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"I'll have one if you're having one" ARRRRRRRRGH

52 replies

Miaou · 18/02/2007 09:14

This drives me insane. It's only my parents that do it (and my dad is the worst)

Conversation goes like this:

Me: "Would you like a cuppa?"

Dad: "Well, only if you're making one."

"I've just had one, but I can make you one"

"Well, only if it's not too much trouble"

"No, that's why I am offering"

"Well I'll have what you are having"

"I'm not having one, dad" (GRRRRRRRRRR)

"well, if there's a cup in the pot I'll have one"

"We don't use the pot dad, we make it in a cup"

"Well only if you're having one then"

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bambino1 · 18/02/2007 09:25

It drives me mad too! It like
'what would you like for dinner?'
DP: 'don't mind'
So i start to make something and then he comes in,
'don't fancy that'

Well then don't say you don't mind when you obvoiusly do!!!

grannycrackers · 18/02/2007 09:25

well, i'll have one too. don't want to put you to any trouble 'though, are you sure you're making one ?

RedLorryYellowLorry · 18/02/2007 09:28

Oh your dad sounds lovely! My mum drives me insane when we visit. I'll say we've just eaten and she'll say "do you want a sandwich?" I'll say "no we've eaten" She'll say "a small one?" I'll repeat my line, she'll say "a cake?" followed by "a biscuit" and finally "are you sure?" Then she looks surprised and worried that I'm not eating - you've only got to look at me to see I don't have eating issues!! She's Irish though and I think it's cultural

Ceolas · 18/02/2007 09:34

Oh yes, RLYL! My gran used to do that all the time

Carmenere · 18/02/2007 09:34

Ah go on, sure you'll have a cup of tea Some parts of Father Ted were quite accurate

DrunkenSailor · 18/02/2007 09:34

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WanderingTrolley · 18/02/2007 09:35

RedLorryYellowLorry I'm feeling your insanity! Mrs Doyle was the most acurate portrayal of an Irish woman in modern fiction (discuss)

Miaou - two suggestions:

1)Miaou: "Would you like a cuppa?"

Miaou's dad: "Well, only if you're making one."
Miaou: "No, I'm not."

or

  1. Miaou: "Dad, here is your cup of tea" as he walks through the door.
NotQuiteCockney · 18/02/2007 09:36

I swear I am going to have to get a tshirt that says 'No really I don't drink tea. I am not refusing tea because I hate you, or think you can't make tea, or because I am angry at you, and this the only way I know to express it. I just don't bloody well like tea. No, not coffee. No, not herbal tea. I drink water. Feck off.'

Or would that be rude?

RedLorryYellowLorry · 18/02/2007 09:39

Ah go on just a small one NQC

NotQuiteCockney · 18/02/2007 09:40

Aaaargh!

Seriously, I've had friends send messages to their mothers to make sure they knew I really didn't drink tea, and I wasn't just being polite by refusing it (which is the normal reason). You lot are all freaks. How on earth did you take over most of the world when you're all always so busy offering, refusing, accepting and making pointless cups full of hot water and leaves?

DizzyBint · 18/02/2007 09:42

drives me mad. i get it both ways with PILs..when they come here and it's the same conversation each and every time, made worse by the fact i don't drink tea or coffee. then at their house they fall over themselves to provide me with an alternative beverage, when really water would do, or nothing at all. MIL fills the fridge with juices i might like, and i'm obliged to drink them all, even though i'm not thirsty..

Furball · 18/02/2007 09:43

I hate it when yu ask tea or coffee? and the reply is 'whatever you're making' gggrrrr or 'whichever is easiest'

NotQuiteCockney · 18/02/2007 09:46

My ILs have finally dropped the subject. Well, they get juice in for DH and the boys, but accept that I want water. And they make their own tea when they visit.

DizzyBint · 18/02/2007 09:49

we had some work men round for about a week building some decking for us. dh reminded me over and over..even kept texting all day long..that i had to keep offering the men teas and coffees. i told him i had offered and they had said 'only if you're having one' so i thought they weren't that bothered. he had to explain that no, i still had to keep making them and offering them. he despairs of me with my non tea and coffee drinking. when PILs have been round, and he's at work, he ALWAYS asks if i offered them a drink. ffs.

they should bring a flask.

NotQuiteCockney · 18/02/2007 09:50

Yeah, DH hassles me about offering, too. If they want it that badly, they can make it!

Thing is, when we have people around, DH has to keep offering them food or drink until they accept something. Sometimes I have to convince them to just accept something, they don't have to actually ingest it, so DH can calm down.

Blondilocks · 18/02/2007 09:54

I don't like tea either. What really annoys me is when people say "oh, you should drink it, it's nice."

Before I went to uni a friend who is a few yrs older said "if you don't drink tea then you'll miss out socialising with the people in your halls cos you won't be able to pop to their kitchen for a cup of tea." How stooopid! Never found it a problem.

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Miaou · 18/02/2007 10:01

glad it's not just me then!

That's the other part of the conversation which follows, Furball ... once we have established that he would indeed like a drink, and I ask, "Tea or coffee?"

I get "Oh, whichever is easiest"

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mawbroon · 18/02/2007 10:10

Hmm, convo with my DH often goes like this:

me- would you like some tea
dh - if you want

FFS If I want? What's that all about then?

NotQuiteCockney · 18/02/2007 10:28

Also, if I have a cold, or am really out of sorts, I will sometimes drink a tea (normally herbal, but whatever). And then people make a big fuss. Like you either have to join the weirdo tea-drinking cult and drink it 24/7, or you have to shun it and be allergic and flee if anyone offers it.

danceswithnewboots · 18/02/2007 10:31

WOW....you really have it tough girls

NotQuiteCockney · 18/02/2007 10:48

Whoops, have they renamed this section 'I have genuine earth-shattering important problems' while I wasn't looking?

danceswithnewboots · 18/02/2007 11:12

No, they've re-named it - watch out, may be hijacked by grumpy madams section

fultime · 18/02/2007 14:44

Hi to Miaou
I have been doing a search re the company choose-travel co.uk as my son and daughter in law have been told they have 'won' a holiday and I am trying to find out if this is genuine, when I did a google search your name came up as previously mentioning this company? I have tried searching Mumsnet for the thread but can't find it, was it you and what was the conversation about re this company? Hope you can help me.

Thanks

NotQuiteCockney · 18/02/2007 15:31

fultime, I'm sure I was involved in digging this up, and it turned out to be a scam. It's got an 0870 number on it, doesn't it?

NotQuiteCockney · 18/02/2007 15:34

If you google for the phone number you were given, you'll probably find out something interesting. The normal deal on these is, either:

  • you pay an admin fee
  • the travel options suck (not much choice, stupid travel times)
  • you have to pay for X days in a chosen hotel
  • you have to sit through a timeshare sales pitch (holiday club, whatever), often before getting the tickets

Actually, I think it's often several of these.