Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

I know I am, but...

31 replies

PovertyJetset · 13/12/2016 20:45

Today was my last day at work. My team got me a voucher for £30.

My boss doesn't like me (reason for leaving) and it's close to Christmas, but isn't that just a paltry amount for 10 years of service?

9 people contributed.

I feel embarrassed.

OP posts:
CherryChasingDotMuncher · 13/12/2016 20:46

I suspect that people will froth and call you entitled but personally I think YANBU. That's fairly tight. Did you have a good relationship with your colleagues?

sotiredbutworthit · 13/12/2016 20:48

I can see why you are upset. It's not the monetary value but the lack of thought behind it. But there is a reason you are leaving, forget about it and move on. Don't let it spoil whatever you are moving on to. Start again with a clean slate. Flowers

EmeliaHerveyHenryFitzroy · 13/12/2016 20:49

YANBU. Sorry OP that must sting a bit. Hopefully you can put them behind you and move on with your life. Sounds like you made the right decision to leave.

MrsHathaway · 13/12/2016 20:51

Ouch. I'd be embarrassed too.

However, it is a terrible time to ask people for money, so for each of those nine to give two or three quid isn't actually that bad.

And there's half a chance the boss blocked a collection at all.

When I left a place and the bosses were really shitty about it, they banned my colleagues from taking a collection at all, instead giving me an enormous bunch of flowers to take home on the train.

Take your £30 and buy a lot of Wine

And good bloody riddance to the lot of them.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/12/2016 20:51

Pretty meagre. Was the boss the only person you had a problem with?

RandomMess · 13/12/2016 20:52

Been there and it's just awful Sad

justinelibertine · 13/12/2016 20:52

I've never had a leaving present or a having a baby present or a getting married present. Except one job where one of the bosses felt sorry for me and bought a card and a bottle. All the staff drew dicks in the card. I am horrible!
YANBU. It sucks. But at least it's something. I'd be torn between ripping it up and posting it back to them or spending it on something nice for yourself.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/12/2016 20:54

Don't be embarrassed by the way. You're not the person who should be embarrassed.

leaveittothediva · 13/12/2016 20:54

Christ, could the tight fuckers spare it, that's awful, who'd you work for Ebenezer Scrooge. Yes, move on and good riddance. 9 years, Jeeeeezus. That's brutal.

Paulat2112 · 13/12/2016 20:55

YANBU when I left a job a few years ago I got a box of milk tray. Like the tiny ones that cost £3 or so. I was also asked to take my own good luck banners down when I was leaving that evening. 😳

Gwenci · 13/12/2016 20:58

Sorry op, that's pretty rubbish, I'd be hurt too.

And it's definitely them who should be embarrassed, not you.

Fuck 'em, you're leaving right?!

DontTouchTheMoustache · 13/12/2016 20:59

It's nearly Christmas and people are skint so don't take.it personally

SnowyWhiteChristmas · 13/12/2016 21:03

What do people usually get? Doesn't sound too bad to me.

Original poster
PovertyJetset · 13/12/2016 21:09

Last person who left got-
Bottle of fizz
Steering silver bangle
Chocolates
Glass beads
Totally value maybe £50/60

You're all correct, screw them! I have a couple of very good team mates and that is enough.

It feels so pointed- like a nasty little leaving poke!

Bastards

OP posts:
TheSnowFairy · 13/12/2016 21:11

Justine Shock

phoenix1973 · 13/12/2016 21:14

I'm sorry to hear that. It makes you feel rubbish and unappreciated. I've been there. Bunch of scumbags.
Fuck em.
Onwards and upwards, at least you're out of there now.
Good luck with the future, you deserve it.

rosegold33 · 13/12/2016 21:16

I'd leave the money and tell them to buy cakes with it - mainly to show how pitiful the amount was!!!!

DesolateWaist · 13/12/2016 21:18

What utter shits.

fledglingFTB · 13/12/2016 21:19

10 years of service is to your employer, not your colleagues. I would have expected the business to contribute the majority rather than the onus being on your colleagues, £3pp isn't a terrible amount. Particularly around Christmas. £5 would be my max personally.

Original poster
PovertyJetset · 13/12/2016 21:24

I would have expects my manager and the big boss to put in 5/10 quid and then the rest 3-5. That's what usually happens! Screw themn

OP posts:
elodie2000 · 13/12/2016 21:28

YANBU. Your employer should have given you a decent farewell gift. £30 cash is just rubbish - not thought whatsoever.
FWIW, If I was given £30 I'd be tempted to hand it back with a ' just pop it in a charity box for me would you? I Wouldn't know what to buy with it...' Grin

stripybluejumper · 13/12/2016 23:50

Hey OP... I too have been there! It's hurtful and humiliating. Nobody even acknowledged it was my last day... I had been there for years!! the card and vouchers came in the post about 3 weeks after I left. Thank heavens you are out of there!! Onwards and upwards... x

TheWitTank · 13/12/2016 23:53

YANBU. It's shit. DH left his job of 20 years in August and got the grand sum of fuck all as his boss was furious he was leaving as he couldn’t get DH to do all his work anymore.

CauliflowerSqueeze · 13/12/2016 23:58

You're the winner because you're out of that crappy place with the arse boss.

Chin up. 😉

HeddaGarbled · 14/12/2016 00:01

Honestly, I don't think £30 is bad just before Christmas. That would be top end of what we would collect where I work. When several people have been leaving about the same time or we've had a run of bereavement flowers etc, it will be less. Managers get a big send off with speeches etc, the rest of us will get a card and a bunch of flowers at the last team meeting plus will organise our own meal out if we want to.