For the past 12 years we have visited mil and sfil on Boxing Day. This is because she visits friends on Xmas day and we enjoy a relaxing day home with the dcs. We visit my parents and fil and smil on Xmas eve as they live close to each other and kills 2 birds with one stone.
This year mil friends are going on holiday for Xmas so she asked if we could go to hers Xmas eve and stay over and do Xmas day with them. I said no. We always see my parents and fil then relax at home, I want my kids to sleep at home and I like chilling in Xmas day.
Mil is furious! She gave us the whole guilt trip how she does lots for dcs (she does) and we are leaving her to sit alone on Xmas day (sfil and bil will be there). She made DH feel really guilty until he agreed.
My parent and fil are really easy going and said they don't mind when we see then as long as we do. Dcs aren't bothered and would prefer to stay home all Xmas
Aibu to feel pissed off? I want to stay home Xmas day and feel that just because her friends have changed plans she's being a cow!