To go back to work Full time

[bluecockpony]

Currently work 3 days. We are getting by but not flush. I feel very unfulfilled in work but my kids really benefit from me being around. Interesting opportunity has arisen in new company but full time work. My daughter would not be able to attend a couple of her extra circular stuff though if I wasn't around mid week. Thoughts??

Apply.

Do it.

Get the job then request part time hours

I wouldn't sacrifice too much for the sake of a couple of extra-curricular activities. If you do get the job they may be able to continue anyway if you ask around you may find another parent of a kid who does the activity willing to do school pickup and ferry to activity venue for an appropriate babysitting fee. Or you may find a similar activity on weekends. Or it's not the end of the world if neither of those happen.

Seeing your mum going out there into the world with a fulfilling and productive career is also beneficial to children.

Is your H unreasonable for working FT?

Maybe your partner could take her to the extracurricular activities instead.

Husband works in different industry were part time isn't an option.

It was for me so I took it.

My children are still young and I wonder will I regret going back FT.

I'm going to apply and at the very least it's an excuse to update my cv.

Husa

Sorry that last post was supposed to say my husband can't do extra curricular due to his working hours. He's not unwilling, just not able

How come you're able but he's not?

Because as I explained in a previous post we work in different industries

Working in different industries does not mean you can't work part time. You can work part time in pretty much any field, so that sounds like an excuse to me.

In any case, I think you should apply for the role.

I bet 99% of people who say they can't do stuff like extra curricular running around after the kids could do it if they really wanted to

So if you work 9.30-6 and EC activity is on at 4.30 how do you propose we do it?

Hellmouth you are talking through your area since you have no information on which to assume something is an excuse or not.

*ass

I went back full time and my kids have not missed out. We do extra curricular things at weekends or if you are using an out of school club then they will get extra things there too. We've just made it work for us and yes they may do less than if I wasn't working FT but sometimes it's us parents that think they should be doing extra things rather than the kids actually being bothered about them.

How old are your DCs bluecock?

I'm probably of a different view than others who have posted until now - I worked full time from when my DS was 11 months. He's now 9 and I've gone self-employed (taking a huge pay cut in the process, around 75%) just to be able to be around for him for a couple more years whilst he still wants me around. I'd never been the school gate mum, never been able to find a way to make the extra curricular activities work. Yes, money's really tight. But for me, the years had gone so fast and I felt a bit sad that I'd always been the rushed, harassed mum who only got a couple of hours a night with her child.

I'm really sorry if this offends anyone as I know there's plenty of FT working mums who think differently, or don't have a choice, but for me I think stay at the part time role if there will still be an option of other FT roles in a couple of years when your DC are older.

That's boysnme for giving me your real experience of working full time when the kids are used to part time hours. You are probably totally right about me caring more that they would about EC activities

Thanks musing. They are 3 and 5. Your post sums up the conflict I feel. Things are genuinely tight financially and we haven't had a holiday, nor is there any prospect of one, for years. But my kids are thriving and the balance of me being around 4 full days works well. I couldn't be with them full time though.

Personally I don't want to work full time while my children are young and I'm lucky enough to have the choice.

While it's hard and boring sometimes, I feel it's worth it. They grow so fast.

I worked very very part time until mine were 11+ when I increased my hours (although not quite to full time). My career had been stifled by 13 years of part time working. In retrospect, I'd increase my hours sooner. Also, I know plenty of children where both parents do at least 30h per week and they're perfectly fine.

There is no doubt that I'm stalling my career working part time. I've been studying in my spare time and have recently archived a fairly prestigious qualification that is very rare in my field. Hmmm I'm leaning towards staying part time for the time being

Do it! especially for your daughter. both my parents worked full time, and while i probably missed some extracurricular stuff, i was always proud to have an independent mother with a carrier!

career that is (silly phone).
brw, working fulltime with baby and reception age child now ;)