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AIBU?

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To be worried about dh?

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Lookinatu · 16/12/2016 21:57

He is on his works christmas night out, this will be the first night out he's had in 7 years. It's a bus collection and drop off thing and he's already drunk. The last message he sent was difficult to understand. The bus is not going to collect him for 4 hours yet. He doesn't go on any night outs and has been excited about this all week just worried what state he's going to be in. I think I know everyone is going to say hes a grown man ffs it's just I don't drink so no idea what it's like. Should I just go to bed?

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Lookinatu · 17/12/2016 06:55

Just came downstairs and found his clothes in the basket covered in sick

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Thinkingblonde · 17/12/2016 06:56

Mine doesn't do Xmas works nights out now, however one memorable one was the night a oliceman knocked on our door. I got the fright of my life when I opened it to see PC Plod stood there. I actually staggered. Thinking the worst.
He asked me to confirm my name, Yes, I'm Mrs Thinking Blonde.
"Your husband witnessed an assault on one of our officers, he's at the station giving a statement. He's going to be there for some time and because he stayed with the officer my boss asked if he needed to lett anyone know where he is. Mr TB asked if we could let you know where he is to stop you worrying."
This was in 1980. 3.00am pre mobile phones.
When I heard the knock on the door I thought "He's pissed and forgotten his key, the bastard".

Thinkingblonde · 17/12/2016 06:58

Oh dear, he'll have one hell of a hangover.

Sunshine59 · 17/12/2016 07:04

Oh no, hope you didn't have much planned for today?

iamadaftcoo · 17/12/2016 07:07

Why do people get this drunk? What's enjoyable about it?

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Lookinatu · 17/12/2016 07:17

Not much planned for today I need to pick up ds from his nanny's but its my work night out tonight so I wanted some time to get ready this afternoon. Because he doesn't go out really I can't be annoyed but he kept messaging me all night how many drinks he had. Don't see the point either to being that drunk.

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TheCatsMother99 · 17/12/2016 07:26

Gad he's home safe. I can understand your worrying, I worry about my DH despite the fact we both go out regularly!

ofudginghell · 17/12/2016 07:48

My dh has his works do starting today at 1pm.
I'm at work till 5 and then mine starts at 6.30pm so not going to see him before he goes

Got a busy day planned tomorrow so hoping he's not too bad when he gets home as his mum will be here babysitting.
I have laughed about the fact he will have his mum to deal with before me if he gets too wasted

Lorelei76 · 17/12/2016 10:43

I could be wrong but a lot of these posts aren't about worrying that the partner will end up in hospital but more that they might end up doing something really stupid and need a poster to collect them at 5 am!!

CurlyhairedAssassin · 17/12/2016 11:03

Doing something stupid can sometims mean ending up in hospital!

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Lookinatu · 17/12/2016 11:24

I dont think any one would like to think about there dp going to hospital but them being silly is easier to imagine.

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 17/12/2016 11:33

Oh, and LittleBallerina, no-one is saying they don't deserve a night out. I bet everyone who was worried last night has a DH/DP who has lots of form for getting appallingly drunk and putting themselves in harm's way or at risk of getting mugged etc. (Tornadeviande, thank god your DH was ok after doing that). It's not nice when you lie awake worrying to that extent (and I have a DH who works extremely irregular hours, sometimes is not contactable when he works and I just have to expect him in when he gets here, so I am well used to just getting on with stuff at home and going to bed not knowing what time he'I'll be home.)

It's the ridiculous levels of alcohol intake that is the issue. DH and his brothers all have a problem with drinking to excess on a night out. The worst one was BIL falling down a flight of stairs knocking himself out. An ambulance was called.

You know, we are not worrying for nothing.

tornadedeviande · 17/12/2016 13:58

Lorelei, I was terrified that my DH would come to harm and angry at him for putting himself in that situation, totally unnecessarily.

I feared that he would be hit by a car or maybe stop somewhere, fall asleep and freeze to death. It does happen.

I was incredibly relieved when I saw him by the roadside and he got into the car.

He doesn't normally drink often or much - this was a rare, end of work/start of holidays blow out after a long year of hard work and trying times.

ofudginghell · 19/12/2016 00:11

Well my dh missed the last train home so had a hike through the town to get to a taxi rank. Managed to get himself in a cab and get home to his mum as I was still out on my staff party.
He was fine until he tripped over the front door step and face planted the concrete
I managed to get myself home,let the dog out for a pee,make a cup of tea,unload the washing machine and turn the xmas lights out before heading to bed

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Lookinatu · 19/12/2016 10:54

That sounds painful

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ofudginghell · 19/12/2016 16:59

Yes it looks it aswell
I knew it would happen as it's not the first time he's lost sense of balance after a fair few too many
What I didn't expect was to have to clean his forehead off the front door step this morning.
He feels better today than he did yesterday. I distinctly remember us having a convo on fri evening about how he didn't want to drink too much and was going to be home way before ten as his mum had the dc since 11.30am and that he didn't want to spend Sunday feeling crap.
Well Sunday for him was a write off but I felt fine.

PerfumeAndCatsAndBooks · 19/12/2016 17:13

I'm so glad I don't drink any more

Many many years ago DH got hammered at works do and fell asleep in a toilet cubicle. The door had to be shouldered open by the MD He also managed to get locked out in a (very posh) hotel corridor completely naked and I was asleep too pissed to hear him knocking frantically on the door - but that was another night completely

Glad all these party people on thread arrived home safely!

haveacupoftea · 19/12/2016 17:52

I am so glad to read it isn't just my DP who does idiotic things like this when drunk!

CurlyhairedAssassin · 19/12/2016 18:14

I remember lying in bed with DH once in a hotel listening to a load of drunken chaos and shouting in the function room we'd just left downstairs. It was really pissing me off and I was moaning to DH about the drunken idiots downstairs getting into a fight. We went down next morning for breakfast ready to meet DH's brother and his wife who had also stayed over. No sign of the wife. BIL was missing his glasses which we thought was a bit odd. Yes, you guessed it, we found out later that it was BIL who had been the cause of all the commotion downstairs cos in his drunken state he'd tried to have a fight. Police were called I think. His wife was so pissed off that she'd got a taxi home.

It's awful what alcohol can turn people into. BIL hardly drinks at all now I hear and has become a bit of a health and fitness fanatic. Good on him. I wish I could say the same for other BIL, his excessive drinking has caused terrible marital problems.

DH knows he's a tit when he drinks so doesn't tend to drink much. Except for a blow out or 4 at Christmas. I dread it.

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