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To be worried about dh?

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Lookinatu · 16/12/2016 21:57

He is on his works christmas night out, this will be the first night out he's had in 7 years. It's a bus collection and drop off thing and he's already drunk. The last message he sent was difficult to understand. The bus is not going to collect him for 4 hours yet. He doesn't go on any night outs and has been excited about this all week just worried what state he's going to be in. I think I know everyone is going to say hes a grown man ffs it's just I don't drink so no idea what it's like. Should I just go to bed?

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Lookinatu · 16/12/2016 22:51

lore it's at 2am so won't be home until 3am. No one in his work has my number and his phone has a lock on it and I am not stored in his phone under my proper name. I do have one of his work mates numbers should I text him and give it to him?

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taptonaria27 · 16/12/2016 22:53

I'd just text him, tell him his last text was incomprehensible and suggest he drink a lot of water from now to when the bus comes

ethelb · 16/12/2016 22:55

OP seriously, chill. Im not one of the 'cool wives brigade' but Im sure it will be fine in the morning.

I have a DH who has form for being a bit awful at Xmas dos. He once had to be driven home by a colleague's mum . He was a bit vomity and remorseful the next day but he got over it!

Just go to bed and leave him to be responsible for his behaviour!

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Lookinatu · 16/12/2016 22:56

Was just worried and wanted to chat to someone I will go to bed.

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Lorelei76 · 16/12/2016 22:59

thing is you have the DC so I'd just leave it. If he ends up in the drunk tank, such is life. Is it in London? They have extra on tonight for this reason!

Theimpossiblegirl · 16/12/2016 23:17

It is worrying, I would feel exactly the same. Send a text suggesting he takes it easy, then go to bed. It's out of your hands. Good luck tomorrow, he will be no use.

messystressy · 16/12/2016 23:19

I'm in same situation. Incomprehensible text about being on a train then nothing and won't answer phone. He doesn't go out often and doesn't know his limitations. I'm just worried that something doesn't happen to him. Wish he'd answer his phone - could imagine him sleeping and ending up in Brighton. Bloody child men!

Scrumptiousbears · 16/12/2016 23:24

Leave a pint of water and some paracetamol by his bed!

Justaboy · 16/12/2016 23:28

Leave a pint of water and some paracetamol by his bed!

and a piss potty where he'll need it;!

Seriously has he got a decent mate who''ll mind him?.

Okkitokkiunga · 16/12/2016 23:33

My DH is out on his tonight as well. He however has booked a hotel and told me he "should" be home by lunchtime . Don't worry too much OP - I've had nights worrying too and he always gets home ok, is ever so affectionate telling me he loves me and how great I am then promptly falls asleep snoring in my ear breathing his stinky alcohol fumes all over me. Just as well I luffs him.

Sweet dreams - best get as much sleep S you can as pretty much guarantee he won't be helping with your little one tomo.

ohlalalalalalalala · 16/12/2016 23:36

Omg I feel your pain. My DH does stings like this and comes home in all sorts of states.
He always arrives home safe, in one piece but it's the in between that stresses me out! The broken messages and non sensical phone calls put my anxiety levels through the roof.
Last time he went out I took 2 beta blockers and a sleeping tablet and went to bed! Couldn't be arsed with all the worrying!

CurlyhairedAssassin · 16/12/2016 23:44

Another one lying awake worrying. Texted earlier to say he would be getting last train home from a city 45 mins away. Since then I've not had any replies to my text. So now I'm imagining him stranded miles from home with no way of getting home till the morning. I wouldn't mind but this is the 4th Xmas do he has had this year!

OhMrBadger · 17/12/2016 00:06

My DH has just arrived home from his work do. He's been at it since about noon. He's currently asleep on the sofa and the meaty aroma of kebab is wafting from his every pore. He managed to get himself home on the train from central London, walk back from the station, purchase said kebab and assist a cyclist who had been knocked off his bike by a car.

It beats last year where he got rat-arsed, cycled home, fell off into a bush and broke his hand.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 17/12/2016 02:47

Well mine's officially a twat. He managed to get to our city but then when he finally answered his phone said he couldn't find a bus or a taxi from there. It's an hour and a half walk and I didn't like the thought of him walking home on his own in that state (thru some dodgy roads too) so I said I'd come and get him. Apparently I was "a tit" for doing this. Left the kids asleep in bed and he knew that (kids are 13 and 10 and never wake up and are v sensible but still, would prefer not to leave them at all) Left in the car and after he put the phone down while I was trying to ask where he was he then wouldn't answer ANY calls or texts asking where he was so I just drove round and round trying to find him. No luck and I didn't want to leave the kids more than half an hour so I came back to find he'd just got in before me. Dick. It wasn't the fact I went out at 2.45 to get him that annoyed me, I would do that for anyone who couldn't get a cab. It's the lack of resoect to tell me where he was.

Pippa12 · 17/12/2016 02:58

Has he arrived home yet? I'd be concerned too. My DH and friends can get a bit carried away at stuff like that. I'm never bothered about the drunkness/night out/hang over but worry about his safety as I'm super anxious about drink related injuries (ICU nurse )

Pippa12 · 17/12/2016 03:00

Curlyhair- I'd be furious. He'd def be getting a sharp tongue at 7am 😂

Lorelei76 · 17/12/2016 03:17

Group of drunk lads just went by singing very loudly
Meh.

Pidgythe2nd · 17/12/2016 03:22

Is he home?!
I seem to worry more if DH is coming home rather than staying at a friends.
His invites to stay over reduced massively when he pissed on someone's sofa. I'm still mortified for him. This was many years ago before DC.

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Lookinatu · 17/12/2016 03:54

Hi everyone yes he arrived home at 3.30 I stopped getting any texts at 11pm. He's a sleep (out within seconds) i am up with dd as she has a cold (me too). oh and curly i know we are glad they are home but am guessing curry's urs is in more trouble than ours. Can we all update in the morning when they are awake so we can gloat about how to rough they are, and how the hoovering needed doing at the right time.

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Pippa12 · 17/12/2016 04:01

Glad he's home safely. Try and get some rest now xxx

Littleballerina · 17/12/2016 04:40

Do people really worry this much about their partners having a night out.
I love my partner dearly but he deserves his rare nights out! I wouldn't expect texts or calls. He only contacts me when he's bored stupid or wants to sing down the phone

tornadedeviande · 17/12/2016 05:54

Glad he's home safely, OP.

I've just got back from collecting my DH from his work Christmas night out, though that wasn't the plan. He was supposed to get a taxi (couple of miles) but decided to walk instead, went far off course and ended up walking at least a couple of miles the wrong way up a dual carriageway in freezing weather.

I had to get out of bed, scrape the car and collect him at 05:00. He's now fast asleep and I'm wide awake, still feeling wound up and torn between relief and anger!

pklme · 17/12/2016 06:06

Judging from some previous example, it's sensible to worry ballerina! Your DP must be on the sensible end of the spectrum. Mine is too, plus I don't think his work night out really gives potential for being truly hammered.

ToastDemon · 17/12/2016 06:14

torn you just reminded me. A colleague's DH once decided to walk home from a stag do. In Dunoon.
He lived in Glasgow.
I think there was a frantic drive involved there as well.

tornadedeviande · 17/12/2016 06:23

Blimey, Toast - I was lucky compared to that!

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