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AIBU?

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Original poster

To just serve the bloody turkey

34 replies

BrightonBelleCat · 12/12/2016 21:50

Have my mum and stepfather over for Christmas dinner. Have purchased turkey he is living in the freezer.

Mum calls up yesterday to cut a long story short she was charged with finding out what is for dinner 'only she hopes it isn't turkey because stepfather doesn't like it'

Well it is bloody turkey. Not one offer of bringing anything else just he doesn't like it. Like a statement rather than a request or question.

We aren't very well off the days, I don't really want to buy another meat.

So AIBU to just serve the bloody turkey?

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MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 12/12/2016 22:14

Nope. Cheeky buggers.

Hope it's lovely.

c3pu · 12/12/2016 22:18

It's Christmas, what were they expecting?

Tell her yes it's turkey, but if she'd like to provide something else for everyone to eat then she is more than welcome to drop it round beforehand.

DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease · 12/12/2016 22:19

Yanbu, it's only a preference not an allergy - he can have a small slice and enjoy the veg instead.

NiceFalafels · 12/12/2016 22:25

Text them and say you've already bought the turkey but you won't be offended if he wants to bring an alternative for himself.

What a dick though.

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BrightonBelleCat · 12/12/2016 22:31

I told her it was turkey. She didn't say anything just said oh well X doesn't like it.

Have told dp to watch my alcohol intake on Xmas day.

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BrightonBelleCat · 12/12/2016 22:32

I did passive aggressively mention the turkey was good enough for Christmas dinner when I lived at home, but that bit got ignored.

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MaryPoppinsPenguins · 12/12/2016 22:33

I'd just say 'yes, I've bought turkey but you can bring a meat too? It would be great to have two!'

We have three! 😂

Weedsnseeds1 · 12/12/2016 22:36

I'd just buy him a nice bit of cow heel, or maybe do a stuffed ox heart as an alternative? It's Christmas and if he doesn't like turkey, it's only polite to offer an alternative, it's what any good hostess would do. Both cheap so won't break the bank.

Bluntness100 · 12/12/2016 22:39

That's just being difficult and quite rude. He should just eat the turkey. Can you just do him a chicken Kiev or a couple of sausages in the oven or something? I would not go out my way, I'd just buy something I can bung from frozen into the oven for him. Everyone else can have the turkey.

itsbetterthanabox · 12/12/2016 22:39

Did she know you'd already bought it? That is relevant.
Anyway say you have and ask them to bring something else with them if they'd like something different. It doesn't need to be a big deal or anything to get offended over.

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BrightonBelleCat · 12/12/2016 22:43

She knew once I told her and still said he doesn't like it. Perhaps my hatred of him is clouding my judgement. perhaps ill offer him a veggie option I'm sure he would sooner eat the turkey.

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Vanillamanilla1 · 12/12/2016 22:44

Just give him the rest minus the turkey

BaggyCheeks · 12/12/2016 22:44

I'd really hope your turkey wasn't living in your freezer Xmas Grin

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 12/12/2016 22:45

Just give him a couple of extra pigs in blankets instead and then look all innocent and say you thought he didn't want any Christmas turkey?

Vanillamanilla1 · 12/12/2016 22:45

Failing that I'm sure she can rustle up a chicken breast or something can't she all cooked and sliced ready for the plate

QueenArseClangers · 12/12/2016 22:47

Just ask her what he's going to bring to the meal instead?
Is he a right twat then?

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BrightonBelleCat · 12/12/2016 22:49

He is horrible. God I can't stand him. Hence my stark warning to DP to watch alcohol intake. I fear terry the turkey may get flung at him while I cry drunkenly about how my parents should be together.

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Sparlklesilverglitter · 12/12/2016 22:52

If your step dad doesn't want turkey at the Christmas you are hosting even though you had turkey when living at home, his welcome to find somewhere else to go! Or bring his own meat of choice

Cook the turkey plate it up and he can eat it or just eat the trimmings

Why are people so blooming rude?

🍷 Extra large one OP your going to need it

TotalConfucius · 12/12/2016 22:53

My BIL doesn't like turkey so he always bought a very grand joint of beef, and cooked it on Xmas eve. He'd put it on an ovenproof platter covered with foil and bring it with him on Xmas Day (leaving some at home for sandwiches), give it a little spray of water or weak stock, then pop it into the top oven at my house. It was always fine.
Then they'd take a little turkey home for dsis's sandwiches, leave us enough beef and turkey for sandwiches. Win, win.
There was never any question of us buying or cooking the beef though. I think this started about 20 years ago. They would always want to contribute financially to the meal anyway. Sometimes we'd quarrel, especially when my DSis gave me a year's worth of club card vouchers towards 'the Xmas shop'.
However, being the daring young things we all are, we are having Xmas dinner 'out out' this year. And panicking about not having sandwiches at midnight!

Ethylred · 12/12/2016 23:06

(1) Buy extra Brussels sprouts.

(2) Undercook them.

(3) Fire them at him with catapult.

Pumpkintopf · 12/12/2016 23:07

Agree with pp who have said tell him he's welcome to bring another meat if he wishes!

Onthestairsagain · 12/12/2016 23:09

No one likes Turkey... Its just dry chicken!!! But its Christmas so he will have to suffer it like everyone else!

AgnesBrownsCat · 12/12/2016 23:09

Serve the turkey. He can do without. What a prat!
I wouldn't even suggest another meat tbh.

MsMarple · 12/12/2016 23:15

Maybe build him an artistic holly-topped tower of chicken nuggets Wink ?

YelloDraw · 12/12/2016 23:17

I'd just do a few saussages in with the pigs and blankets, low effort and you can't be accused of being a cow. Buy the nastiest saussages you can find if you don't like him,