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AIBU?

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To give my toddler breakfast upstairs?

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Primaryteach87 · 12/12/2016 05:22

I have two under two and my husband has a new job which means he will be out of the house v early.
At the moment we take it in turns to get ready i.e. DH gets DC1 up & dressed whilst I shower & get dressed, then I get DC2 dressed & both have breakfast whilst DH gets ready. That won't work now.

So, I'm wondering if I should let DC1 eat his breakfast at a little table in his room whilst I have a shower with the baby. They are next door rooms and If I keep the door open I can hear well.

Is this a terrible plan or would it work? DC1 is too young to be left downstairs watch tv and can't manage the stairs by himself...

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user1477282676 · 12/12/2016 05:26

The question is...do both you and DH work? If so then YANBU. Do whatever makes it easier.

If not...YABU. DC 1 can wait ten minutes for his breakfast till your shower is over.

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Primaryteach87 · 12/12/2016 05:40

I'm on maternity leave atm but will be going back so want a routine that works smoothly when we're trying to get out the door by 7ish.

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RubyRoseViolet · 12/12/2016 05:43

Do whatever makes life easiest. Your child will probably think it's great fun!

BathshebaSnowflakeStone · 12/12/2016 05:46

YANBU. The only rules are your own.

lightcola · 12/12/2016 05:48

I don't see a problem with it at all. As long as the bedroom is safe and you keep the bathroom door open.

Alorsmum · 12/12/2016 05:50

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ALongTimeComing · 12/12/2016 05:50

Does the toddler need breakfast? Are they going to a childcare that supplies breakfast so they could have a quick snack to tide them over before they get there- something like a banana or fruit bar and some water?

pinkhorse · 12/12/2016 05:50

I'd worry about choking. I don't let my 6 year old eat when I'm not in the same room as him!

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Primaryteach87 · 12/12/2016 05:52

I am going to be travelling to the childminder (near my workplace) so will be too long to wait (through knowing my child he will probably happily eat again by that time!)

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user1477282676 · 12/12/2016 05:53

I would also worry a bit about choking....so I would pop the toddler in the shower with me and the baby! Or I would have a shower at night and not have one in the morning....that's how I did it in fact...but then I'm a bit of a manky old hippie.

I used to just have a bit of a wash where it matters.

RubyRoseViolet · 12/12/2016 05:57

Oh crumbs, I hadn't read that the dc was under 2. No, I wouldn't then. I think that's too young to be left eating on their own.

Mummyoflittledragon · 12/12/2016 05:58

Do whatever suits you. I'm sure many parents give their children a snack and drink on the way to the childminder if it's a long drive so that's another option.

Mummyoflittledragon · 12/12/2016 06:01

Oh I didn't see two under two either. I'd go for the easy to eat snack in the car or shower in the evening.

ItsRainingDeer · 12/12/2016 06:09

No, I wouldn't do that personally. The mess! Milk/cereal or crumbs to clear up would take more time than waiting and eating when I could watch mine. When you say have a shower with the baby, you just mean with the baby in the same room, right, not that the baby is in the shower too? Honestly, I think getting up 10 minutes earlier so you can be dressed and downstairs to breakfast both is easier, and what I did when I worked.

I would say if your DC is too young to be left alone to watch tv for 5 minutes, then DC is too young to eat unsupervised.

MumsGoneToIceland · 12/12/2016 06:10

I would worry about choking too plus seems v time consuming to set up breakfast upstairs and clear up the mess.

I would get myself up first before the children are up if possible and then could focus on getting toddler and baby ready or if not possible, let the toddler play whilst you get yourself and baby ready then get toddler ready and do breakfast together downstairs afterwards.

Nicknameofawesome · 12/12/2016 06:11

I would let a 2 year old play in a safe room within earshot for 5 mins whilst I showered but I would not give the food. The choking risk is very high at that age. You need to eat a quick breakfast together. It's far too risky to save 5-10 mins imo.

HearTheThunderRoar · 12/12/2016 06:14

Not a toddler, think of the mess etc and not to mention the chocking aspect, he's just a bit too young atm.

My DD's bedroom is right next to the kitchen and I use to bring her breakfast in bed when she was younger (6ish) for convenience, however I could trust her not to make a mess.

MumsGoneToIceland · 12/12/2016 06:16

Xposted with itsraining 😊

fruitpastille · 12/12/2016 06:42

Just give milk then cm can do breakfast. How long is the journey? You could always give a little tub of dry cereal/raisins in the car if they are grumpy?

What time does dh leave? I don't worry about breakfast but always have half hour to myself to get showered etc before my dh leaves even if it means getting up earlier than I would like.

ErnesttheBavarian · 12/12/2016 07:16

my dd is 8 and unless under direct observation and constant barking she dithers off and does god-knows-what, meaning in 40 minutes she could still be in her pjs and not done anything. Mornings are hell.

My latest trick is for her to sit and eat her porridge on the bathroom floor while I shower. She thinks it's hilarious. She eats, I get ready. Perfect solution.

go for it.

QuilliamCakespeare · 12/12/2016 07:26

I wouldn't let a toddler eat unattended - choking can be silent and with the shower going too you wouldn't necessarily hear any noise anyway. My toddler hangs out in the bathroom with me or watches some TV while I shower usually. Could you do that?

pklme · 12/12/2016 07:45

A carton of milk or juice in the car. A tub of reasonably ok cereal to nibble dry. A pot with cubes of cheese and ham, or a marmite sandwich. A banana.

Don't give food while you are in the shower- possibility of choking, but also of food lurking in the bedroom and turning up a week later... Ew!

HardLightHologram · 12/12/2016 07:48

You need brioche! Let DC1 have a brioche or two and a cup of milk (with a lid) in the car on the way.

blahblahblah2000 · 12/12/2016 07:50

If u have room I'd set up the high chair in bathroom so you can supervise while you shower.

shrunkenhead · 12/12/2016 08:20

I'd get up an hour earlier to shower/get myself ready or have shower before bed (not ideal but it won't be forever and they'll be safe to entertain themselves downstairs alone once they're 5 or 6 - possibly sooner if you're not as paranoid as me thinking dd might try to Toast her fingers or boil the kettle!)

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