To just serve the bloody turkey

[BrightonBelleCat]

Have my mum and stepfather over for Christmas dinner. Have purchased turkey he is living in the freezer.

Mum calls up yesterday to cut a long story short she was charged with finding out what is for dinner 'only she hopes it isn't turkey because stepfather doesn't like it'

Well it is bloody turkey. Not one offer of bringing anything else just he doesn't like it. Like a statement rather than a request or question.

We aren't very well off the days, I don't really want to buy another meat.

So AIBU to just serve the bloody turkey?

What a dick. It's Christmas. Turkey is traditional and how rude to try to dictate what you are served in someone else's house!

Funny, this is completely opposite from another thread on here today, where everyone was 100% in agreement that hosts should cater for their guests tastes (in that case the guest was a vegetarian).

Interesting how everyone just backs up the OP. Basically the same question asked from opposite sides. On both threads, everyone has agreed with the OP's pov.

I think it's a pain in the bum if anyone doesn't like turkey, but ultimately, if you know a person doesn't like something you are serving, then you make something they will like - just for them, as the rest of you will be having traditional Christmas dinner. I can't think of anything more miserable than only being offered something I didn't like if going to someone's house for the day, especially if they were pre-warned.

It's the difference between not liking something and not being able to eat it for ethical reasons. Also the OP has only just been told about this dislike and there seems to be an expectation that she buy more meat.

Send him to mine. My mil doesn't eat turkey, ds not fussed for it. She's having beef,, ds having chicken & rest of us turkey. Get him something that's on offer at the supermarket,a bit of pork, he'll love you for your efforts.

I would suggest they bring a contribution if you can't afford to buy another meat. They really should have mentioned this before as most people have bought/ordered their Christmas meat before now.
In my case, I also wouldn't have oven space for another meat, I'm panicking about how to cook just the turkey and veg!
I do think it rude for you to not at least try to cater for him as you've been warned.

We do a Gammon joint along with Turkey and have both.
We all like Turkey and Gammon, but we don't cook the turkey into a dry tasteless mess.

I've never understood serving just Turkey as meat, I'm not in the UK and we always serve a ham on the bone as well, along with the meat (rarely a Turkey, often roast pork or lamb).

Surely you can offer some alternative? Even if it was just a couple of pork chops etc, it's a bit grim only eating vegetables for Christmas dinner. (unless your veggie obviously). Or he can supply the meat and can put it in the oven when he arrives (or pre cook).

I went through a phase of 'not liking' turkey as a teen - though it was more finding it boring than active dislike. I just had all the trimmings (surely the best part) and was fine. Tbh I'd be a bit worried about your mum. Sounds like step-dad may have been pressuring her about getting his own way and she's anxious about it as a result. My brother had a gf like that once - he was always terrified if things weren't exactly to her liking as she'd take it out on him with sulking and stonewalling.