AIBU to be irritated by people posting lovely photos on FB with a negative attention seeking comment about their appearance!!

[Dizzybintess]

I have noticed this more and more where people will post a lovely picture of themselves with a comment saying "don't know about this one I might delete it as I look awful" Or saying they look fat when they blatantly have less fat than a ryvita!
If you post a bloody selfie, commit to it people!
I find a lot of teens tend to do this and I assume it's their way of gaining approval or confidence.

One of many reasons I can't deal with FB anymore.

I do guides and have a lot of my old guides in their late teens as friends.
Any of the quieter less confident ones, I tend to comment on with a nice compliment (without using the word Hun!) these rarely tend to disparage themselves, they will just post a pic x
The ones who have 400 people replying saying you look fit AF Hun! I tend not to as it's blatantly for attention.

This irritates the crap out of me. A friends 25 year old dd puts so many 'oh I'm fat' posing photos in bikinis on in her toned sized 8 figure, I have genuinely started to dislike her. Attention seeking bores me, its why I came off Facebook

People don't do that on my newsfeed

They get deleted if they do. It's lovely :)

That's teenagers for you!

YANBU however id try and feel a bit sorry for people. Sometimes there are people who have genuinely low self esteem who need a lot of reassurance. I have one friend who ALWAYS comments under every pic of her with something negative, even pics that i have taken, sometimes she used to ask me to take the odd one down. I would take down a photo if it were just her but these would be group shots where there was absolutely nothing wrong with her appearance! I know she struggles a lot with self image tho so i try and not get annoyed about it even tho it is draining to read someone who is very attractive going on about how awful they look.

Teens doing it is one thing. Underneath that often tough exterior. They're insecure and need not want constant reasurrance. You can't compare them to fully grown mature women.

Nope. I've pulled my teen DD for this attention seeking behaviour several times

I think it's a sign that people have low self esteem so instead of getting annoyed, try thinking about that and send a kind message their way instead.

My 14 year old neice does this. No adults I know do thankfully.

Oh, Gawd, this drives me mad. WHY can't people take a compliment?! They'll post a picture which is genuinely lovely, and I'll say something like "aw, nice photo, love your dress."
They'll comment back "my nose looks big/I look tired out/fat."
Just why?! Take the compliment!
Same in RL. "Love your dress." Reply - "Nah, it makes me look frumpy."
Shut up already! People generally compliment you for a reason.

Attention seeing drama llamas was the reason for me quitting FB. Prefer twitter. No one inRL knows who I am on twitter and I just use it to keep up with news hobbies and interests etc

I don't comment when my friends do this, but it doesn't go unnoticed. I'll suffer it when I know the person well and can be more understanding about those with self esteem issues, but more distant acquaintances often find themselves muted if it's a regular thing. The same goes for those "some people should know better " / "what's up Hun? Inbox me!" Type posts which send me demented.

That's what I call vaguebooking! It's nothing but self serving attention seeking nonsense!
Sadly I have quite a few adult friends who do the "oooh look I'm so ugly twaddle"

Its not fb its your friends. I have NEVER seen what you describe.

I'm so sick of seeing things like this that I agree with them now: for example I have a cousin who is 6ft and probably not much more than 9 stone, yet she's always posting pics of her slender self and saying how she 'needs to start a diet because the fat is becoming too much to handle'.
She does this maybe 2-3 times a month and every time everyone comments how beautiful she is and not to be daft as she's already very slim. I instead now pipe up occasionally with 'yeah I see what you mean, perhaps try X diet or Y workout'

Agree it's your friends, not FB. I only have 1 person who really does this so it's easy to ignore tho I do post stuff about female empowerment which shouldn't only focus on but can include feeling positive about your own appearance.

I have a FB who does this constantly, not just her own selfies but other seemingly self deprecating statements that she is clearly needing validation for eg a picture of her dc playing with homemade play dough and the caption "feel so guilty today as I only made play dough rather than the usual x y z amount of things for sensory play #lazymumma" I don't comment at all, but I do wonder if the 20 people who constantly provide compliments and reassurance cannot see it for what it is.

I often see the opposite - someone pretty plastered with beige, red and black, wearing a godawful ugly outfit and ridiculous shoes and pulling a fish face. And all the comments are 'beautiful girl' when the accurate reaction is ' has the lightbulb gone in the bedroom? '

The ones who have 400 people replying saying you look fit AF Hun! I tend not to as it's blatantly for attention.

Bit mean, don't you think, to compliment the kids you like and ignore the ones you don't?

The people I know who do this are usually horribly insecure about their bodies or their parenting and anxious for validation that they are doing ok and aren't circus freaks.

I have a cousin who is 6ft and probably not much more than 9 stone, yet she's always posting pics of her slender self and saying how she 'needs to start a diet because the fat is becoming too much to handle'.... I instead now pipe up occasionally with 'yeah I see what you mean, perhaps try X diet or Y workout'

That's horrible, it's much better to just ignore it, you're making yourself look bad there

for example I have a cousin who is 6ft and probably not much more than 9 stone, yet she's always posting pics of her slender self and saying how she 'needs to start a diet because the fat is becoming too much to handle'.
She does this maybe 2-3 times a month and every time everyone comments how beautiful she is and not to be daft as she's already very slim. I instead now pipe up occasionally with 'yeah I see what you mean, perhaps try X diet or Y workout'

Does she possibly having an eating disorder or body dysmorphia?

I've never seen this on FB either.

I do have a friend who is unapologetically a "social media narcissistic" and he's very funny and witty in his self admiration when he gets a good photo of himself. I guess it's his way of kind of disseminating the pressure to look a certain way that he may feel.