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MIL treads cat shit over bathroom and leaves it

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Chemistria · 17/12/2016 14:19

Ok so me and OH are having our kitchen done. We have cats. Cats at the moment live in the garage / go outside as we don't have a tray in the house.

long story short, one of the cats accidentally got left in the house last night. It went for a runny stinking shit in the bathroom, MIL stepped in it this early this morning, and after a lot of crashing around in there (washing her feet) she went back to bed and left the poo all over the floor.

As she'd woken DS up with the noise, and then me, I went to settle him and then noticed the awful stench coming from the bathroom and found it to be trodden in.

I went straight to her room and said that I think she might have trodden in cat shit. She was back in bed trying to go to sleep. She said "yes I did, it's disgusting"

I then spent the next 15 mins bleaching / disinfecting the floor with boiling water and everything else I could find.

Since then I've been called "getting on my high horse" for telling her she should have woken me or OH up immediately to clean it up. Also been called a brat for saying this.

I wasn't expecting her to clean it up but should she have at least told us?

OH now angry at me for causing an atmosphere, when to be frank I was disgusted by MIL attitude this morning.

Maybe I have overreacted but I'm 9 months pregnant and think that to save it being there any longer than necessary, she should've just bloody told us straight away.

OP posts:

AliceInUnderpants · 17/12/2016 22:08

For those who don't RTFT

THE OP DOES NOT HAVE A HUSBAND - HER OH IS ANOTHER PREGNANT FEMALE.

ExitPursuedBySantaSpartacus · 17/12/2016 22:36

Where oh where has has the op mentioned that?

AliceInUnderpants · 17/12/2016 22:42

I AS'd as I was sure I remembered reading other posts from the same username. I know it's bad form but I do feel the OH has as equally valid a reason for not picking up poo as the OP does, and didn't want to sit and watch the OH getting a virtual kicking when the OP wan't giving the full information - but I do think that was intentional on the OP's side.

LagunaBubbles · 17/12/2016 22:43

Alice I have read the entire thread - where does OP say that?

LunaLoveg00d · 17/12/2016 22:46

So much f both partners are pregnant and should be avoiding cat shit, even more reason to make sure that the many cats they appear to have in their building site cum house get out. Who deals with the shit normally, or are they the type of lovely cat owners happy to let their pets shit all over the neighbours gardens?

Still don't think it's the mother in law's problem.

yeOldeTrout · 17/12/2016 23:21

That's one hormonal household.

Ahickiefromkinickie · 18/12/2016 03:21

For those who don't RTFT

THE OP DOES NOT HAVE A HUSBAND - HER OH IS ANOTHER PREGNANT FEMALE.

So you actually mean for those who haven't advanced searched the OP?

Ahickiefromkinickie · 18/12/2016 03:26

OP, I know you said it would open a can of worms, but can you explain why you feel more responsible for having to clean the poo?

Unless MIL didn't want to disturb you, I think she should have warned you or OH about the poo so you wouldn't step in it too.

Is there an assumption from OH and MIL that you do the cleaning?

AliceInUnderpants · 18/12/2016 09:43

Ahickie No, reading the thread would have done.

Anyway, the OP doesn't seem to be coming back to this one, so everyone keep directing their anger towards an imaginary husband, that helps the situation enormously.

hmcAsWas · 18/12/2016 09:56

"Ahickie No, reading the thread would have done."

............

Again - it is not mentioned in the thread, until page 4 when two posters with stalkerish advanced knowledge of the op suddenly drop it into conversation.

Get your facts straight before you start hectoring posters to read the thread. A simple apology - oops I got it wrong, would have sufficed rather than trying to maintain (clearly incorrectly) that this nugget of information was apparent from the thread all along

AliceInUnderpants · 18/12/2016 09:58

I never said the "nugget of information" was apparent all along, but it had been mentioned in the thread, and discussed in a few posts, yet still more people were blaming the imaginary DH.

I guess RTFT is only okay when it comes to cancelling the cheque.

AliceInUnderpants · 18/12/2016 09:59

And what did I get wrong?

hmcAsWas · 18/12/2016 09:59

Oh dear Lord, I give up on you. You can't be reasoned with

AliceInUnderpants · 18/12/2016 10:03

hmc have you name changed part way through this thread because thus far our conversation seems to have involved one post each.

Bettyspants · 18/12/2016 10:10

Helpful to know both are pregnant and that certainly wasn't mentioned in the thread. Personally I think cants all over the place is a bit eugh particularly when you are BOTH pregnant (Lordy I couldn't handle that AND a toddler good luck) a close friend has recently had to give up work aged 39 as she is now registered blind. Due to toxoplasmosis her mother contracted in her car ridden house whilst pregnant. Be careful

Dazydazy · 18/12/2016 10:46

If the question is, am I being unreasonable, then (OP) I think the answer is no. I think if I got up and made the discovery you made I would react to it.

It is a very difficult set of circumstances. I don't think that the MiL was actually unreasonable either. If it had been me in her place I would have been upset, cross - and with very view clear and positive options. If I had then felt that I was being blamed, then I would probably have reacted to that, too.

Given the situation with OH, and the general upheaval, and the fact the the cat was probably disoriented, and probably ill, I can see that this is not a picnic for any of you.

miserablesod · 18/12/2016 11:19

I wouldn't be cleaning up cat shit if i was a guest in someones house, i would however think that it was grim to own a cat that shits in the house when there are children that live there.

Maybe she didn't feel comfortable waking you up early on a sunday morning.

AliceInUnderpants · 18/12/2016 12:04

Those talking about it being "grim" that the cat shat in the bathroom... the poor cat had been accidentally shut in a room and was distressed enough to soil itself to the point of diarrhoea. That in no way suggests that the OP has a house full of unsanitary cats that foul throughout the place.
Would you judge a parent who's child pissed itself in a scary situation, or an adult who had pissed themselves after being hit by a car, or terrified in some way?

Footinmouthasusual · 18/12/2016 12:17

I think this is one of the most entertaining threads I have read here in a long while.

mindthegap01 · 18/12/2016 12:18

Not had time to RTFT, but I have had cats for years and when I was first pregnant my GP screened my blood to see if I was resistant to toxoplasmosis. It turned out that I'd apparently never encountered it and therefore had no immunity to it. So yabu for cleaning up cat shit while pregnant.

toptoe · 18/12/2016 12:23

Pregnant women should not be dealing with cat faeces. It's dangerous.

www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/2620.aspx

baconandeggies · 18/12/2016 12:31

What an inappropriate title for that NHS article! Fortunately we live in a country where we have autonomy over their bodies so are free to make our own informed choices based on individual risk assessment.

AliceInUnderpants · 18/12/2016 12:31

So who should be picking up the cat shit? The young child?
Fact is that OP has cats, and cats will need shit picked up at least occasionally. Should they rehome the cats? There are ways to do it, that minimise the risks.

Crispbutty · 18/12/2016 12:42

I once stayed at a friends who had a dog which seemed to like shitting in the house. No way was I picking it up. Not my house not my dog. The same would go if it was cat shit.

Why on earth should the mil who is a guest pick it up??

Ubertasha2 · 18/12/2016 12:45

Hi OP,

Didn't have time to read entire thread (will probably do so later!), but am frankly appalled that your MIL didn't clear up the poop. How dare she clean her own feet, leave the shite and then get funny with you? What a cow! You or your DS could've slipped etc in it, or it could've been further spread throughout the place.

You are definitely not BU IMHO.

So glad I am single, I don't think I could put up with a MIL!!

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