To go back to work Full time

[bluecockpony]

Currently work 3 days. We are getting by but not flush. I feel very unfulfilled in work but my kids really benefit from me being around. Interesting opportunity has arisen in new company but full time work. My daughter would not be able to attend a couple of her extra circular stuff though if I wasn't around mid week. Thoughts??

You've got nothing to lose by just applying. Well done on achieving your qualification (whatever it is - no mean feat with working and two DC!)

My ds has just turned 4 and I've just gone to full time work after struggling to get by on part time hours and in all honesty I think it's been harder for me than it has for him. I'm really struggling but currently only training for role so commuting everyday and working 9-5 hours whereas when I start properly I'll be doing shifts which I think I will find easier and a much less commute.

It has been a very hard 2 weeks for me but like I say he's been fine. Also not sure when your 3 year old is 4 but my ds starts school in September so I know i won't see him so much then either. I wish they'd be little for longer

Apply and figure it out afterwards. You can use holidays to spend some extra time with your dc (not just big holidays, but the odd day here and there as a treat) and once you're in the door there might be a chance of flexible working so you can fit in your dd's extra curricular stuff.

I'm working ft with an 11 month old (went back 2 months ago, pt isn't an option for me) so I guess I'll always be the busy mum with only evenings and weekends, but I'll also have (hopefully) career progression and a great example to set my son and any other future children. You've spent some of the most important early years with your dc so have already laid some brilliant foundations there

Gpod luck whatever you decide.

Depends. I work 3 days a wk with 3dc. Dh works away. I need couple days in the wk to get homework done tbh. Work days are just rushed. Home after 6, trying to get dinner, hw complete then bed by 8. It's hectic. Id struggle working ft

I imagine hard whatever you decide but I was struck by the fact that you have got a "prestigious qualification, rare in your field". If the new job means using it , I'd definitely go for it - qualifications are usually not worth much if achieved and then left to gather dust. It also is an indicator of you wanting to progress and develop. If it's a good opportunity, try it, go for it. If in a year u change your mind, you can reduce or play with your hours a little maybe.
Applying doesn't mean you've made a decision... It means you haven't closed the door on the opportunity. You can change your mind at any point.

I was offered option of ft recently as I said id go back ft when mine all hit school but iv turned it down. I have flexibility at moment to go to all their schools things and fun stuff daft stuff like the park after school

to be honest unless you need to for finance sake i would not nobody thought on there death bed i wish i had worked more hours plenty probably i wish i had more time with my kids . part time gives the best of both worlds .they wont always be small but there will be other jobs this is only my personal opinion

Thanks all. I genuinely appreciate the input. I wrote his aibu as I didn't, and still don't really know if I'm being unreasonable.

Lots of food for tho

Lots of food for thought. I'm going to sleep on it.

Going from pt to ft was like a shot in the arm for my career, not just from an advancement perspective but a motivational one too. You say you are unfulfilled in your pt job. I can understand that - I was bored rigid in mine. Going back ft and being able to run with the wolves using my skills at the top of my game is so worth it.

There will definitely be more juggling. My advice, if you cannot go pt down the road is to ask to be able to work flexibly and from home at least once a week. On my day from home, I am able to fit in errands, doctor's appointments, haircuts, school plays etc. Family life can still carry on without having to take too much of a back seat. The extra cash can buy you a cleaner.

If you worked ft could you afford a Nanny? If so they can take the dc to their extra curricular stuff.