this, but it makes me so angry. If I get hungry I become a really horrible person so I try to eat little snacks to prevent this. My DH doesn't get hungry so when I offer him something he turns it down and even criticises me for eating. And then he goes and helps himself to more than half of my carefully planned portion!

So no, yanbu. If he wanted some he should have said yes when you offered or got himself his own!