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MIL treads cat shit over bathroom and leaves it

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Chemistria · 17/12/2016 14:19

Ok so me and OH are having our kitchen done. We have cats. Cats at the moment live in the garage / go outside as we don't have a tray in the house.

long story short, one of the cats accidentally got left in the house last night. It went for a runny stinking shit in the bathroom, MIL stepped in it this early this morning, and after a lot of crashing around in there (washing her feet) she went back to bed and left the poo all over the floor.

As she'd woken DS up with the noise, and then me, I went to settle him and then noticed the awful stench coming from the bathroom and found it to be trodden in.

I went straight to her room and said that I think she might have trodden in cat shit. She was back in bed trying to go to sleep. She said "yes I did, it's disgusting"

I then spent the next 15 mins bleaching / disinfecting the floor with boiling water and everything else I could find.

Since then I've been called "getting on my high horse" for telling her she should have woken me or OH up immediately to clean it up. Also been called a brat for saying this.

I wasn't expecting her to clean it up but should she have at least told us?

OH now angry at me for causing an atmosphere, when to be frank I was disgusted by MIL attitude this morning.

Maybe I have overreacted but I'm 9 months pregnant and think that to save it being there any longer than necessary, she should've just bloody told us straight away.

OP posts:

spooniestudent · 17/12/2016 18:03

So she left cat shit for someone else to step in? How old is you DS, because if he's old enough to go into the bathroom on his own then that's awful.
Why couldn't your DH deal with it?

SouthWindsWesterly · 17/12/2016 18:18

Right

your MIL is at your bombsite of a house due to building works a week early. That in itself I think is unreasonable but that's just me
your cats are probably mortified. They hate mess
your MIL should made the problem worse by walking the poo all over the room and then only washing her feet. If it had been me, I would have woken the host to ask where the bleach was. She was unreasonable to leave shit in the bathroom with a toddler in the house that she's clearly woken up.
your husband is being a twat. Calling a 9mth pregnant woman a brat when she's got down on all fours to clean the shit up is entitled, twattish and fucking out of order. He sounds entitled. Please tell me he doesn't walk all over you in other aspects of life? Your pregnant. He can pick the shit up.

SouthWindsWesterly · 17/12/2016 18:20

Oh - and the MIL is unreasonable as the OP is 9mths pregnant and shouldn't be cleaning up cat shit.

Crispbutty · 17/12/2016 18:20

How many cats are there??

ChickenVindaloo2 · 17/12/2016 18:23

Your poor cat was probably distressed too. I have a cat that goes outside but she still uses a litter tray as well.

diddl · 17/12/2016 18:24

It would have been nice if MIL had cleaned the shit up/woken her son, but really Op I think that you are angry with the wrong person.

When the noise woke you, why didn't you wake your OH to go see what his mum was up to?

sandragreen · 17/12/2016 18:33

Agree with PP - you are angry with the wrong person here OP.

Your DH allows his 9 month pregnant wife to clear up cat shit and then calls you a brat?

I don't blame MIL - not her cats and not her house, and I also agree I would not wake up a heavily pregnant woman that early unless it was a lot more urgent. I imagine MIL is well aware there was a gate to stop the DC treading in it. MIL probably assumed, like we all have, that her DS would sort it all out. If she is to blame at all, it is in raising such a fuckwit son.

crrrzy · 17/12/2016 18:35

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AliceInUnderpants · 17/12/2016 18:37

IIRC the OH isn't cleaning up cat shit as she's pregnant too.

KatharinaRosalie · 17/12/2016 18:39

If MIL knew that either she cleans it, or it must be a pregnant woman who does, she is most certainly unreasonable.

EastMidsMummy · 17/12/2016 18:39

A guest in your house stepped in some ::YUCK:: cat diarrhoea that one of your cats had shat in your bathroom and SHE's disgusting for not cleaning it up?? I've heard everything now...

diddl · 17/12/2016 18:48

I still don't see that MIL should clean it up tbh.

Op & her partner presumably chose to have the cats, be pregnant at the same time etc.

KatharinaRosalie · 17/12/2016 19:02

If they're outdoor cats they probably didn't plan to do much litterbox cleaning. Yes she's the guest but if I was a MIL, I would not let my pregnant daughter or DIL clean up potentially dangerous substances

abbsisspartacus · 17/12/2016 19:06

Why couldn't she have rolled the mat up and done a quick wipe up job ffs its cat poo not anthrax

Cherrysoup · 17/12/2016 19:09

Your mil is unreasonable for coming to stay for Christmas when there are building works and you are about to drop, don't care where she lives. I would have cleaned up had I stepped in shit.

raviolidreaming · 17/12/2016 19:10

Why couldn't she have rolled the mat up...

Because there is no mention of a mat?

happychristmasbum · 17/12/2016 19:14

And we don't know if OP or her OH asked MIL to come, for childcare for instance...................It's a jump to assume she has imposed herself. Unless I have missed something.

Mynestisfullofempty · 17/12/2016 19:15

custardy common courtesy would be for your friend to clean up her own vomit in her own house, not leave it for her guest to tread in and then clean up for her.

Catam · 17/12/2016 19:26

I have toxoplasmosis, caught it possibly from cats or goats, both of which were around all my childhood. It wasn't fun to have, or be treated for, and it can't be cured, only managed, but I was v lucky I caught it as a teen & not my DM when she was pregnant.

If your MIL knew the consequences of catching it she would not be so blasé about the whole thing.

I'm fine now but it can return and severely damage eyesight (I wasn't allowed to drive as a teen as it badly affected my eyesight, it has psychological affects too and catching it when pregnant can lead to encephalitis and brain damage)

I was in a support group and all bar myself were parents whose children had been affected in vitro and it was heart breaking.

I still love cats & have rarely been without at least one (& still love goats tho I don't have any of them currently)

Sensible precautions are great but I wouldn't diminish the potential seriousness of tp and my cats or not I would expect whoever to tell me asap if there was the possibility of contamination.

Of course that said I can laugh about my condition (BF thinks it's hilarious and jokes I've passed it on to him) but that's totally different to being blasé about the risks.

And OP isn't saying MIL should have cleaned up - just TOLD her - so it could be cleaned up asap - which is fair enough in my book

Bettyspants · 17/12/2016 19:33

Skanky. Yes it was horrible for her but to not even say anything is revolting. I'm sure she must have heard somewhere about toxoplasmosis? Nasty.

YorkshireTree · 17/12/2016 20:15

If why DH can't do it will open a can of worms it may be worth starting another thread. I'm relationships perhaps.

If you suspect as I do you will get a load of LTB responses, you can ask for other solutions. Or think about whether this particular can of worms is worth the trouble it brings.

JustanotherMortificado · 17/12/2016 21:03

Why should she clean up shit from your untrained cat, that's beyond vile I would have had to run a bath full of disinfectant and scrubbed my feet to fuck if I was her.

baconandeggies · 17/12/2016 21:12

untrained cat - the cat was accidentally shut in - the vast majority of cats hate being without access to either the outside or a familiar litter tray. This would have caused the cat distress - evidenced by diarrhoea rather than a normal poo. Shame the cat didn't wake anyone by crying to be let out though.

londonrach · 17/12/2016 21:22

Im sorry why would your mil clean your cat poo up. Im shocked at anyone on mn suggesting she should. Mntters who said she should if you visit family members do you clear up their dog or cat poo? Also as you pregnant you shouldnt either. your dh should. Theres no one else who can.

maddiemookins16mum · 17/12/2016 21:38

Yet again, on MN, it's the husband or MIL to blame. There is a far bigger story here that none of us (as usual)will ever know.

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